Question for the Pro Cuddlists!

[Deleted User]americandapper (deleted user)
in Pro Cuddling

I just had a wonderfully healing experience cuddling for the first time with a pro. I have just been recently out of a relationship and thought this was the best idea. I also understand the Karma system and would not have normally paid for cuddling although I may still go for it for a few more times, I do not plan on adding it to my continuous budget. My main question here is, _is it taboo or 'annoying' or not as well received if I were to ask those who are professional cuddlers to cuddle for free if they so choose to_. I not only am attempting to love and enjoy the experience with them, but also develop my rapport within the community via Karma and making new friends in the community in general. I just don't want to off put anyone in the community if I go around asking this in DMs and was wondering what the community's opinion is on this. I will respectfully value your opinions and I thank you in advance for reading this and possible replying to this post.

Sincerely,
Javi

Comments

  • pmvinespmvines

    If someone Is being paid for a service it is tacky to ask them to not charge you . Wouldn't ask a housekeeper or cook or massage person to do it for free would you ? It is one thing if you develop a friendship and decide to .meet up as you are both grown adults capable of making your own decisions, however it wouid be frowned upon to start asking around for free sessions and I believe the pros themselves have protocols in place limiting this sort of thing

  • [Deleted User]americandapper (deleted user)

    Thank you for your reply.

  • RezzRezz

    @americandapper
    We have rates for a reason.
    Would you be ok going to your job unpaid?
    The entitlement here is astounding.

    DM enthusiasts if you want to find a free cuddle buddy.

  • cuddlerforu24cuddlerforu24

    Nothing is free . You have to bring something to the cuddle table . What you are asking is , not impossible . Just observe what is said on this forum , by who , and how it’s said . You’ll figure it out .

  • [Deleted User]americandapper (deleted user)

    There's no entitlement, why are you guys so aggressive and offensive. It was a genuinely innocent question. I don't think cursing is needed. I had hoped this community and website was supposed a bit more judgement free and welcoming to well intentioned newcomers. If I am mistaken please guide me to the correct path and I would appreciate not to be shunned. Everyone learns from somewhere , sometime in their lives. I am trying my best here. My initial questions came because I have opportunities to cuddle with enthusiasts, but I want to increase my etiquette in cuddling from a pro-side. I really do enjoy giving comfort, healing, love/kindness. I do not want to accidently make any mistakes, platonic cuddling is a new idea to me. I believe I will search for this knowledge from workshops like I am currently enrolled in.

    Either way thank you for your responses, I asked this before I even made any action.

  • RezzRezz
    edited July 2021

    @americandapper

    My initial questions came because I have opportunities to cuddle with enthusiasts, but I want to increase my etiquette in cuddling from a pro-side. I really do enjoy giving comfort, healing, love/kindness

    Then become a pro. Don't message us pros asking for a free session. Why should we take time away from our paying clients who respect our job and the effort we put into each sessions to see you for FREE? LMAO
    There are men here who are seeking a cuddle exchange and can't offer pros monetary compensation. Message them if the female enthusiasts are not responding due to the overwhelming number of messages they are receiving.

    Again, would you do your job unpaid?
    Asking someone to do their job for free is entitlement to their time and energy and incredibly disrespectful.

  • [Deleted User]americandapper (deleted user)
    edited July 2021

    Why are you using "LMAO" sarcastically, to belittle someone. These kind of things hurt peoples feelings (me).
    I understand and took your opinion in. I have not disagreed with anyone, including you. You seem to have taken this personally, assuming my take on this and venting our your frustrations to me as if I am pushing an agenda. Is there anything I can do to make amends with you, I rather create a friendship with you rather than a sour relationship.

    Do you believe I do not have the right to discuss a curiosity on the discussion board?
    I appreciate your patience in responding again. Thank you.

  • RezzRezz

    @americandapper
    Because it's hilarious, that's why. There was no sarcasm. If you find that offensive go ahead and message the pros in NYC one of the most expensive cities in the world, for freebies.

    You have yet to answer my question.
    Would YOU do your job for FREE?

    If you want to learn, build relationships that's fantastic. Lurk the forums, participate in discussions like everyone else. You have been told by everyone thus far that nothing is free, it's tacky and presumptuous to believe that we are here to offer our paid services for free to help you boost your karma.

    If you want to build experience cuddling then pay your pros, find an enthusiast or become a pro yourself. But do not under any circumstance message us for free cuddles.

    I do take it personal that you have zero regard for our therapeutic services or truly understand what we put into each session.

    Good luck to you..

  • [Deleted User]squeakytoy (deleted user)

    Alright everyone, it looks like this thread is going downhill, so I'm going to close it. @americandapper, please do not ask pros to provide free services to you. Thanks.

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