How do you deal with potential gropers or people who ask for more like to grab your butt, breasts or for kissing?
I don’t want to go past cuddling and hugging personally.
@vtpixie78 I leave then report them. No refund. I don't give redirection or warnings. If you're old enough to cuddle here you're old enough to know what platonic means and control urges and your hands.
Everything starts with being very adamant and clear with boundaries before a session starts. If there's any uncertainty, I'm not shy about clearing up any confusion.
If they ask for anything during my screening that's against the TOS I decline, block and report.
There's tons of very wonderful members here who are capable of keeping their behavior in line with the spirit of non sexual cuddling then there's those who seek out new members and push them because they are new and naive.
Please report all inappropriate requests you receive. The mods are excellent and giving these guys the boot. Don't take communication offsite unless necessary and only after a proposal has been made and accepted. If you do give out your phone number use Google voice or a similar service, never your real number.
Good to know thanks
@Rezz is right. Get out of there and Report. If it's bad enough consider reporting it to the police.
No excuses, no second chances, no benefit of the doubt.
Be aware that some of the problem clients genuinely do not know what the word 'platonic' means. Others have their suspicions but have taken the precaution (in their eyes) of not finding out.
Leave. Immediately. Then report them. Please report them, that’s the only way we can get rid of them. If they did it to you, they are doing it to others, too.
I’ve tried having explicit conversations with some guys about what is and what is not okay and they still push boundaries.
@Babichev
I’ve tried having explicit conversations with some guys about what is and what is not okay and they still push boundaries
And this is precisely why I don't bother with non-accidental redirection or warnings. They know, they just don't care. I'm not your mommy or here to teach you respect.
@vtpixie78 Your profile doesn't mention the rules at all. I know it shouldn't have to but believe me if you add something like this at the bottom of your profile it will keep away alot of the clowns. Much safer for you. you can steal this and use it if you like: "PLATONIC CUDDLING ONLY: ANY GROPING OR INAPPROPRIATE TOUCHING OF ANY KIND WILL BE REPORTED"
In anticipation of people saying you shouldn't have to do that, yea sure I get that...but yet she had bad experiences already so obviously that doesn't help her.
@Melancholy
Yep, being upfront definitely deters the inappropriate requests. In all honesty it took me a long time to add it to my profile too because I didn't want to come off as "negative" as silly as it sounds. I decided nope I'm going to be upfront and let them weed themselves out before they find their way into my inbox. If members see it as negative that's on them.
Don't be afraid to walk away...
Ugh, I hate people who think they can get away with that! My favorite regular tried to flex his erection on me thinking I wouldn’t notice or feel it. I addressed it, he gasped after being caught and I just got up, grabbed my bag and booked it. Reported him after driving around the block for safety. You think you know someone but then you never know who may get violent. Safety first.