@Envie Thank you for your willingness to share those personal details with me. For the same reasons as you mentioned, I wear underwear under my soft bottoms (basketball shorts, sweats, pajama bottoms). To be honest, though, I don’t think it would bother me if my cuddle partners of whatever gender didn’t wear undergarments. However, this is mostly based on conjecture since I haven’t cuddled many partners yet, and I’ve only cuddled one woman.
@cookiefiend I would not wear jeans for the same reason I don’t like the kind of bra I talked about: denim jeans are rough with their thick, scratchy fabric, their pockets, buttons, and rivets. Just my tactile preference that others may or may not share.
Can I get some feedback on ways I might suggest clothing that feels comfortable to me? What about this?
What shall we wear? I will wear soft, comfy clothing like tee shirts, tank tops, snuggly sweaters or sweatshirts, basketball shorts, sweat pants, or pajama bottoms. Your comfort is my priority, and I respect your right to wear what makes you feel safe. I am sensitive to rough textures, so I would feel most comfy and cozy if you wore the same kind of clothing I wear. For those who wear bras, may I suggest a sports bra? It has the softest texture on my hands when I am hugging you and stroking your back. Again, though, I respect your right to wear whatever makes you comfortable.
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The above text is just a draft I’m throwing out there for feedback.
@nurturingman Oh crud! And here I thought you were only talking about those convertible 4-way bras with their evil hooks. But that's a pretty standard bra. This would definitely be a tough topic to broach.
One idea could be to state your preferences by referring to previous cuddle sessions, before you meet up with a woman. "Some of my cuddle partners have worn bras with a lot of hard clips and clasps, and I found the texture unpleasant while we were cuddling. It took me out of the moment. I've had a better experience with cuddle partners who have worn softer garments, with minimal hard plastic parts." Something like that, maybe?
@nurturingman you might want to avoid the part about how her bra feels on your hands. That sounds a bit creepy.
@nurturingman would it help to have one of your arm on her back below her bra line and the other use your hand to rest on the bra line having your balm in that plasticy metaly part? Another option you can try hugging in a way that avoids that area or give her a gentle bro hug (being careful not to hit the coconuts).
I got hugged by women, those ~2 second hugs ^^ , though haven't really hugged any and thus have no experience whatsoever. Wish my arms were like The Incredible's so I could test my suggestions.
As for how you may approach the subject,
once you two are closer (spent about 3 times together and you've shown her you're respectful) you can turn it into a conversation about comfortable cuddle wear.
Though before you approach the topic to tell her what you find more comfortable, I'd suggest being mindful of who is hosting. If she's in the comfort of her home or drives, she may be more receptive to wear something that's not as supportive because she wouldn't need to move out and about in public as much. Also it is better to say what are comfortable for you instead of uncomfortable in situations like that.
@desi_babe Thanks, yes, that's pretty standard. Though if they got smaller coconuts some wear ones with thinner straps. Which could solve your issue @nurturingman as you get to meet different female cuddle buddies. You may find ones that wear ones with thinner straps probably lessening the issue.
@nurturingman in your "what shall we wear" do you want them to wear the same kind of clothing or the same/similar texture?
@Lovelight A bit of both, but that's a good question. I mean clothing choice may depend on one's gender and personal preferences, but the bottom line is I'd like it to feel good on the wearer and to the cuddle partner.
@nurturingman I would leave out asking for any specific type of bra - honestly, some sports bras are just as horrible with their plastic and metal parts as regular bras! We have tons of soft options (bralettes, tank tops with a built in shelf bra, one-piece stretchy bras, etc), and there's likely to be at least one alternative in a woman's closet. I think if you leave it more vague, stating that you prefer soft garments with minimal plastic and metal parts, it might be the most sensitive way to broach this topic.
Thanks, @squeakytoy! Just goes to show what I know about women. 😂
Oh, and @lovelight, I just saw your other response and the "show more / spoiler" text. Makes sense.
