Professionals male cuddlers

In my search option I can only select up to a 300 mile radius. Due to the limited amount of male professionals in the world, would this website be willing to open up the mileage to worldwide for professional male cuddlers? @Mark

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  • It would be so nice to pick vacation destinations based on where a professional cuddler may live. It’s nice to have a little bit of companionship when traveling

  • edited January 2021

    @Importance keep in mind that many people men and women alike join as a pro for various reasons . it doesn't mean that they are any better or worse than a non pro, only means they are allowed to accept cash per site TOS. So you may want to not focus on someone being a pro, but rather just trying to find someone you click with and would like to meet . I have heard several things about some Male pros on here that would make you think twice about cuddling with them, much less paying them a fee....

  • I have only been able to find a total of two male professionals on this website.

  • edited January 2021

    @Importance One of the distance options (at the very top of the list) is "Any", which includes the whole world ...

    There seem to be 171 active male professionals:

    151 in the US (27 in California, 18 in Texas, 18 in Florida, 13 in New York, 8 in Georgia ...)
    11 in Australia
    5 in Canada
    2 in England
    1 in Germany
    1 in Italy

  • @respectful thank you!!! This completely answers my question!

  • Oh wow!! You have no idea how wonderful that made me feel to be able to go cuddle shopping! Every man is over a thousand miles away from me. But that was still amazing. I favorited quite a few profiles! I’m so happy. I wish I would’ve known how to do this sooner. It’s like a relief lifted off my shoulders.

    Thank you again, @respectful

  • @importance That's great! I'm familiar with "cuddle shopping" ... so many awsome professionals out there I'd love to cuddle with if it was possible.

  • @Importance ~ I'd like to second what @pmvines said in his comment!!! Personal experience speaking. There is nothing at all one has to do to get a "Pro" designation other than apply and pay a nominal fee. And one that I know of personally, pushed all sorts of boundaries (as an enthusiast), was reported to the site, but is still here ~ Only now he's here as a "Pro"!!

    He's only one though. There are few here that have all sorts of glowing recommendations/karma. Either way, hopefully you've developed your own vetting process and know to trust your gut too! 🤗

  • edited January 2021

    @quixotic_life I just want to feel the same privilege that a man feels to be able to have someone focus cuddling time on me and my needs. I don’t expect it to be perfect. I just want to be able to not feel like I am working for once. I might just be paying for my own peace of mind to let my guard down and be nurtured.

    I feel like I’ve worked for men my entire life. And I have. I’m tired. I need rest. I need a safe place to be held and nurtured. I need care. I need a place to cry. I’m just so tired.

  • I understand. I really do. Just reiterating to be careful.

    I wonder if you're allowed to ask for recommendations from the community? Like for those who have had good experiences to PM you their names??

  • edited January 2021

    I guess I could go read reviews. It doesn’t really seem to matter. They are all so far away and I’m in lock down with sick elderly parents to attend to. It doesn’t really matter anyway.

    I’m not worried about my safety. Not in a self destructive way. I’ve just always been a good judge of male character and I’m a fighter. But I would research first if I ever had the chance to pay for cuddles. (God, I hate that I felt the need to defend myself. That really sucked. That is such a girl thing to do. Worry about the opinions of others.)

    Paying for cuddles without worry of making sure the other persons needs were met, It just sounds like what I need.

  • edited January 2021

    I haven’t even come close to finding someone who makes me feel safe and lives close to me yet. Maybe I’m too fussy anyway. I feel like everyday I search and I just end up fending off unwanted sexual advances or the other extreme of finding men that selfishly just want their needs met to the disregard of mine.

    I was very recently speaking to a nice man and explaining the way I wanted to be held. He wanted to be held the same way. He wasn’t willing to compromise and hold me for a while and then I could reciprocate and hold him. Once again I felt like if I met him and cuddled that I would just be there for his fulfillment.

    I don’t find this to be easy here at all. And I don’t understand why I am being cautioned (actually I believe that you both care) about wanting to pay for someone to take care of me for a change.

  • Anyway... enough about all of this hubbub. At least for me.

  • @Importance - I agree that cuddling should not be a selfish activity and that it needs to be both give and take. I really hope you find what you're looking for. You might want to consider expanding your area to at least to Denver. If you're only willing to meet up with somebody who lives in Longmont, you are severely limiting your options. It's just a suggestion. Take care.

  • edited January 2021

    Mike, I know that you are right that I am limiting my options by trying to find someone local. There is a story behind this. The first year that I was on this website I drove all over Denver for cuddles. I would buy dinner and bring it to the men so that we could enjoy a meal together while getting to know each other before cuddling. No one ever offered to help me with the cost of gas or the food. I feel like I did most of the heavy work so to speak. Every single man ghosted me. I’m tired of driving. I’m tired of buying. It just hasn’t worked out so I’m being protective of my heart, my time, my energy.

    I know right now that I am very myopic. I will try to change this. I just keep seeing things that remind me that men are willing to use me and take whatever I am willing to give. Maybe I just need a break from it all.

    Edit: I want to add a bit more to this so that you can understand. I’ve driven to Highlands Ranch, Parker, Littleton, downtown Denver, golden, Genesee, Boulder, Fort Collins, Erie, Lakewood, Westminster, lowery, etc... it’s just hasn’t worked out for me. I’m a quirky girl that doesn’t fit the norm. I’m definitely not a Hallmark girl. One of the guys told me that he wished that I was a Hallmark girl. Now I refuse to watch Hallmark because of the insensitive comment that was made towards me. I’m weird, I get it.

    I’m just tired. I just want something simple and easy. I thought that paying for someone to hold me twice a month would just be easier. I’m already spending 100 bucks plus every time I go out to meet someone. Why not just pay them to be my friend?

    I already know the answer to this. You can’t buy your friends. I just wanted things to be easy. They never are.

  • I just counted 78 male cuddlers worldwide that have been on this website in the last week. 🦍🦍🦍

  • edited January 2021

    @Importance - Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry that it hasn't worked out for you. I hope you meet somebody who will respect you and not take things for granted. Like I mention, it needs to be both give and take for any type of a relationship (platonic or otherwise) to work.

  • Hi Friends :) I'm a professional male cuddler based in NYC! If you're looking for a good male cuddler, I'm here! I can host or travel.

  • Welcome, @totally_tyler. Have a read around the forum, you will find some good advice for professional cuddlers.

  • Thanks for the warm welcome @CuddleDuncan !

  • Hello there! I'm a new male Pro Cuddler based in GA. Travel isn't an issue for me. I read through this thread before replying. Looks like some bad eggs have caused some issues in the past. I hope things have improved since this thread started. I hope I can help others feel safe in my presence as I don't wish to make anyone uncomfortable in any way.

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