To the extent that a particular cuddle pro has personal boundaries more liberal than those spelled out on the site, I let the pro make their own boundaries clear, in their own time and in their own way. I don't push for things. But I'm relaxed and open to most things, as long as those things don't cross my boundaries. <
Well said to whoever said this. I think this is what I have been trying to communicate all along.
Hope this helps.
CarlosHunt, please refrain from commenting on my post. I do not feel comfortable with you participating in this thread for a few reasons that I will not publicly disclose. Thank you.
Sweetstuff this is a public forum, and as a relatively new cuddler you should be more aware of your surroundings. And have a nice day. Have you ever heard of the first amendment?
@CarlosHunt I'm not speaking for SweetStuff - she spoke clearly and plainly. Speaking for myself, your comments are innuendo and double-speak. This isn't high school and "will she let me put my hand up her skirt even though she told me no!" type of stuff. You can fall back on "but but but... human nature!" and "hey, there are professional cuddlers, and then there are PROFESSIONAL cuddlers nod nod wink wink", but it all reeks of blatant disregard of the intent of the site and blatant disrespect in general. It's creepy. It's gross. It's unwelcome and unwarranted.
@Sideon - All I did was repost a quote that SweetStuff claimed came from another guy. And at the end of her post she said she likes his attitude.
Please don't put words in my mouth.
Am I missing something?
Look, I'm not asking everyone to agree with my POV. Like I said I just try to keep it real, I've cuddled for over 5 years, and most of my experiences have been very positive.
If by "keeping it real" means any way to skirt the rules or try to coerce someone's agreements and integrity, by all means, clear this up and speak your POV clearly.
@Sideon - I'm gonna take the high ground, so there is no need to respond to unfounded accusations.
I just read your profile to try to get a better understanding of where you are coming from, so I hope you continue to enjoy your cuddling adventures. I'm just looking for nice ladies to cuddle with.
And thanks for the Tanya Huff reco I'm into Sci Fi too, the hard stuff not fantasy, but I may check her out.
No one back pedals like CarlosHunt! Lol.... The king of "But what I really meant was".... I think we all know what he really means. I've found if you just let people talk on these forums they expose themselves for what they are. Let him ramble. He will hang himself.
@Scarlette - thx for your support - a few very vocal cuddlers won’t scare me away lol - get Lots of messages regarding my comments from both men and women-
We can agree to disagree
Mighty generous of you, CarlosHunt. Thanks for the well wishes. I'll PM you some Sci-Fi favorites.
And I’m not here to hang anyone - smile - and Wasn’t it you who saidThat one of your cuddle buddies turns into a relationship? I bet if I had said something like that I’d be crucified here
Are you talking to me?
@CarlosHunt i was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, i regret it. This thread is about mutual respect and clear communication. You're not being respectful of @sweetstuff on the thread she started. Your pov seems to be "why can't we do it if she wants it?" Why is that such an important point to make in this thread? I don't think @sweetstuff is trying to deny people sex that have agreed to it mutually. It's just a weird point you're trying to make. The women on here are trying to tell you it's inappropriate and you're not listening, so why would you listen to a woman in person?
@CarlosHunt I've certainly heard of the first amendment, and surely you must know that it is not absolute. Using the Cuddle Comfort website is subject to their Terms and Conditions. Let us consider their Conduct clause below.
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Your first amendment right protects you from none of the above. Furthermore, your posts on this thread could be considered Baiting and or Personal Attacks if there is sufficient history between you and SweetStuff to make that determination. In any case, just remember that those who run this site can bounce any of us out of here and [at least legally] won't owe any explanation.
Now for the portion of SweetStuff's comment that you quoted (shown below).
To the extent that a particular cuddle pro has personal boundaries more liberal than those spelled out on the site, I let the pro make their own boundaries clear, in their own time and in their own way. I don't push for things. But I'm relaxed and open to most things, as long as those things don't cross my boundaries.
If this is your TRUE position, then you should have no issues here. However!
This post from SweetStuff, and some of your own posts, suggest that you may have behaved contrary to the above position. What say you in this regard?
I say you have just wasted a lot of valuable cyber space and no one will read this ridiculous post so why don’t you call your favorite cuddler and relax - if needed I can recommend one for you -
Life is much too short - I won’t judge you so please don’t judge me
And all of my cuddles have invoked communication and mutual respect-
I read this "ridiculous post" and agree 100%. Nicely stated @Shoshozz. What CarlosHunt fails to realize is that pros message each each other. Text each other. Mostly about fantastic cuddlers that we highly recommend but sometimes about others. He is the other. Don't feed into this nonsense. It's all happening in the background. Happy Wednesday! Peace and love!
@Scarlette - what you fail to realize is that most people on this site don't read the forum posts at all ... so your "background" threats are kinda lame.
BTW, I had a very nice cuddle with a first time (for me) cuddler on Monday, very nice lady. We agreed on what to wear ahead of time, the rules never came into question, totally platonic, I loved it. She just texted me today wanting to schedule another session.
Conversely, another cuddler offered to cuddle in bra and panties, at an upcharge, on her very first email communication with me. I declined.
Another cuddler suggested we cuddle in a bathtub, wearing bathing suits ... If I told you who that was you'd be shocked.
Its all good I won't report anyone.
Please tell your backround cuddlers I said hello.
I try not to be hypocritical.
@carlosHurt....oh wait...I mean CarlosHunt...do your thing... sneak around in the background all you want. Your wife would be so proud.
@Scarlette - have a nice night no need to get personal ..... and BTW I would bet most of your clients are married too
Oh, I know who you are talking about. She's the professional who put "Finds alone time in the bathtub soothing" on her profile. This professional experienced a partial cuddle session in the tub once that didn't include sexual favors, but then again your standards for cuddling is not the same as hers. This is the same professional cuddler who made it clear that she wasn't going in the tub with just a bathing suit on. She mentioned that she was going to wear a t-shirt over her bathing suit. She even said the session will not be in the tub the whole time. This is also a professional who was comfortable with wearing leggings and a shirt and not a dress or short shorts as requested. Luckily, this professional had enough sense to not meet with you for a cuddle session.
@CarlosHunt
Funny how you downplayed my "ridiculous post" without even defending the First Amendment which you chose to mention on this thread. And not to worry - I have a favorite cuddler who definitely helps me to unwind. I'll be hanging out with her again soon.
Are you sure about this statement? Your 5-star karma would certainly suggest this, except one of such karma reviews came from a cuddler who alleged that you behaved inappropriately during one of your sessions with her. Will you at least give us your side of the story?
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As I recall...this is a 19 yr old girl.
"Open minded"? You mean won't try to ban you?
I think posting private messages without permission is against site rules. I won't go there.
From the Terms and Conditions:
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Didn't realize private messages between two cuddlers were considered chat rooms - I will defer to Mark, the Admin.
Cant defend the content so you instead attack the poster who posts it