So... I read the poll too quickly and thought it said, "Would you be UNcomfortable...." Sooo I answered the poll incorrectly. ((( I totally wouldn't mind cuddling with someone despite a large age difference.
I don't like my truth on this one. I mean it's not that I'm against anyone due to their age, but I'm not fully inclusive of all ages in my searches for potential cuddlers either.
Don't get me wrong, no matter their age (somewhat close to mine, much younger, or much older), if someone reaches out I'm more than happy to converse with them to see if we might be cuddle compatible. But I don't actively look at the profiles of those who are well outside (beyond 15 to 20 years) of me with the intent to message them first about us cuddling together either.
It all has a kind of weird feel to me. Like, why am I not searching everyone? Logically, for me anyway, age shouldn't be a thing. And yet...
@quixotic_life there is nothing wrong at all with being in your comfort zone. Cuddling is not the same thing as having a cup of coffee with someone or chatting online . People tend to confuse preferences with prejudices , and they are two entirely different things
I am 55 Male (going on 35 lol). I met and became instant regular with a pro Female here who is 26. When we are together I feel like I'm with someone I've known for ever. I feel home. This feeling was evident within minutes of our 1st meeting. I feel so comfortable and at ease, we have had amazing conversations on deep subjects as well as lots of lighter fun topics always falling into hearty bouts of laughter and everything in between. I could not care less about the age gap because it doesn't matter and we are 100% compatible on so many levels and as far as I'm concerned age gap is a useless math calculation that has no impact on the ability for 2 adults to have magical cuddle sessions. I would venture to say the same outside of the realm of cuddling, in regard to people in relationships with significant age gaps, but that's not the point of the question or this answer. I have had relationships in past with women much younger than me and age was not the reason they didn't work out. I'm presently going thru separation/divorce with a SO who is basically my age and I can tell you we have literally nothing in common except having kids. In a romantic relationship a significant age gap of 20-30 years would obviously have significant challenges but, it's not unheard of and plenty of beautiful stories of it working and I could go on about my personal feelings on that but I'll spare you. As for cuddling here??? Definitely does not matter as long as both are legal adults which is a requirement and respectful and anyone can have a very unique and special connection and bond regardless of biological age. It's the spirit and the soul that matters and they exist outside of the realm of Chronological time or age. I also belive in soulmates, I've found one 💫that's my story and I'm sticking to it. 🙏😊
@pmvines Levelheaded and correct.
I'm trying to wrap my mind around cuddling people more than 20 years younger because they and I both might be missing out. I'm fine with cuddling any age older than me, but I have always liked older people and I have a sort of old soul. Do you suppose admitting that knocks me out of some younger cuddles? LOL. Oh, well.
@achetocuddle perhaps you are confusing biological age by making a correlation to "old souls" ? Biological age has nothing to do with being an old soul in my humble opinion.
@dungeondrummer Actually I felt like an old soul when I was younger too. I was always mentally mature for my age. When it comes to cuddling someone 30 years younger I just want to make sure they are not too infatuated with trends and I also want to make sure I have enough to bring to the table conversationally.
@Catloaf I have a couple guys in their 60s and all the way down to 25. Sometimes I think the men that look for older women when they are older are just looking for a better connection because someone their own age might have more in common with them. I have had older men say yeah I needed to have an older lady I couldn’t have a younger girl because they were married and I feel like they thought it would be too much temptation to have thoughts. And though everyone says this is platonic cuddling you can’t stop peoples thoughts. So if they’re cuddling women that are older they’re more likely not to have those feelings. Some of my favorite Cuddles have been the younger guys and I don’t know if it’s a motherly feeling, but they were very respectful. When I go to message new people I usually only message people in their late 40s and over, only because I am assuming that most of the younger guys are looking to cuddle younger women. But that’s all just assumptions.
I was sexually abused by my grandfather also so sometimes it triggers me when I’m with older men. I’ve worked in the nursing home for years and I’ve had a lot of sexual comments towards me. I have been actually creeped out so many times got the EBG bees. Of course this is supposed to be platonic cuddling but not everybody has good intentions.
@achetocuddle absolutely, I get that! I have the same exact feelings and I think I just was fortunate in my particular experience. I am keeping myself open to anyone and if I had put an age restriction in my search I would not have met this person and now that I have I am better for it. 😊
@dungeondrummer I'm so happy for you. And a treat for me to hear someone say they have the exact same feelings. Lol. Carry on.
