@pmvines Well said, all of it.
@MCcuddles2 - I agree, trauma is almost so prevalent it could be considered part of the human experience. For those suffering through the lasting effects of trauma my heart goes out to you and I hope folks are able to heal and grow. I love the term post traumatic growth which loosely refers to the potential positive arc of the effects of trauma, be it reframing or sublimation.
@LondonHug Thanks for sharing!! The day got away from me yesterday but I can’t wait to watch this or more likely listen to it as I drive to Nashville today.
@MissAdventurous Great minds think alike!! 🤷♀️🤣 if you have listened to this episode were there any impactful take away you might like to share?
@Saysoh Thank you for sharing and particularly loved the conversation regarding memory as it relates to trauma! Very interesting and I’m also a Lex fan as well!
@cuddler5617 I think you hit the nail on the head, trauma can change the way people, think, feel, react and the lens by which they view the world. Even micro or macro traumas can have lasting effects as discussed in the podcast.
@SCityCuddler 🤣🤣🤣
I've said it before, but a psychology student could use me for their thesis paper, there's so much there to analyze, lol. On the plus side, all of my trauma has made me who I am today, someone I am very proud of and who makes it her mission in life for people to feel seen, valued, appreciated, accepted, etc. No one is or should feel anything less. 💜🤗
@pmvines 💯!!!
I feel like cuddlecomforts is an amazing escape for many of us …. Some people will never admit it or say it … I’m not too cool to say I found CC at the right time in my life when I did.
When I was younger I use to think Trauma was pretty obvious but later figured out that a lot of people who inflict Trauma on others while using the excuse "I went through this and I turned out fine" actually did not turn out fine but are unaware of their own trauma. It's not really an excuse, they should still know better than to treat others that way when they wouldn't like it if they were treated the same way. Just because you survived something doesn't mean you are fine. I've often wanted to die rather than survive with the pain I'm suffering from. Life should be measured by the quality of that life not the quantity, survival isn't everything, I'd rather die young and happy than old and miserable.
@CuddleForDID another reason trauma is under reported is because (at least in America) we like to invalidate feelings and experiences through the phrase "at least..." I guarantee you though, that just because some people have experienced more obvious trauma, that doesn't mean other people haven't experienced trauma themselves. Funny how so many people like to think that. 🤷♀️
@ubergigglefritz - I saw that idea summarized in a bumper sticker which read “Everyone struggles with something you know nothing about” 100% agree that some people’s struggles / trauma may be more obvious but the less obvious can be just as painful, sometimes even more so (although I don’t think it is useful to rank or compare trauma).
An 8 oz glass with 8 oz of water in it is just as full as a 32 oz jar with 32 oz of water in it.
By having a horrible sunburn. That's trauma!
@JohnR1972 yes, everyone's trauma is real for them. 💜💜🤗💜💜
@CrissyKat you are not wrong 🤣
Sometimes something will trigger a thought of me being SA’ed as a kid but I have no memory of that ever happening. Brain, why must you do this to me?
@Charlie_Bear Have you ever researched repressed memories and dissociation?
~ Sunset Snuggles
How many have residual trauma from the Great Toilet Paper Shortage of 2020?
@FunCartel I feel like most emotional trauma is just from being soft. But that one is REAL!
@FunCartel
I bought a bidet. No trauma.
Trauma is just part of this realm. Children are able to decompartmentalize trauma automatically to protect themselves, that's why some won't even remember and don't know why things are triggering to them when they're adults. The feeling of going numb is a protective mechanism. I think it's still all apart of our individual growth.
To think that years from now, people who lived through the Great Toilet Paper Shortage of 2020 will be putting young ones on their knee and telling them, “I remember when mud butt was a thing.”
@Saysoh bidets are the best. I love that the shortage introduced some people to them. 😁💜
@SunsetSnuggles oh no I haven’t. Ha I wonder if that’s something I’d be better off just swallowing the blue pill for 😅
@Saysoh I went to India like 12 years ago and that is when I was introduced to the bidet. I bought one and my quality of life has improved 1000%
@Charlie_Bear I hear you.
"I saw that idea summarized in a bumper sticker which read “Everyone struggles with something you know nothing about” 100% agree that some people’s struggles / trauma may be more obvious but the less obvious can be just as painful, sometimes even more so (although I don’t think it is useful to rank or compare trauma)."
The less obvious can be more painful because people say things like "other people have it worse than you" which like you said isn't useful to compare and only serves to make the person feel worse about themselves.
All that's going to do is teach them that either they should be happy as long as someone else is suffering which is how you end up with bullies and teach kids to grow up into psychopaths. Or you'll get someone who constantly puts others first even at the risk of their own health, like me, I feel like if I complain about how others treat me I hear that "others have it worse" nonsense as if that justifies how I'm treated as OK when it's not. I'm aware I have it pretty good compared to other people but that doesn't mean I should feel greatful for the abuse I've suffered.
