Looks like Professional cuddler took advantage of me

cardinalsfan83cardinalsfan83
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I’ve cuddled with a few people prior to finding this website. I’ve connected with 3 people through cuddle comfort and have good experiences. My second session with work someone was at 7:30 central time. The first session I felt we had a good connection (first session was (first session was 7/28) About a month ago we scheduled a 2nd session. I really felt the first session went really well and she said she had a good time too.She was coming in from out of town. For the 2nd session she asked for a deposit of half of the 4 hour session scheduled for today at 7:30am. Her personal page was suspended sometime last week but she confirmed last Tuesday we were still on for today. I texted her yesterday to confirm again but didn’t hear back. I’m sitting at the Airbnb she booked for the first appointment and she said booked for today’s appointment and it’s now about 15 mins past when we were scheduled to meet. Sucks I paid the deposit for the appointment but really I’m more hurt that I trusted someone and I got stood up and taken advantage of!! Really disappointed

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  • sunnysideupsunnysideup
    edited September 2021

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  • cardinalsfan83cardinalsfan83

    Yep. Definitely a hard lesson to learn.

  • LovelightLovelight

    Her account being suspened was a gigantic red flag. :/

    You perhaps you didn't see that until it was too late or went against your gut instinct. Sorry that happened to you anyway. I'd try calling her, if anything it might at least give you a little closure. Or find her social media if possible and confront her to make it right if she avoids your call or something. Though I get that it can be a tricky situation and I don't know exactly how things unfolded for you. :(

    Maybe you could still speak with a moderator so that they've an even stronger case to not give her another chance or the benefit of the doubt since we aren't sure why she is suspended. And suspension isn't the same as a ban, so she may still be allowed back.

  • LovelightLovelight

    Though just to be clear, since she stood you up I wouldn't accept another "free" session or for the last payment to be counted towards it. In fact I wouldn't accept any aside from you getting your payment back, it is the least she can do after what you were put through. That'd make me lose trust in her.

  • GaryGary Mod

    Please send me a private message with her username

  • cardinalsfan83cardinalsfan83

    Thanks lovelight I’ve called and left voicemails and texted her and yet to hear back. I assume at this point I probably won’t hear back from her. All I have is a phone number and her account through cuddle comfort which I cant contact her. Who knows her phone number she gave me is a burner number. And the suspension had last weekend and I sent the deposit a little before the suspension happened. Thanks for the info

  • AmortentiaAmortentia

    Did she have any karma? Sorry you came across such a pro. Some people are just that way unfortunately but not everyone.

  • SoftHairForDaysSoftHairForDays

    I'm so sorry. That's awful. 😔

  • LilyBLilyB

    Sorry that happened, Ruins it for everyone. A potential client wanted me to drive 3 hrs to him, without a deposit, because someone did that to him. He sent a deposit and she never showed up.
    It's lose lose for all of us :(

  • carinocarino

    That's why nobody should give a deposit to anyone..your giving up a portion of the money and your not getting nothing in return to protect that portion,except there word,which doesn't mean nothing

  • cuddler5617cuddler5617

    As a pro and enthusiast I base those decisions on well I know the person, if they have karma, and some other variables. I myself will not ask for anything up front with maybe the exception of travel expenses if it involves a lot of gas or a plane ticket. In turn as the enthusiast I have only paid traveling expenses up front once. But they had a lot of great karma and we talked for months working out a plan and time. I’m sorry that happened to you. It does ruin things for pros when pros are not for lack of better words professional.

  • Ironman294Ironman294

    If a professional cuddler is going to drive several hours to just you, you should send them a certain amount for travel. Not saying the cuddle session fee but if two or three hours you should over 100 dollars. Seems fair to me, I know of a pro who drove a few hours and then that client never responded to them once they got there. It’s called trust. One should come to a compromise fo some sort.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    Any word on why her account was suspended?

  • timetocuddle07timetocuddle07

    No to deposits . It's not wise to give a stranger money before u meet them. As many hoops and ladders folks have to climb to even get a phone number here. Get that money in person no matter how many karmas they have

  • [Deleted User]Lucas_ (deleted user)

    Never, ever pay an upfront deposit. Too many other excellent pros on here that understand the inanity of that request.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    I’ve never even had a pro ask for a deposit

  • MelancholyMelancholy

    I once had a pro ask for a deposit. I told her no thanks.
    That shows a lack of trust. Why would I flake? I need to cuddle so much, I wouldn't flake if I said I was going to be there!

  • cuddles_ndreamcuddles_ndream

    I would never pay a deposit directly to a cuddler, only way I’ll do this is if the site acts as an intermediary & holds the depost, this is not to say there is anything wrong for pros requesting them, I completely understand why this is required by several, it just means I never want to find myself in such a situation, so I just won’t have the privilege of cuddling an amazing person who means well & it’ll be my loss. Ive already seen this scenario come up several times here, & Ofcourse there’s always exceptions to the rule, there are pros who have a huge presence here where absolutely no doubt exist whatsoever, & they are loved & cared for by everyone - they are the few exceptions.

  • [Deleted User]bob2056 (deleted user)

    Something unexpected must of come up. I have had a session. With belle she had 10 positive karma. I would wait to see what the powers to be find out.

  • birdiegrlbirdiegrl

    Wow, I hope you’re right, Bob, and I hope she’s ok and didn’t intentionally rob OP.

    To those saying no professional would be asking for a deposit… I have never asked for one, but I get burned right and left, so many flakes. I wouldn’t take an appointment that I had to drive more than half an hour to get to bc my cuddlees are so unreliable. It messes up half a day (nothing like canceling plans or passing up something you would’ve enjoyed for spending time getting ready and driving to and from a cuddle session that didn’t happen) and your mood even when it’s local. I haven’t ever asked for a deposit, but I totally get it. If someone I didn’t know who didn’t have like 10 karmas wanted me to drive 45 min I’d feel like I was quite likely to devote 2+ hours of my day and $10 in gas for something that quite possibly won’t happen and will be a slap in the face to boot. So in real world terms, it makes sense for me to ask for an hour pay. And maybe it makes sense for the cuddlee to refuse to pay it. Sucks.

    And sorry OP! That just sucks.

  • [Deleted User]bob2056 (deleted user)

    She does not ask for a deposit when it local. I think she has been burned before. She has a family and is sole provider. And takes breaks by going out of town. Hopefully we will here an explanation for what happened.

  • SideonSideon

    In no way shape or form is this a critical commentary NOR endorsement regarding deposits, one way or another.

    Two sides of every story. The OP has reported the incident - as appropriate. The Pro's account status and the WHY is not for public consumption, but this will get worked out with site admin and herself. The OPs account is also suspended, and also not up for public consumption.

    If there is an issue with an enthusiast OR a Pro, please report it and include screen shots of text messages or communications.

    Closing this thread.

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