Jealousy and fear of the unknown are all reasonable feelings that strike when you tell someone you love, "Hey baby. I cuddle with strangers. Mostly men. A lot of them."
What would you say as a professional cuddler to assure your partner that your sessions are completely platonic? Undoubtedly, a level of physical attraction is a factor when clients pick from a pool of cuddlers, so sometimes I feel insecure about my role as a touch therapist. Is it just my gendered appearance (young female)? Or am I helping? Do these questions bleed into each other?
I can't blame boyfriends or girlfriends for feeling doubt or fear. Sessions in truth are platonic but they are deeply intimate, because two people are enmeshed in vulnerability and can replicate a symbiotic child-mother state. Would this count as cheating? There are too many unknown variables. How to relieve our partner's fear for our safety? How to validate it further as a legitimate therapeutic service?
Answers, please! Very curious to know if any professional cuddlers here even have romantic partners! I understand many of us are polyamorous and asexual, but haven't heard from too many with boyfriends or girlfriends. Very interesting.
Hugs,
Anna