Sex Aggression and Abuse Recovery

[Deleted User]helpertouch (deleted user)
in General

Sexual behavior is supposed to be against the rules. For those of us who are in recovery from childhood sexual abuse, it is hugely triggering and may even seem like cooperation. We are afraid. But when it happens, what do you do? it happened to me and I am trying to get over the triggering behavior. In fact, it almost turned me against cuddling generally and made me wonder if this site is just a disguise for people who want to use cuddling to get sex.

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  • Sheena123Sheena123

    @helpertouch that really sucks. I’m sorry you went through that. There are definitely ppl using this site for the wrong reasons but there are also plenty using it for the right reasons. I’m not sure if I can tell you a step by step way to weed out these jerks except to just stick to your boundaries. Meet in public and make it obvious you don’t want anything sexual to happen. Unfortunately even through all the hard work of getting that blatant message to them, they may still try to break boundaries and be absolute A Holes.

    I hope you’re able to find the comfort you’re looking for.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod
    edited April 2022

    @helpertouch I'm sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately, it is not rare.

    Please Report the person to the moderators. This site is categorically for platonic activity only, and both sex workers and boundary-pushing enthusiasts are banned every day. Sadly there are many people who try to use the site for sexual activity - it's a constant battle to keep them out. The site is well aware of the harm they do.

  • BabichevBabichev

    @helpertouch - I’m sorry that happened to you. We take enforcing the platonic part of this site seriously. Unfortunately, just as elsewhere in the world, there are people here for the wrong reasons. It’s up to individual members to practice due diligence when meeting with other members and to report it when someone is breaking the rules.

  • [Deleted User]FectionKitty (deleted user)

    @helpertouch I wish you well on your recovery and I personally know what it's like to go through childhood sexual abuse. I state right on my profile that if anyone mentions sex or sexuality that I will report them and block them. I had to do that with one of the members on here when he started chatting about that when he texted me. He begged me to give him another chance but I didn't give in. There are lots of internet spaces where people can go if that is what they are looking for.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    Never give anybody a second chance on that point. They will pull the same trick on somebody else, and do more harm.

    Remember that some of them don't want the sex: they like doing the harm.

  • earthlingLucyearthlingLucy
    edited April 2022

    @helpertouch I am so so sorry that such a thing happened to you. I hope for your healing in this area in your life 🙏🏼 Like @FectionKitty , I state clearly on my profile that I am not a sex worker and my services are strictly platonic. Some have said it’s off putting but I don’t care. I hope it wards off the bad apples. I also have it on there just in case someone try to lie about what I provide if they don’t get their way and try to report me or leave bad karma.

  • CozyWolfyCozyWolfy

    I was actually thinking about being a cuddle professional but I got so nervous about this stuff and started having nightmares that I stayed a enthusiasts. Iv got my close circle of trusted cuddlers.. professionals with lots of good karma.. im really sorry this happened to you and I hope you find somone here that makes you feel cozy and safe and help you heal.

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