What are some things you like doing to get you comfortable with cuddling?
Honestly I do like to have my back rubbed. I find it very relaxing which end the end makes me more comfortable.
I have long considered myself royalty and the King of My Domain. Hence I have a court cuddler who cuddles on my behalf and reports back to me. If everything is deemed to Royal standards, I will be comfortable cuddling. So it is said, so shall it be done.
I'm trying to figure out what makes me/one uncomfortable with cuddling...
I suppose conversation, witty banter, and mutual interests help to make two people comfortable with each other?
@FunCartel - I had something like a tester years ago when I worked in construction but it was for jokes. My husband was also a construction electrician. At a point, we ended up working for the same contractor and then ended up working on the same job, though it was a large job and we were on different crews. Now and then a guy would approach me and start to tell a joke. Mostly I did not want to hear their jokes because inevitably they were either racist, degrading to women, anti-Semitic, or of a sexual nature. So I’d stop them and tell them to go tell the joke to my husband and he’d let them know if it was a joke I’d appreciate or not. It worked. Mostly I didn’t hear many jokes.
Conversation and very gentle touch.
I want to say that I like to massage around the traps and neck (and scalp if it's okay to do so), but there is a lot of negativity aimed at guys who offer to massage. I'm not sure if I understand it. If we are talking a compete massage, then yeah... That's outside of the rules here. But somehow the offers of massage are a red flag (wrong thread, I know!). Possibly I'm simply naïve.
@UCpaaHVg6u0 there is nothing wrong in principle with a bit of over the clothes massage. However, it's inapproprate to mention it before you've even met. Offering to massage is also a standard seduction technique in the outside world: I've used it myself, and indeed had it used on me.
The real problem is that it's used as a boundary-testing technique by creeps. It's a relatively 'innocent' request, but if it is received not negatively the creep will then try to push a bit further.
@CuddleDuncan Well now I'm going to have that song stuck in my head all day...
@FunCartel 😂😂😂.
@Mama_Bre Same here. A gentle back rub, or even just placing a hand on my back is one of the fastest ways for me to be soothed. Probably because that's how my Mom always calmed me down when I was very little.
Usually meditation before a session or soft music, talking about something of interest, family, travel or goals, or a huge long hug usually warms up the atmosphere for me. 🤗🌸🦋
A little devil worship before and after . Maybe sacrifice a small mammal the day before. During the cuddle its sweatin to the oldies complete with a Richard Simmons headband, sequened glitter tank top , and short shorts that barely keep the gonads from becoming a spectacle
@pmvines Lol. You're perking today, aren't you? In my next life I'm gonna know which outrageous remarks are socially acceptable.
I might offer a hand massage. I'm pretty comfortable already.
Head scratching. 😊