Although this post touches on a well-worn and widely disparaged topic (nonresponsive pros), I hope it's non-whiny and practical enough that people will find it's worth having around.
When I first began seeing pro cuddlers in early 2019, it was really easy, and that was the main appeal. I'd message someone, book an appointment, and she'd show up. Although I had always had a reasonable amount of success with women prior to finding cuddling, it was really great to be able to meet new women and have their full attention without having to jump through the tedious hoops men often have to go through in the dating market.
At some point the pro cuddling outlook started to change. Pros stopped responding to messages. No-shows and last-minute cancellations had always been an occasional annoyance but eventually became the norm. In other words, seeing pro cuddlers started to look a lot more like dating.
The latest thing I'm finding is that even cuddlers whom I've seen before and have a good, established relationship with don't respond.
At this point I am fairly certain that the majority of pro cuddlers in California, even just limiting to those who log in multiple times each week, are not actually actively cuddling.
It would be easy to attribute the change to the coronavirus. However, while I'm sure the coronavirus has had some effect, really things started to change before the coronavirus showed up.
(Although my perception is that this is a new problem, you can actually find very old posts on the forum complaining about the difficulty of booking pros, like this one.)
Anyway, what I'm looking for are people's thoughts on practical strategies or mental approaches for seeing pros nowadays. I'm not really looking for a bunch of people trying to vent and commiserate with each other; there have been plenty of threads like that.
Here are some options I've thought about:
Quit cuddling. I am honestly not sure it's worth the time and frustration right now. Maybe come back in a few months and see if things have changed.
Find one decent reliable pro and then stop messaging other people. I actually have done this in the recent past, but it's sort of contrary to what appealed to me about cuddling in the first place.
Adopt practical strategies to mitigate the annoyance and increase the likelihood of finding a cuddle. For instance, I sometimes message 8 or so cuddlers at once, knowing that probably at least 1-2 will respond. It seems there are natural limits to this approach though. If you're living in a single location, before long you've messaged everyone in your area you're interested in cuddling.
What are your thoughts?