To put it simply just because you use a smaller knife doesn't make it hurt any less when you get stabbed with it. And I've literally heard someone make that comparison before that they got stabbed but I didn't just because the weapon was bigger and actually left a more visible scar. Technically everyone's been stabbed at some point but might not have a visible scar from it but we've have the capability to give vaccinations without needles for almost 40 years. The only reason we don't is because doctors make more money by needlessly hurting their patients instead of switching to painless vaccination methods. They don't see it as a big deal cause "it only hurts for a second" unless you have nerve damage and your nervous system just never stops sending those pain signals so you're forced to feel it for the rest of your life. No visible scar but mentally it takes a toll and there's no legitimate reason it needed to be done that way in the first place. I wouldn't want my worst enemy to suffer the way I have even if it was only for a second. Just because my suffering is worse than anyone else who doesn't have this issue does that mean they should have to endure the needle when there's no real reason to keep using them?
They even have patches for the Covid vaccine that are not only safer than the injection but have even been proven more effective than the injection so why isn't everyone getting the Patch instead of the Injection? Again, because it's a cheaper option and they care more about making money than your health.
"Sometimes something will trigger a thought of me being SA’ed as a kid but I have no memory of that ever happening. Brain, why must you do this to me?"
I kind of get annoyed by people over using the term "trigger" usually when they actually mean "offended" that's not the same thing. That's like claiming to have a food allergy when you actually just don't like the taste.
That being said... this actually sounds like a correct use of the word trigger. You know it's correct when you're talking about an involuntary response like a repressed memory or in my case, a switch between different identity states. Triggers are always either directly or indirectly related to personal trauma in some way. They are just anything that makes you feel bad.
Triggers can actually be positive too. If I hear a song or watch something an alter likes, this doesn't always work but it can some times trigger that alter to the front. This can also occur with food or drink that are favorites for other alters. Orange Crush was one of my favorite drinks when I was little it's pretty common for people with DID to have child alters who are stuck in the age when the trauma happened. I have rarely ever had one cause it's a positive trigger for child alters to front. Even when I have had one I think I took like 3 sips maybe then the next thing I know the can is empty and I don't remember drinking it. I don't think my littles even front too often they literally only seem to show up just to drink my Orange Soda when ever I try to have one then disappear again.
After the isolation of the pandemic we all have some trauma to process, things that you may not be actively thinking about produce a trauma response in the body. As an example, I took a course about processing trauma and even though I can look back on a happy childhood, the questions brought up things I had forgotten, even complications related to childbirth can be traumatic. I was pulled by my head with forceps and I had my cord wrapped around my neck. That's a story that I heard a couple of times but I didn't personalize it because it's pre-memory but the body still stores it. Releasing trauma and doing shadow work is important for everyone to do.
@CuddleForDID posted: "just because you use a smaller knife doesn't make it hurt any less when you get stabbed with it." This is an amazing analogy. Will be pondering this one, thank you.
This is a false statement. In March the NIH and the University of Texas at Austin began studies and trials on the patch that are the final steps for submittal. The patch is not on the market in the US as of yet. But yes, in limited studies so far it is proving to be more effective. But until it’s on the market you can’t make the assertion that everyone is only pushing the needle for monetary gains.
Trauma shapes our reality sometimes and replays constantly until we break the cycle.
Trauma can condition our worldviews and opinions and can continue to do so unless we are introspective and understand the cycle and weed it out.
From personal experience, trauma can take decades to get over (I've gone to therapy, done lots of meditation, read a lot of self help books, talk to friends , etc )...and that's with lots of mindfulness and work. And with that, there's no guarantee it'll ever all go away.
Cuddling heals Trauma too and deep friendships.
Also, the creation of trauma is not our fault, but the elimination of it is our responsibility.
"Scars come with living".
"I don't care who you are this world gonna leave some battle scars"
Lyrics by Toby Mac
@taminator Aww, love TobyMac, I grew up on DC Talk!
"This is a false statement. In March the NIH and the University of Texas at Austin began studies and trials on the patch that are the final steps for submittal. The patch is not on the market in the US as of yet. But yes, in limited studies so far it is proving to be more effective. But until it’s on the market you can’t make the assertion that everyone is only pushing the needle for monetary gains."
The source I read said it had been tested in Ohio not Texas and was already proven more effective than the injection. It's been ready for mass release for months already as it was developed at the same time as the standard injection methods. So my statement was actually true. It really is only because of monetary gain that it hasn't been put out on the market, they're intentionally delaying the release for something that was already proven to work.
@cylee1180 So beautifully said and I couldn’t agree more. Cuddling and deep friendships do heal trauma 💜 I commend you for being actionable in your pursuit of healing and growth !
@taminator I loved the Toby Mac lyrics you shared as well. So very on point.