It’s not the old souls she likes, she obviously has a subliminal attraction to the scent of Ben Gay.
Awww thank you. I went into this world of cuddling full of caution dipping my toe in the water, and feel blessed to have met wonderful people here and made an amazing soul connection ✨️ it happens or it doesn't and I'm in a great place because of it while honestly surrounded by a situation that has been crumbling and a downward spiral for...years. so I take this all very seriously because I'm vulnerable and we're all vulnerable. I don't respond well to traditional therapy and this has been amazing. It doesn't come without its own challenges as in wanting to see my cuddler every week or every day, lol! But keeping things in check and in reality I am so happy to have found this site for the people I have met and cuddled with to the amazing folks who I have messaged or learned from reading through forums. It's a great community. My regular cuddle friend is going away for some time and I have been saddened by that but it's also good to keep things in check and just be happy to know I've met great souls here. People come and go in our lives for reasons and sometimes it's so beyond comprehension why some things happen, as when my 2 year old daughter passed away rather suddenly about 8 years ago and I struggle with that intense pain every day, but I also am blessed that she was in my physical life for 2 years I would never go back in time and change the trajectory so she was never born to avoid the pain of losing her, as devastating as it feels, because I had at least 2 beautiful years with her and I know...I belive I will be reconnected with her again in another realm. A lot of this plays into my philosophy of people with age gaps being able to have successful love relationships because things on earth don't last forever and we all move on into another realm at some point, some painfully too soon but we can love intensely and try to fill each other's lives and souls while we are here and just hope and belive we'll all be together in some eternal bliss in the ether. 💫🙏
But yeah.. I'm going to miss my cuddle friend immensely
@FunCartel Thankfully I haven't needed things like Ben Gay in so long I've kind of forgotten what they smell like. Lol. And when I have aches I try to solve them by moving around. I would hate to have to turn down a cuddle due to being at the doc's office for aches and pains. ha ha
No cuddle should occur if either party is uncomfortable. If someone is uncomfortable with a large age difference, they shouldn't do it. It has nothing to do with discrimination. If a cuddler doesn't find me a viable candidate to cuddle with, the reason is irrelevant. It's not about my rights, it's about OUR mutual comfort. I'd feel mortified if a cuddler felt like they had to endure a session with me despite this reason or that reason.
@MrKinder Yep, yep and yep.
Hi folks, been a LONG time since I’ve looked at this thread. All the feedback received is great! I especially like your response @MrKinder
It is clear cut. It’s how I personally feel too.
@achetocuddle - You're not missing a thing. Ben Gay is menthol based, and really stinks. If you ever do have a need, try Aspercreme. It has no scent at all, and works better.
I am a woman who will be 49 years old this May. My first contact with cuddling in around 19 years was with a 26 year old man who I met on Facebook who has a cuddle fetish (he is not on this site nor did I know about this site at the time). He initiated a hug with me I couldn't resist his affection and I returned it. He gave me more hugs that day. We chatted practically every day on Facebook. We got together a few times, one of those times was just to cuddle and talk. After he and I parted ways for good I actually felt lonely but it was loneliness for him. However, he wasn't honest or straightforward with me and he was showing me some red flags which is why I ended the friendship.
I attract younger men who like older women and the fact that many people think that I look young for my age is a big draw for them, it seems. I also have a youthful and quiet spirit. I like being with men who are younger than me I feel at ease with them and they like me. The first cuddle buddy who I got together with on CC is 26 years old. We got together once and I liked the time that we shared together but I never heard from him again.
Would I cuddle a man who is more than fifteen years older than me? Maybe.
@GreatHornedOwl Lol. Good to know.
@FectionKitty Your perspective and experiences are interesting. I didn't know there was such a thing as a cuddle fetish.
I would probably cuddle all ages (18 and up of course). It doesn't really matter to me honestly. That feeling of warmth is just so amazing when cuddling.
@achetocuddle That is what I perceived about him that he got more out of the cuddling than most people would. This guy had other fetishes too.
I'm not exactly sure if the age gaps I've cuddled. Probably about 80 years older and 45 years younger.
I am more comfortable going up in age range. I have cuddled someone 20 years younger but not sure I would be very at ease younger then that.
I think I would feel like I have nothing to offer the conversation and connection and comfort is important to me.
Now mabey if the individual had similar hobbies or occupation I could find common ground to start with.
My ideal comfort level range is about 15 years in each direction.