@WriterGF I think the site wants their 15%, and only bans the most egregious behavior. Allowing the rest to continue as the fees come in.
@snugglebug3 - this is your opinion, but factually untrue. We mods ban upwards to 30-40 people daily, both Pros and clients. We mods have no financial stake in this site. We moderate because we care about the community. [-Sid]
To the title of this thread: "Interest in Girls Who Don't do Anything Sexual Nonexistent"
This has not been my experience, as a female enthusiast. I have had no problems finding platonic interest and having successful, 100% platonic cuddles with zero boundary-pushing. How? I made friends, first. Boundary pushers (of any gender) won't stick around for friendship. Thus far, they have made themselves known quickly (and yes, there are many of them), and the true friendships easily stand apart.
~ Sunset Snuggles
@SunsetSnuggles - Pros tend to want to get straight to business as soon as possible since they aren't getting paid making friends and may see it as a waste of time.
My observation of Cuddle Comfort is that, as a rule of thumb, if Instagram and Twitter don't do it, CC isn't going to do it either.
@cylee1180 Thanks for clarifying:)
This is a great thread with so many thoughtful and correct points.
I don't really believe in morals being legislated. Obviously not including things that are not just moral issues. Putting effort into trapping and catching sex workers and their clients doesn't make a lot of sense to me. Some say it reduces other crime.
snugglebug3 has deactivated.
All i can say is... AGREED.
@achetocuddle Thanks for calling me out! There's no room for any of that nonsense (misogyny)! This thread has been eye opening.
@snugglebug3 If all you are asking is for the site to see ID, why not just ask to see it yourself (virtually) before the cuddle and cancel if it's not shown? I believe any cuddler has the right to take any precautions necessary to feel safe and to reject anyone who objects.
I totally understand your point and that you mention it on your profile is definitely scaring away the clients who would try to get something else out of it. I had more than enough cuddle sessions that went just like you described and it does get frustrating. I cuddled with way more people than I have karma on my profile and that says a lot. Those who didn't leave karma are the ones that got reported. I'm on a mission to help those who want to learn controlling their sexual urges...that someone is getting aroused happens all the time, but acting on it is a completely different story. Having a clear conversation about do's and dont's at the beginning of a session has been proven fruitful in my experiences. Of course it's not our job to educate them on what is appropriate and what not, but I made great experiences with those who were willing to listen and learn. Once I was venting on my profile as well, showing my frustration, but decided to not let it get to me and between me and potential clients and I changed it to a more positive approach. It's a lot about communication and it starts on your profile. I noticed less people messaging me with booking requests, just like you but at the same time I noticed that even people with good intentions stayed away because they didn't want to be around this negative frustrated energy. They don't know you're gonna be the sweetest person during the cuddle...**your profile will always be the first impression you leave. ** There are also ways to filter the black sheep in your first conversation here on CC, with the right questions...while some might be good in hiding, most are not and you get a feeling for their real intentions by the way they answer you. It takes time and practice to filter them but you will get there. Always remember you attract what you think about, the universe gives you exactly what you don't want if you think bout it too much...focus on the positive things. Energies are contagious.
I definitely wish you nothing but great cuddle experiences for your future. And that your frustration will turn into motivation and positive energy that you sparkle like glitter on everyone who crosses your way 🧚
@European_Amazon You know the secret. Whether your thinking.. I would like, or not like, your projecting that energy into the world and attracting all those things 😀
Hi, so just responding to the original post. I’m so sorry you have been treated this way. No one should be abused and I hope everyone sees your post.
I’ve cuddled a couple times and am the guy that understands boundaries. There are other places to easily get sex. It sucks that these people ruin it for guys like me.
I am coming here for therapeutic reasons and to learn to deal with my intimacy issues that I have getting close to others.
It’s really hard to find cuddle partner for honest guys. I feel like I get stereotyped easily, so alot if the times pros don’t even respond to me, and I feel trying to talk to an enthusiast would even be harder because of my own self worth not allowing me to accept that another human being will just want to be close to me.
