First Time Meeting Up

[Deleted User]Pale_Skinny (deleted user)
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I plan on meeting up with somebody, and I'm kinda nervous about what to do, and how we should start cuddling, I've only really cuddled with girlfriends, so this will be first time cuddling with just a friend, any    tips are welcome.

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  • JoeSomebody2JoeSomebody2
    Be respectful, have good communication, don't overthink the situation to the point that you can't relax. In regard to how to break the ice on the subject, would saying, "Would it be alright if we cuddle right now?" be too direct? I've yet to do it myself (otherwise strangers, at least), so I can't say how well it will do. But it's an idea, so... :D
  • [Deleted User]apeirogon (deleted user)
    One thing you could do is... If you're sitting on the couch and you've already put something on TV or your computer for you guys to watch (if that's what you're doing in the first place), but you're not cuddling yet, you could start to say "so, is it okay if I..." while moving your arm as if you're going to put it around them. Complete the motion if they say yes.
  • Lanky_KLanky_K
    Both the above suggestions are spot-on. I know from experience that it can seemed awkward or forced to just say something like "do you want to cuddle?" but as long as you're polite about the suggestion, I think that's greatly preferred to the embarrassment of just going for it if your partner isn't ready for it or comfortable with it. I find it's always better to get the weirdness out of the way up front if that makes things smoother in the long run.
  • jayintulsajayintulsa
    Usually the most awkward part is the very beginning. If both of you are really wanting to share the contact, then once you get started you'll know what to do and it will flow. 

    Just be sure to keep clear, open, and respectful communication at all times, of course.

  • Scippy268Scippy268

    Love to meet guys from Ayrshire.
    And see what goes on from there.
    Love going out for a meal & a couple of drinks.
    Love going to gay bars & spending a night in a Hotel with the right guy that comes along.
    I dont take drugs or smoke.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel
    edited May 2019

    Looking back, I was fortunate to have chosen an experienced cuddler and she was very good at putting me at ease and showing how a really good cuddle session should go and different positions I never considered. Now the roles have flipped in many of my sessions and I have become the confident “teacher” even with some pros. So, I would start by finding a very experienced cuddler.

    But under any circumstance a little chatter goes a long way to ridding the atmosphere of tension. After a couple of good giggles you can ask how they like to cuddle and when they say, for example, “I like being the little spoon” then you proceed to spooning. Verbal communication is the foundation to enjoyable touch.

  • UKGuyUKGuy
    edited May 2019

    I imagine it would be much less intimidating if you've already met in public and chatted beforehand.

  • [Deleted User]ransdelladrian (deleted user)

    Right now my main focus is landing my first client's Lol scared can come once I ring that doorbell and realize oooohhhh shit what the hell did I just get my self into but it shouldn't be that bad I love women and I love to cuddle ill just have to work on my professionalism learn as I go on

  • pmvinespmvines

    @ransdelladrian 120 per hour male with blank profile trying to get women to pay to cuddle? Good luck with landing that first client....

  • reallifebearreallifebear

    @pmvines Lol that was harsh

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @reallifebear No it wasn’t, it was just a well placed reality check.

  • jaggl1jaggl1

    It’s interesting to read what you each write and recommend. JoeSomebody is spot on and Apeiregon as well. Assumptions lead to mistakes. Clear concise communication is required for both party’s safety & peace of mind. I highly recommend before first cuddling session to lay down guidelines & also have safe words. Additionally if there’s some form of miscommunication or a communication oversite resulting in someone is starting to touch you in a way you are beginning to feel uncomfortable try using the word yellow to let them know it feels off or red to stop.

  • UKGuyUKGuy

    @jaggl1 - I like your suggestions

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