Say for example you gave a better karma to a new cuddle buddy, or you hired a pro with a higher rate .
Wow does this happens? lol
Oh yes
@Sheena123 I’m all ears ☺️
I mean... it’s a perfectly natural thing to FEEL, right? Everybody wants to be appreciated for what they do....
It’s how the jealous party acts on those feelings that is really the measure of character, right?
Excuse me a moment....
-sounds of pouting, stomping, and light cursing-
I mean, it’s about professionalism, right?
i'm jealous of @BellaSera memory of song lyrics
I'm jealous of you @OhioMike because , well, you are freakin @OhioMike !
@pmvines ,where were you when I needed a username? : FreakinOhioMike ! That's dang perfect
@BellaSera I see you are coming back to KC. 😉
I'm sure it happens often, jealousy is a typical human response. Fun fact, most pros are human! lol
Mature people will see it as not being personal. Most others will probably shift their mindset to begin healing after internalizing a little. But the bad eggs will act on those feelings like Bella pointed out, or let it change their attitudes permanently.
@OhioMike, I got my PhD in memorizing things other people try to forget!
@FunCartel, I’m in the scouting phase as long as the weather holds...
True @BellaSera , it just seemed like they would be jealous at something more than just being appreciated , you imagine ??? “Their karma was better than mines 🥺” lol but I get it .... but wow that takes a lot of work to try & find people they have left karmas for ... at that point it seems like they are emotionally invested? Maybe I’m wrong ....
By the way I couldn’t help but peek & look at your profile !!! You have amazing karmas & many repeats !!! Says a lot about you ☺️
@introvme it happens a lot and in many different ways. I have quite a few cuddlers that ask quite often “I’m your fave still right?” “Am I the best at hand holding?” “I get first dibs at booking you” “Your husband is so lucky” “I wish I had a gf like you”
They’re jealous I see others, jealous of my hubby, jealous even of my life (being able to travel and be a snowbird)
It’s just a natural feeling. Same as me feeling jealous about others. My brother and his wife perform music for a living. I’m jealous of that. My mom gives my other siblings a bit more attention. I’m jealous of that. My husband has so much more patience than I do. I’m jealous of that.
So even though I have cuddlers who are jealous of other cuddlers, I understand it’s just a normal feeling.
@OhioMike its never too late to change it...
@Sheena123 thank you : ) just to be clear I’m not dismissing jealousy as a natural feeling , I was wondering & meant it exactly how the heading is posted “ Any jealousy happening from your past cuddle buddy? Say for example you gave a better karma to a new cuddle buddy, or you hired a pro with a higher rate .“ - was curious if anyone had this scenario happen to them , but again thanks : )
Oooh... Good question! I don't think so but maybe...? I kind of doubt they'd tell me...
One thing that has been a wonderful ongoing surprise, is how supportive of each other we've been, both pre and post cuddle, to explore snuggle opportunities with others.
I was worried I might be the "jealous" type. But it turns out I'm more of the "cheer leader" type, who actually gets excited and hopes for their other prospects to be realized, and they have been encouraging and supportive of mine too.
For sure the friendships I've made through cuddling/CC have had a profoundly positive impact on me. And so far, I've had no weird jealousy head trips! So yay!!! 🎉
@introvme actually, I had a time where I was a little bit jealous but more upset at something a cuddler did. I had a cuddler that I was chatting with quite often book me for a session. He told me he was really low on money but wanted a cuddle and he asked if I could go all the way down to $50. I do not do this often but I said ok. The next day we had our cuddle. He booked one hour, I charged $50 and that was that. Two days later, he sends me a message telling me he just had an awesome 3 hour cuddle session with another pro. He showed me her account. She charges $160/hour. He fought hard for me to lower my price hardcore but a couple days later had no problem dropping $480 on this pro. I was jealous at first that there must have been something extra with this pro. Nothing sexual or anything. This guy is very respectful and doesn’t cross boundaries at all. And he didn’t have her lower her price at all, so jealously towards her turned to slight bitterness towards him. I feel bad that I think that way but I felt like dropping a truth bomb on my feelings.
Thank you @Sheena123 you literally made yourself vulnerable right there & I appreciated it🤗 🤗 !!! Tbh I think & would definitely bet that he knew exactly what he was doing, & your reaction was exactly what he was aiming & looking for... that’s literally high school / immature/ childish games 101 fromHis part but I hope you either realized it soon after or at the very least called him out on it instead of just giving him the reaction he so was looking for (this ofcourse is my opinion but if it went exactly how you said it did & I don’t see any reasons for you to lie about anything, than I defend my comments.)
@introvme yea, I never brought it up with him, but from then on, any time that he booked me, I never waivered in my price. There were a couple times he would sound like possibly hoping I would go or a lower price but I was firm. He hasn’t pushed for me to lower since then, and it’s been awhile.
I’m really glad you stood your ground!! @Sheena123
@Sheena123 Thanks for sharing you experience on this. And wow, how odd. I don't think I would ever message a pro cuddler I've been with that I've cuddled another pro, because what would that accomplish? Second if this pro was so gracious to reduce the rate just for me, I'd feel obliged to do something extra for that pro in some non-monetary way (not sexual obviously, but maybe be extra appreciative and extra kind). This is not normal I think. @introvme was probably right he wasn't actually tight of cash but just looking for a way to save a buck via manipulation.
@BellaSera well we had snow and then an ice storm broke out. Supposed to happen again on Friday. I would rather just have snow. I hope you dodged it in St Louis.
I’ve been jealous because someone left me karma saying I had the best hugs and then later someone else got the same thing in their karma 😅
@introvme, thank you for the lovely compliments.
I wish I could say that I’m so evolved that I don’t want to ALWAYS be the best cuddling experience than any of my clients has ever had and ever will have and to have that manifested (read: validated) in positive karma.
Of course, that’s silly, but it doesn’t mean I don’t feel it... and that it doesn’t sting a bit as a service provider when a client chooses a different service provider.
Those feelings pop up, and if you’re smart, you push them away, because it’s a long game and we’re all in this together.
Public facing, I try to channel any negative thoughts or feelings into upping MY game and making myself a better cuddler and better human....
....but I can’t promise I never cursed or pouted or stamped my feet (foot) in seclusion.
@BellaSera ...you curse? GASP!
@OhioMike, Ubetchurarse... like a sailor, me lad.
I most definitely hear you @BellaSera : )
Not sure why anyone should be jealous out there if someone is truly just your cuddlebuddy. And personally i would not want to cuddle with anyone who is married even if they were both supposedly ok with it. I had an affair with a married woman once and i just do not want to go anywhere near down that road again even in a platonic relationship.
@Sheena123 he sounds like the type that tries to take financial advantage of people when he thinks he can get away with it. Once i was giving uber type rides for a pretty low price when i was out of work. I would drive this one girl back and forth from her 7 eleven job and she said she could not pay me right away when i dropped her off one day. I Dropped her like a hot potato. She called and called and called my phone to no answer. It was not to be mean but business is business and no time for games. I hope you ignore him if he contacts you again.
If my wife was cuddling a bunch of other men then i would be jealous. Of course she would not be my wife very long.
@Invisible_Touch but of course you would be upset. Cuddling is obviously part of your love language so yes you would be greedy with all her cuddles👍🏽