There have been a couple pros I did talk to, they had to put their boundaries up immediately and it intimidates me, basically because I don’t want to try to go into a situation where the cuddled is on guard with me before I met them and have a pre conceived notion that I am going to sexually assault someone.
This is awful and the blame is squarely on those rotten people who abuse others. I hope everyone of those people get reported.
I hope things get better for you, I’m sorry there are sone humans who are like this
I've been on this site for less than 24 hours and I've already got men getting butthurt that I don't want to exchange numbers or get a hotel with them or don't want to cuddle with someone more than twice my age. I guess hoping this place would be better than dating sites was too wishful thinking.
@thespookiestace
men getting butthurt that I don't want to exchange numbers or get a hotel with them or don't want to cuddle with someone more than twice my age
All of these are extremely common on this site, and don't seem to be related at all to what people on this thread are complaining about.
To the original OP, and everyone else who gets it:
YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEPPP.
@thespookiestace welcome, sorry to hear you've been subjected to that, and hang in there. New women tend to get slightly swamped, but it reduces after a while. Dont worry, there are nice people here too.
@thespookiestace Hang in there! Happy that you are weeding out the lack of compatible interest people and more compatible ones will appear in time (has been my experience). Friends and or cuddles (in time) with compatible people make this site more than worth it!!!🤗@CuddleDuncan 💯
@thespookiestace - Just tell them to kick rocks. You need to be blunt. Don't worry about hurting somebody's feelings. They obviously aren't respecting your boundaries.
I am so happy someone posted this. As a new pro, I am encountering this a lot. I've noticed some back off when I push the rules of the site and boundaries. It is almost disheartening, that being said.
No warnings should be given for attempting to cross the line into non-platonic territory. They know the rules and attempting to play dumb shouldn't work. If it happens, just walk out and leave and you still get paid. This is why pros should collect the money before the session begins.
@Lunaari Hopefully you'll find what the pros that I've met have found: a good vetting process and repeat clients that they can trust.
Rob Schnieder: "You can do it!"
They’ve been banning the wrong pros as well.
@cylee1180 I am very hopeful!
...also Rob Schnieder is hilarious!
@thespookiestace Certainly supportive of your right to discriminate on any basis you choose to, as the right of association seems to be a fundamental value. It is especially concerning that the overwhelming effect from men trying to push women sexually is like a sea straining against a tenous wall here. For this reason I am undertaking an experiment to cuddle with a man pro here. I want to see if cuddling can still be as beneficial and fulfilling without concern for gender. I am open to this because in professional massage we practitioners tend to be concerned about finding somebody who has the right technique, completely disregarding gender or age or ethnicity or anything.
@UCpaaHVg6u0 Cool 😎 experiment idea, interesting points and open mind!🎉
@Lunaari Yes, yes. Love Rob (and Adam Sandler!).
@SuperManCuddles Next time I'm in Central Florida, we'll give it a try!
@UCpaaHVg6u0 Awesome 😎 🤩🎉Thank you!🤗
It really is a shame, I have not encountered that per se. But I did have an encounter with one person that wanted to meet with me at around 10 at night at a park. I was not entirely comfortable with that. I also had one person say that she wanted to charge me even though she was not a registered professional. Needless to say, I am glad she was banned.
How long have you been cuddling? If I may ask. Not that the length matters, because you should be able to do professional cuddling without this issue and I think the longer you experience the ins and outs of cuddling, it becomes a lot easier to find the folks who are serious about this service. I always find it pretty useful to communicate to the cuddler prior to the session to see what they are looking for, not just in terms of the cuddle session, but I mean, in terms of what needs they are looking to fulfill. Do they specify they need physical touch? Well yeah, but further elaborate sir, what does physical touch mean to you? Do you need a female companion? (Might be kinda sketchy to hear that but have them further elaborate.. why is that female cuddle companion necessary?) Now if they say something like "i am single and am in need of a touch from a woman" it warrants very careful precaution because while platonic touch can definitely fulfill the needs of a single person who does not have their cuddle or physical touch needs met, it is no replacement for sexual or romantic needs. the longer you cuddle, the easier it gets to vet these folks out before a session actually happens. well wishes to you!