I may as well take this as a teaching moment as well.
This right here is why a lot of us pros are so diligent before meeting you for cuddles. This is why we get your picture, meet you in public and not give out our address or number. Because crazy guys like this are out there. Hopefully for men out there wondering why it’s takes a little while to set up a cuddle and an enthusiast or pro askings a hundred questions, it’s for safety. It’s because we don’t know if you’re a good guy or if you’re a psycho like this guy.
Thanks, @CuddleDuncan. Peace
@CuddleDuncan I’m glad you’re helping me but I really don’t want this thread locked. Ppl need to understand why we have to be safe and I need people to understand how unsafe he is.
Sigh. My stalker still has their account on here too, probably reading my comment as we speak. FFS. 🧐
I'm so sorry you're going through this. Just ignore. Block. Repeat.
I've had to deal with it almost my entire time on this site, some people just need better hobbies in life. What and how people justify to themselves as acceptable is not a reflection of what you deserve.
I agree with @Sheena123 I mean we already have several members who on these public forums say they miss a member like this 😳. That’s bothersome I think 🤔. I think this is a good reminder for all about how @Sheena123 mentions how diligent people have to be here when meeting. We have had threads in past about “tell me horror stories about cuddling…”. Well here we have one !!!
@MissAdventurous gah, what is with these little boys taking time out of their day to do this? What does this accomplish for themselves? 😩 thank you for your support. It means the world coming from the cuddle queen 👑
I think it's risky to tag anyone who is gone. We don't always know the circumstances of their departure. For many, it may be completely their own decision. In those cases, they might not want us speculating as to their reasons.
If someone has been banned, they probably aren't happy about it. If they are prone to obsession, mentioning them adds fuel to the fire.
@OhioMike exactly! This needs to stay as a reminder for those that don’t fully understand safety precautions and this is kind of a side message to those small few that still want to support this guy. You are wrong to support him. 100%. Nothing wrong with feeling sad that an individual can get this bad, but to full blown be on team crazy is just wrong.
Why would active members here post that they miss BANNED members? How do you limit something like that ? Do you limit something like that ?
Am I missing something? Isn't stalking illegal? Should not this be dealt with privately with the site owners? Other than some kind of PSA alert I'm not sure why it's being discussed on public forum.
@OhioMike: I mean, it does seem like deliberately waving a big red flag over your own head....
@OhioMike That is the question I had, too.
@snugbuddy this is exactly a PSA alert. I made this publicly for everyone for multiple reasons
I think you @JoyfulHeart said this, what we post on forums is karma. I apologize if you didn’t say that somewhere. I mean saying I miss @bannedabc is pretty much bad karma I think
@DaringSprinter i agree red flag 🚩
@Sheena123 thanks for the explanation. But others are posting about their stalkers. If it's an ongoing thing something should be done about it beyond this website. That's why I mentioned the illegality of stalking. It goes beyond this forum and this website.
@Sheena123 - So nuts that he is so obsessed with you and with attacking you.
I swear that Hollywood has put out at least two or three movies (maybe more?) about this very type of person like a*med.
I absolutely agree with @Gallowglass about the police report being a very good idea.
Anytime @Sheena123
Online stalking is very hard to pinpoint and to create a case. I have a police report for my stalker still active, as it got to the point of harassment of my physical self, my home, and threatening to kill my animals. I know his work and address, as I work in private investigation, it's easier for me to track others locally.
But until they show up and act in violence, there is little to be done. Kinda sucks, but that's the facts. He sent a lackluster apology from a burn number a year or so ago about being "in the wrong" and the "situation was given wrong feedback from someone else" but like, you're a grown man, we don't act like that. Anyone who acts like a basketcase, that's on them.
Invested in my conceal carry, the gun range, and a whole surveillance system. I live in a "stand your ground" state, know what your state allows for defending yourself. I grew up in a hunting family, we are the kindest, most giving people In the world, but don't put my in a position to consider my life vs. yours if you come into my home with bad intentions. I've never had to take it out yet, and don't plan on it 🧐😂😂
I know he goes by other names with pros here and purposely books new pros to not get caught. It's not clever, but as long as he's not treating others like the way he went about with me, I'm relieved for that, even when I know he's here and shouldn't be for his actions.
I just feel, that for whatever animosity is given, to remember, the good people outweigh the bad. Some of the best people I've met in this world have come from the cuddle community.
We all deserve to feel safe and welcomed, and I want that for all, but we have to reflect on ourselves and our actions before we assume it's okay to negatively go out of our way to threaten someone because we didn't like the results from our own actions.
@snugbuddy i know other pros going through this with others, are doing the best they can in the background. Thanks for your concern though 😊😊
@NicoSnuggs oh I know. It’s just such a common theme. There are so many shows about crazies not realizing their actions. To know that there are people out there thinking this behaviour is ok is just baffling to me.
I’ve been talking with some people in the background figuring out my best options
Oof. This needed a trigger warning in the title. I'm sorry you're dealing with this @Sheena123
@CuddleDuncan ~ With all due respect, report him to your local authorities. Disorder or no, his behavior is illegal and should be addressed by trained professionals. If he's doing this to her, he could be doing it to anybody.
Additionally, it really doesn't help to post a warning of someone without a photo so...
If that's actually a real pic of him, that's who you need to beware of.
Oof. This needed a trigger warning in the title.
The trigger warning is the guy's username, for anyone that remembers him or had interacted with him. You know he's deeply problematic, and that this thread wouldn't exactly be a happy stroll down memory lane.
@DeadGirlWalking I actually did not know any of these things before reading this. I wasn't around when he left so I didn't see any of it happening.
There was no reason to put a trigger warning on this thread. Life doesn't come with trigger warnings, and people can't err on the side of caution and put TWs on everything on the off-chance that it upsets someone- that's just not feasible.
I was concerned earlier that this thread might have taken a wrong turning. I'm happy to see that it has not.
No one said there should be a trigger warning on everything. But violent threats... is triggering. Which is the whole point of the thread. However you don't know that until you're already reading it.
Going to lock this thread as the person it is about has been banned and not much else needs to be added to the conversation. While Gary was correct in saying many people who say they have multiple accounts actually end up not, if someone does happen to have multiple accounts please report it immediately for us to address it.