My guilty secret: I’m annoyed by kissy faces on profile pics but under my mask I’m making a kissy face.
@Babichev your secret is safe with us!
@UKGuy @Morpheus @Babichev 🤣🤣🤣
Thank you guys for a morning laugh!
@Sweetcuddler82 - your eyebrows are so pretty.
@KYtranspant - l like the hair in your face pic. You have great hair.
One time I met up for a cuddle with a guy who said he was 20 years younger than he actually was. Profile picture was clearly old. I never said anything until he admitted his age. I said I was a bit offended and he got mad at me, saying age is just a number. Then why not post your real age? (They weren’t from this site)
I do think that pictures should be at least marginally representative to what you look like in real life, current day. If a picture is a year or two old, no big deal. Wearing more or less makeup? Who cares, not everyone gets dolled up every day. Not all of us take selfies on the regular. On the flip side, if the picture is 10+ years old and it’s supposed to represent you, that does seem somewhat misleading.
@quincyq03 has a point. Pic updated.
I mean, if you're looking for a cuddler for human touch does a picture or their face really matter? Or, if you are a cuddler does a picture of their face really matter? Just seems superficial.
@Saysoh Welcome back my homie !!! And from a safety perspective a pic should be pretty recent - as for the superficial part, I agree, shouldn’t matter too much.
If only safety were superficial 🤔
@OhioMike I'm unsure how sfately comes into play if the person has a one year old pic (like the OP stated) on their profile. I get saftey is a thing, but I'm not making the connection to safety and an older pic. To quote:
"when you meet in person it looks like the profile pictures they were taking like 1 years ago," which I was commenting on.
I think it’s fair to know who to expect to show up - it brings a bit more comfort to the scenario of meeting someone in person for the first time I feel.
And perhaps it’s speaks to honesty and transparency- no one wants to feel deceived
@Saysoh you stated does a picture matter ? Well I think it does for SAFETY here.
I don't know if a pic makes me feel any 'safer' or not, but it does up the comfort level by minimizing discomfort. Basically, if we're to meet in public, and I'm looking for someone who no longer exists, I'm going to feel a bit awkward when only one of us recognizes the other... ie: I'll feel uncomfortable - like when a prank is played. It's not a good feeling and likely wouldn't lead to a cuddle.
A tip off that a prospective client may be interested in more than platonic cuddling is not sharing a picture. That is right out of our, “new pro handbook,” so to speak. I encourage anyone meeting any person they connected with online to not only ask for a picture but also to exercise other safety precautions.
@Nature_Lover_ - one of my favorites is: "I am having trouble sending my picture on here. Send me your number, and I'll text it to you". 🚩🚩🚩
I also love these: "Text me because the site is glitchy for me", "I won't be on here for long, so text me", "Text me because I want to ask you a question before I schedule a session". 🤣🤣🤣
All of this tomfoolery without booking - of course...
I always do a free Zoom call before meeting anyone - just in case they sent me a fake picture. I am not worried about looks, but I do need to confirm that someone is who they say they are. If they are lying about who they are, what else are they lying about? 🤔
I’m 69 years old, not tech savvy, and I can upload photos. If they can text a photo they can upload it here, too.
Whiner mode on! It's part of our culture now, that feigning ignorance is supposed to give you a pass in life. I agree with @Babichev. If I can use this platform, so can anyone. But I find, when I point that out, people just act like you've attacked them. They don't even have... never mind. Whiner mode off!
@Babichev @Gallowglass 😊 I agree with you both.
I agree with the other comments brought up about safety. Also if the the only photo you have of the person is super old or the wrong person, god forbid something happens and you don’t even have a photo to share with police. I guess you can always give a description, but nothing beats a photo.
Knowingly sending/posting a photo that you know doesn’t look like you anymore comes off as pretty manipulative, which may lend to being manipulative in other areas of life. Major red flag.
@Green_Eyes Yes, I’ve definitely heard that before 🤣
Ok but here is a novel one, another paid cuddler stated she encountered a particular client who insisted on not sending a picture on the site saying they were tech savvy and that this site is particularly insecure. They cited they had a public job and were concerned about mis conceptions about paid cuddling to support not wanting to risk sending a picture on this platform.
Any validity here with respect to security or should we confidently squash that?
@Nature_Lover_ , so he cares more about his own reputational safety than you physical safety and peace of mind? Sounds like he made his own decision.
I think a profile pic can show more than just looks, it can show expression. As a client looking for a professional, it's helpful to see smiling, friendly, approachable pictures. Ever since I watched the show 'Lie to me', it re-enforced how much I enjoy looking for expression and micro expressions. Although they say a picture is worth a thousand words (or something), I think it should be a picture assumes a thousand words, as the problem with just a single picture, is it lacks context. And far to often we act without context. At least sites like this allow for multiple photos and an about me section, where you can provide some context. And pre-meet video chats can provide even more.
While not quite the same, since in person vs picture (does relate to a pre-meet video chat though), my last hair cut I got, the stylist just had this super RBF the entire time (it felt like a picture as her expression never changed throughout the entire cut), and that energy radiated out of her and put me in a poor mood. Felt like I had an oder about me that affected her or something. It had me wanting to get out of there as soon as possible. But I think the same thing can happen with profile pictures as well (without the smells, yet). Which can affect (in a good or bad way) whether you want to contact that person. Of course, just like everything else, just because someone can fake a smile once for a picture, doesn't make them always happy (which I mean, who actually is?). But it can make a difference, imho.