@PeopleLikeUs , you bring up an interesting point: we tend to treat others the way we ourselves want to be treated. However, not everyone has the same ideas about how they want to be treated. So if I don’t like terms of endearment but Friend A does, my using a term of endearment might be useful at times. Maybe they are upset because we’re going to be late for an event and my saying, “It’s okay, Sweetie, we’ll get there when we get there,” might soothe them more than if I left out “Sweetie.” It’s something I haven’t thought about much.
When we have ongoing interactions with people we have more of an opportunity to learn how someone wants to be treated and let those around us know how we want to be treated.
When I’m acting as a massage therapist, I tend to discourage anything that blurs the boundaries in the client/therapist relationship. If someone starts speaking to me in a way that’s overly familiar, I shift into ultra professional mode. My body language and how I speak changes to a manner that is more formal than my usual very relaxed manner.
I try not to take offense when none is intended.
Why was @Babichev banned?
Whoa! Yea, what happened?!
Um... ? @Mark ???
The "New Modetator" thread is locked, so can't question there... What happened with @Babichev ?? Why banned??
Inconceivable !
Yay! Babs is back!
I’m back.
I did it to myself. Accidentally.
I wonder if folks would be annoyed if the cuddler used "bro" as a term of endearment....
Exactly nurturnigman thay what carino means..latin ppl from all latino coubtried thays the norm men call other men or friends or their kids papi which means dad or daddy and mami which means mommy its a mutual respect showing love for your ppl..doesn't mean we want you or that she wants you its being friendly being nice anyone who has traveled to Latin countries or that lives in by states where there's plenty of Latin communities example nyc Miami los Angeles know exactly what I'm talking about...unfortunately too many ppl don't realize this and think we want you like if you were the last Coca-Cola in a deserted Island 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Great question, @ernesto_2 ! I love that term when used with me by someone I feel close enough to; otherwise it feels presumptuous. As an enthusiast, I love to cuddle with a bro. As a pro, I’d be more cautious about it as it could blur the lines of a therapeutic relationship with a client.
@carino when I visited Argentina and took a private tango lesson, the male dancer greeted me by kissing me on either cheek. Many Argentine men do that, from what I gathered. Now that’s the way I’d like to see more men around the world treat each other! 😁
Well in Argentina that's what they do kiss on the cheek it's their customs so it's France and italy
@nurturingman in the middle east we greet each other with kisses and hugs also when you walk with a friend u hold hands. In the West people would think that's gay . and we use Habibi means my love to a man it's fine.
@Babichev Thanks for expanding on my point. I do the same thing with cishet women that you do in massage therapy for fear it might imply or suggest dating which I don't do. I would never use a term of endearment with a cuddle buddy in any circumstance.
I use “dude” on everything, including the toaster…
@CharlesThePoet My toaster prefers "your eminence"
@JoyfulHeart Duuuuuuude.