My thought in asking the question was the unexpected nature of the dog’s reaction. If it is a dog that likes most people, the owner of the dog may have never anticipated the dog reacting poorly to the person showing up and would not have thought to put it in their profile that their dog’s approval was necessary.
Some people believe dogs are good judges of a person’s character, other people completely discount a dog’s reaction and attribute it to possibly the scent of another animal on the person or the person reminding them of someone who had mistreated the dog.
I have only hosted a cuddle once and it was with someone I had cuddled with numerous times before so I would not have worried at all if my dog had reacted poorly to her (the only reaction my dog had was wanting tummy rubs from my cuddle partner).
I'm not sure but I guess my answer won't matter. I have really mixed feelings about dogs and generally not an animal person in general so won't have a pet to even be in that situation.
Buttttt I had one pet in my childhood. Loved it and no other pet can replace it so another reason why I won't get a pet. But if my cat had a problem with someone then I would keep away because I would still be a kid then for that pet to be alive. If it was alive and with me now then it would depend. If it is someone I have been friends with and hung out before then I'd think my cat was jealous or something and not make a big deal about it. If the person is new then I'd be more cautious.
@Mike403 @FunCartel Maybe they'll put it in their profile, maybe they won't. No still means no. What you see as proper may not be everyone's protocol .
I mean, hypothetically you might lose an hour or so. I mean, is your time that important? How would you plan on addressing your discontentment with the person?
No one is really obligated to do anything to someone they don't know imo. Personally, I'd just move on, but dunno what else there is to do except bad karma or reporting them.
@FunCartel is spot on (as usual). If your dog has to like your cuddle buddies, tell your would-be buddies that right off, along with any other requirements you have.
No big deal.
@cylee1180 - I am with you. If a person knows there is some situation or “red flag” that would make them feel unsafe then it would be nice if they put that in their profile. However, if for ANY reason a person feels unsafe / uncomfortable, they have a right to change their mind and say no whether the “red flag” is mentioned in their profile or not.
If someone shows up for a cuddle wearing an ankle monitor, is the woman obligated to go through with the cuddle because she didn’t say anything about ankle monitors in her profile? Of course not. What if someone shows up with a visible, offensive tattoo or wearing a shirt with an offensive symbol or message on it? I believe anything that makes a potential cuddle partner feel uncomfortable / unsafe (including a negative reaction from their dog) is sufficient grounds to immediately change their minds regardless of whether it is spelled out in their profile.
@JohnR1972 Totes agree. I know the peeps on this forum mean well and are coming from the angle of : making plans, being courteous and dependable, expecting reciprocation, and annoyed if someone uses a "stupid " reason to opt out of the appointment. I understand that to some extent.
But pples comfort level before, during , or after a cuddle really comes first imo.
But most of you are experienced cuddlers, so you've probably never been put in that same exact situation, though it can happen someday and it's always better to just respect their decision or if nothing else avoid getting bad karma for self-preservation.
Pc yall.