I come to cuddle in my regular clothes and change into a pair of shorts and a tshirt that's clean and soft, specifically for cuddling, I like when my cuddle partner does the same, some people wear the clothing that is soo slippery, can't grab on to rub their back lol, it takes away a bit. One of my peeves is someone coming and cuddling in their street clothes, that would be like me wearing my dirty work clothes and cuddle with them and that touch their skin, I try to be mindful, I bring a extra shirt and clean shorts if they need to change into them,
@nurturingman No no, it's okay! Thinking about it now, I'm sure that this isn't something most men have a lot of in-depth knowledge about. There are like a zillion and one ways to support your bazongas to go with any type of garment or situation, and honestly, finding a soft option isn't challenging in the least (compared to some of the freakin witchcraft and tomfoolery needed for support in certain types of dresses, LOL).
Clothes. Clothes have worked out well in every cuddle I've had.
@funnycuddles I can't believe either but, on the other hand, it could also be boxers vs. briefs... I'm leaving now, LOL
What I go for is a soft romper and sports bra boy shorts underneath
For me, a T-shirt and shorts and hopefully the same for my cuddle partner.
Gym shorts and a T shirt, literally the same ones in my profile pic. Great topic. I had a pro tell me she brings extra PJ’s because of how many men say they forgot to bring pajamas and want to cuddle in underwear. Sad. As far as the bra convo goes, I’d rather find a new cuddle buddy then suggest that a pro remove/change bra’s for the fear of it being misconstrued. Probably not the best approach but better safe than sorry.
The predecessor of the modern bra was the whalebone corset. The implication is that rare giant mammals bled to death in the oceans in order to provide visual support for women in social settings. I'm not going to insist on anything about what my cuddler should wear.
Borat 1 piece suit jk lol gym shorts & t
Most of my clothes are jeans and tshirts, so that's what I'd most likely wear. The kilt (Utilikilt brand) might give the wrong impression.
I never wear a bra. Of course I am a guy so there is that. Softest is Bestest. At the end of of the day it’s what you are mentally comfortable with in the cuddle if you are wearing snowsuit fine. If it’s a bikini fine. It’s about the cuddle
Something smooth, soft and non-allergenic.
My professional cuddler body started to wear something very heavy after she find out I fall in her like heavy robe, pyjama,heavy sleeves now I decided not to see her again she's a big lose to me the reason is I never had long cuddle in my life except with her because I'm so anti-social and has lack of communications skills I spent around 2 k on her
@Ahmedali999: I'm guessing (hoping) that "cuddler body" was meant to be "cuddle buddy."
Since it's difficult to fall in a person (unlike in, say, a shower, where it is very easy to fall), I'm guessing you mean to say you fell in love with her, romantically. And based on her reaction (wearing heavier clothes), I'm guessing that at the very least she thought there was an element of lust in that love.
You probably also meant "asocial" (not interested in being socially active), rather than "antisocial" (actively opposed to society).
Probably.
@DarrenWalker first the reason I fall in love I was so depressed hating life many mental problems I'm very,quite,have no sense of humor,boring,anti-social cuddle gave me life healed my depression she used to wear something soft before she discover afterwards she wears something heavy is like I'm cuddling a blanket I told her to wear T-shirt so I can stroke her arm she didn't so I spent £2000 on her now I see different cuddle body which always wear T-shirts
I personally wear a nice clean can comfortable T - Shirt with either some sweatpants, shorts or pajama bottoms. AS are as my partner, it matters to me what she's comfortable wearing.
Communication between cuddle partners is always key. Communication in general is always key. I eliminate potential cuddle partners who can’t be bothered to communicate. I was telling a cuddle partner the other night that I chose her because I had another possible partner that I exchanged ten messages with and received exactly ten words total in response. Single word utterances over and over again convey disinterest and laziness.
@DarrenWalker I'm now with new pro cuddle body the old one I fall in love with she disgust me. And mistreated me best of luck to her
@Ahmedali999: Just a hint—in English, referring to a person as a body gives creepy vibes. Buddy is definitely the word you want. "Cuddle buddy."
And given that cuddles obtained through this website are supposed to be platonic (that is, not romantic or sexual), I'd say switching pros is a good idea if you catch feelings for one. No romantic love, no sexual love! This is not a dating site. Friendship, family love, platonic affection—that's what this place is for.
You say the pro you were hiring at first mistreated you; I don't know what she did, but if all she did was rebuff your non-platonic advances, she did just what she should have.
Remember that cuddles are platonic (not romantic, not sexual), and best of luck with your new pro!
@DarrenWalker I agree with you if you go the page what's on your mind discussing I put my story there