Online friends who become banned cuddlers

VeevieVeevie
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Was just wondering how people feel when they've been talking to people and you suddenly see they've been banned.

I don't know, it's happened quite a few times and I've been a member of this site for less than a year and it makes me feel vulnerable at this point because you don't know what they've done to be banned and I feel like I need to keep my cards closer to my chest than I have been but I want to feel comfortable with the person I'm cuddling with.

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  • pmvinespmvines
    edited February 2021

    I have kept in touch with several banned pros and non pros and have hung out with at least a couple after the fact. Being banned from a website doesn't make you an axe murderer

  • pmvinespmvines

    I will say that I do see OP point about feeling vulnerable due to this . A lot of men tend to be banned due to treating it like a dating or hookup site, being sexually inappropriate in messages or trying to cross boundsries and what not . Other reasons too just that seems to be primary reason

  • Jascuddleboo32Jascuddleboo32

    I actually had an appointment to cuddle with someone, but 3 days before we were supposed to meet up she got banned. Very unfortunate.

  • littermatelittermate

    Thanks @pmvines for that perspective. As a woman, I feel the same as @Veevie when I see someone who has passed my muster and gets banned -- I feel like I can't trust myself to suss out who is using the site in the same way I am. I would be VERY unlikely to try and hang out with a banned user of this site and think that you're super cool @pmvines for being that badass. And I hear ya @Veevie and jump on your bandwagon with our shared experience.

    And yeah, not knowing is freaky. It's too bad there isn't a banned-peeps list with the particular crime they are guilty of to help us add to our capacity for intuiting. Like, where was I off? What did he do? Etc.

  • [Deleted User]CuddleMeLater (deleted user)

    I am generally in agreement that a user being banned doesn't necessarily mean much. Maybe I'd be more worried about banned users if I were in a different situation (say, if I were a woman who was concerned about sexually pushy men).

    Some of the cuddlers I've met have been banned from this site, and some of the cuddlers I've met were "bad" in some sense (dishonest or manipulative, etc). As far as I know there is zero overlap between these groups.

    That is, none of the bad ones were banned, and none of the banned ones were bad.

    (OTOH some cuddlers who I specifically haven't met because they seemed fishy were banned, and in those cases I think my judgment and banishment were in alignment.)

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