Men Don’t Read.

Indigo1234Indigo1234
in Cuddle Requests

So I joined this site with the intention of ONLY cuddling women 👩 not men 👨.
Reason? I think both genders fell very different to each other while cuddling but in a good way. And I have PLENTY of male friends outside of this site to cuddle but not enough woman cuddle buddies. So that’s what my account on this site is for, finding more female cuddle buddies and forming a small network of female cuddle enthusiasts. I want to have an even balance of each.
Yet despite my profile clearly saying cuddles ‘woman’ I STILL get plenty of men hitting me up with messages. They simply don’t read. Or they do read but decide to push their luck, be cocky and ask anyway. Many of them will flirt saying I have a beautiful smile or pretty eyes or whatever, which actually makes me gag. Some of the men are just straight up ‘men’ and rest of the men are fake woman.
An example of one time I came across a ‘fake’ woman was when I called one of them out by saying:
‘Did you not read my profile? You’re clearly a guy and I don’t want to cuddle men.’
He said:
‘Well I’m a man some days and a woman other days.’
I said:
‘I want a REAL woman. What you said doesn’t make any sense.’

One time I did try cuddling guys on this site, one would kiss my neck, one would grind and cum, and one would try to grab my groin. So I put my foot down and decided men cuddle buddies weren’t welcome with me no more. Men and woman are just different.

One of the woman I found on this site whom I have successfully met up with a few times now was a young trans girl. Since she passed really well and had the bottom surgery, I decided she counted as a real woman.
Although I’m ok with having one trans girl within my network of female cuddlers, I’d like the rest of the woman to be cis.

So I added some details to my profile, being as blunt and as specific as possible.

Saying if you have a penis, don’t message me. Only message me if you have a vagina.

I used anatomy terms as my way of making sure I don’t get anymore fake woman messaging me. Hopefully this new bluntly specific approach does the trick, and keeps the ‘penis owners’ away.

Comments

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @Indigo1234 I'm sorry you've had so many bad experiences. I hope it never happens again, but if it does please Report it. The site is very good at dealing with undesirable soon-to-be-ex-members.

    My profile says that I cuddle only women, but I have been approached by a number of men asking if I would consider cuddling them. I know that other men have had similar messages. This is a social networking site: anybody is free to contact anybody providing their message is worthwhile and polite. If it is not, well, that's what the Report button is for.

    But yes. There are a depressing number of people who fire off [usually vaguely creepy] messages without reading any of the profile at all.

    If the new profile text doesn't do the trick, one thing you might consider trying is to change your main profile image to a nice picture that isn't you. Keep the photo as a secondary image.

  • Indigo1234Indigo1234

    I’ve tried reporting the sleeze bags who came to my house, but CC says that because I have no proof, I technically can’t get them banned……

    Well yeah no kidding I have no proof! What am I supposed to do!? Set up cameras 🎥 in my house during cuddle sessions?

    Why can’t CC just take my word for it?

    Why the hell would I falsely report someone?

  • ASkittishCatASkittishCat

    Wow, transphobic much?

  • netrunnernetrunner Mod
    edited March 2022

    @Indigo1234 You are welcome to have your preferences of who you would like to meet with and cuddle using the site. Having those preferences and clearly stating them on your profile is supposed to help weed out those who wouldn't line up with what you're seeking, but sadly yes, many people don't read the thought put into an site members profile, they simply see who is nearby, active on the site, and who has photo(s) uploaded.

    As for your statements against the site, you haven't reported anyone using the site reporting system, none of your 2 forum topics or 3 comments have been directed to or responded by a site moderator or admin, and you have not privately messaged anyone on the moderator team or the admins of the site. So this statement of trying to report site members and us not doing anything because you have no proof is false.

    I am locking this thread as it is a venting post which breaks the forum rules. @Indigo1234 if you have something to report against someone, please use the site reporting system. If people you don't wish to talk with are sending you messages you have the option to block them and don't have to respond to their messages before doing so.

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