What's up with women not mentioning they charge for their time?

FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler
edited February 2022 in General

I've contacted several women on this site who don't mention anything about getting paid in their profile, only to find out eventually that they are, in fact, doing it for cash. What's up with this subterfuge? Shouldn't anyone looking for money be required to say so in their profiles?

Changed the title of this thread to help those hung up on the original word choice [reurbo]

Comments

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    If they don't have a P in their profile and they are trying to charge you, they should be reported.

  • [Deleted User]Zundar (deleted user)

    Yes, if they aren't marked as professionals and are charging for cuddles then they're breaking the rules and you should report their profiles/the messages mentioning that.

  • [Deleted User]DeadGirlWalking (deleted user)

    'Pay for play' 🧐

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @FitSmartCuddler Pay for play is a euphemism for prostitution and can ingratiate you to the forum hammer if care is not taken.

  • OhioMikeOhioMike
    edited February 2022

    @BuggleBear I see that also. "Pay for Play" has a "sexual meaning." doesn't it? 🤨

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-features/pay-for-play-how-labels-pay-songs-radio-871457/

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    https://www.musicindustryhowto.com/should-bands-pay-to-play-one-musicians-view/

  • [Deleted User]DeadGirlWalking (deleted user)

    @OhioMike it absolutely does, yes.

    @FitSmartCuddler it doesn't work as an appropriate phrase when you're talking about actual human people, regardless of whatever other meaning it may have.

  • Soft_Hug84Soft_Hug84

    That's right... let's attack the OP's choice of words and not solve the problem.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @FitSmartCuddler A penile implant is a surgical procedure but it means something else when a penis is inside someone else. We all know what you are doing. Most of us stopped trying to obfuscate the truth after high school.

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "it doesn't work as an appropriate phrase when you're talking about actual human people, regardless of whatever other meaning it may have."

    Musicians are actual people.

    https://www.musicindustryhowto.com/should-bands-pay-to-play-one-musicians-view/

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "That's right... let's attack the OP's choice of words and not solve the problem."

    Thank you! I haven't been here in a while and I almost forget how many people here just want to scold and argue. :-}

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "A penile implant is a surgical procedure but it means something else when a penis is inside someone else."

    I've never heard sexual intercourse referred to as a "penile implant." Let's not get silly.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @Soft_Hug84 The problem was solved and the phrase breaks TOS. The phrase disparages pros.

  • OhioMikeOhioMike
    edited February 2022

    @FitSmartCuddler Were you able to report those "Pay for Play" pros to the mods here?

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "The problem was solved and the phrase breaks TOS. The phrase disparages pros."

    Can cuddling legitimately be referred to as "play"? Yes.

    Do some people charge for this? Yes.

    So how is this inappropriate?

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "Were you able to report those "Pay for Play" pros to the mods here?"

    Where is the "Report" button?

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @FitSmartCuddler I tell you what, don’t ask me. Ask a pro if they pay to play. Your funeral.

  • stormydaycuddlestormydaycuddle Mod
    edited February 2022

    Actually, they aren’t talking pay to play the musician. They are saying the song. You pay to play a song not a musician. Pro cuddlers don’t play. That is an indefensible point either it’s accidental or trolling.

  • OhioMikeOhioMike

    @FitSmartCuddler ok now I see a way this problem can be solved.....

    Every profile has a small box to far right which has 3 dots in it. Click on that and it gives you the option to report that profile / person to the site. It also gives you options and place to comment about the reporting.

  • stormydaycuddlestormydaycuddle Mod
    edited February 2022

    No matter how it was meant in the OPs comment it is commonly used in reference to prostitution. So once that came to light there should have simply been correction to a less offensive term. But straight up defending it doesn’t seem smart it seems stubborn. - she says to no one specifically.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    @stormydaycuddle I think he knows but is playing ignorant.

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    To any of my fellow men who don't know this:

    Admitting error or poor judgement is not a sign of weakness. It's a sign that one is still learning.

  • [Deleted User]DeadGirlWalking (deleted user)
    edited February 2022

    (Deleted because I'm better than that. )

  • stormydaycuddlestormydaycuddle Mod

    I’ve got to bow out because I’m about to go off. Later days- hugs.

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "Actually, they aren’t talking pay to play the musician. They are saying the song. You pay to play a song not a musician. Pro cuddlers don’t play."

    No, as a musician, you are sometimes literally expected to pay to play somewhere.

  • FitSmartCuddlerFitSmartCuddler

    "Ask a pro if they pay to play. "

    THEY don't pay to play. YOU pay to play.

  • [Deleted User]DeadGirlWalking (deleted user)
    edited February 2022

    I don't think anyone cares, dude. Your initial question has been answered (numerous times), so...

  • DaringSprinterDaringSprinter

    1) "Pay for play" is a sketchy phrase at best.

    2) If anyone on this website wants to be paid for cuddles but doesn't have the "P" on their profile, report them.

    3) You report by going to the profile, clicking the button with three dots under the big blue "Send Message" button and beside the "Save to Favorites" button, then choosing "Report" from the pop-up menu.

    4) Done.

  • SideonSideon

    @FitSmartCuddler - forum timeout. Go read the forum rules. Starting with "Baiting." Then look under the topic of "Professional Cuddling". Here - let me copy and paste so you don't have to expend any energy:

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/2999/forum-rules-your-moderators

    Baiting: No baiting. Dropping things in the forums just to stir the waters will not be tolerated.

    Professional Cuddling: Please avoid continuous unnecessary negativity about professional cuddling as it is not conducive to open discussion and risks making professionals feel unwelcome on the forum.

    While professional cuddling is not rooted in the origins of this website, it has since evolved to play an important role in our community. As an open forum it is acceptable to express an opinion that is negative of the industry but it should be done so in a respectful way. This also goes both ways - professionals should be considerate in expressing their negative experiences in order to avoid other clients feeling criticised or disrespected by association.

    This game is now closed.

This discussion has been locked.