Ah I too fell for the sarcasm as reality bit, and I've built a good deal of my life around being a sarcastic asshole
It all depends on how open minded your partner is. Also take to account what happens if that plutonic friendship becomes something more? Like not intentionally but you start enjoying the overall company of the person you are cuddling. You start to like their touch, their scent the overall atmosphere they give it you more than your partner. Just some things to think about
@Crashing_waVeSs Right?
Plus it is more tempting and it goes beyond just trusting one's partner to do the right thing. The other party could have an agenda too (in some ways at times goes the other way too) if they happen to become obsessed with your partner, thus being a part of being a homewrecker. Then as we know those types of connections often fizzle out once the truth is found and that a lot of damage has already been done.
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PS. Although it's * somewhat * besides the point, it is virtually only sleezy people who'd be players, aka saying whatever it takes for some superficial, harmful instant gratification gain.
@Lovelight I think this whole cuddling thing can be a double edged sword. Sometimes we forget how powerful a touch can be and it’s not suprising that people become emotionally attached. Being in a relationship would just make things that much more complicated in my opinion.
@Crashing_waVeSs For sure. Whoever is fine with going down that route, I say you do you. Though that courtesy should be extended to those who don't want that too.
I missed the sarcastic remark because it’s been removed. However, the fact that so many people did not read it as sarcasm is a reminder, I hope, that sarcasm should be used carefully. We can’t hear tone of voice or see facial expressions with the written word. If it’s not made very, very clear it’s sarcasm, it’s probably going to be taken seriously as written and that is going to muddy the conversation, especially when the audience doesn’t know you well.
An excellent piece on text messaging and miscommunication:
@Babichev I love that skit!
In my opinion, sarcasm should end in a /s to denote a sarcasm block.
Poe's law and all.
Q: Why is it called Poe's Law? A: Because it's about ravens!
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@Babichev That video says "not available in your country". I am in Canada.
I ask if we could not all get along I ask if cuddling was here to help and that is what we are here for. To help I gave all the good thing cuddling does sarcasm ask the same question to many time ? I was not tell any one to do something they did not want to do. What is it that I should learn ?
Revisiting this thread, I was surprised to see @endneed’s words deleted. Perhaps I missed something. From what I remember, it seemed like a fine piece of writing. Listing the many benefits of cuddling, paired with the steady refrain that only single people deserve these benefits. I don’t think it was simple sarcasm. It seemed more like poetry. The repetition was reminiscent of the constant flow of public opinion. And ultimately, I believe it was an appeal to reconsider preconceptions.
Public consensus is that people in a relationship need to talk with their partner before cuddling outside of that relationship. Sounds reasonable. But I remember a woman I once knew. She was married, but her husband no longer paid attention to her. He didn’t touch her. They simply lived in the same house. She seemed so incredibly lonely and sad. It’s easy to tell her to leave him, much harder to actually do it. If she sought to cuddle someone else, it wouldn’t be my place to judge. My only real concern would be for her safety.
@endneed "sarcasm ask the same question to many time ?"
No, imma let you do your own research on learning what sarcasm is.
"I was not tell any one to do something they did not want to do." That's exactly how your comment came off with sarcasm sprinkled all over it.
Sarcasm is one of my main senses of humor. Though I am generally mindful of how, where and when I use it. So I am usually pretty good at recognizing it when I see it and I've no doubt your comment was sarcastic, in support of guilting people to do what they don't want to. Now I'd give give you the benefit of the doubt that perhaps it wasn't your intention. However the issue still needed to be addressed.
Punctuation ! I should have put (?) after for only single people . The rest on the Mark ?
Sarcasm is a form of verbal irony that mocks, ridicules, or expresses contempt. It’s really more a tone of voice than a rhetorical device. You’re saying the opposite of what you mean (verbal irony) and doing it in a particularly hostile tone
@endneed - you are baiting. Do not. From here forward do not respond or reply or tag @Lovelight . Get on topic, contribute to the conversations, or you risk forum access. [-Sid]
@endneed Okay.
as a cuddle professional, it isn’t and shouldn’t be an issue for me. it’s not my business to know what their romantic setup is. same goes for them. it’s not their business to know what my setup is either. Romance and dating is an issue totally separate and outside of what we are doing here.