Pros vs non

caperunnercaperunner
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Since I’ve turned pro, my request have gone down a lot. Especially when I stress the importance of platonic touch, fully clothed, and other boundaries when discussing meeting. Did others see the drop in request? When I first joined, most men were upfront almost immediately about wanting sex. One even went so far as too ask for my house key to sneak in and cuddle as he pleases.

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  • RezzRezz

    Yes.
    I was never an enthusiast, but I would definitely see how your inbox was overflowing.

    Stick to those boundaries girl.
    Report those asking for more obviously

  • MelancholyMelancholy

    I would be shocked if you got more requests since going pro. That wouldn't make sense.
    Paying for cuddling is not ideal. It's just what most guys have to do because of the gender balance issue.

  • Cuddle_LonelyCuddle_Lonely
    edited July 2022

    That's unfortunate. And sadly it seems like it makes it more difficult to get a very important need met. I've actually reached out to multiple pros here because of how desperate I am right now and haven't heard back from any of them yet. Though I'd like to believe it's simply because I'm in the difficult position of being relatively short notice (less than a week away) and also need someone that can host.

    The ratio of pro to enthusiasts I've reached out to is at least 2 to 1. I've only reached out to two enthusiasts for quite a few reasons. One being the fact that being a man of a certain size I've got some body image issues. But also because of the fact that many of the enthusiasts in my area are much younger than I am and I don't want to come off as the creepy old man.

  • [Deleted User]DeadGirlWalking (deleted user)
    edited July 2022

    @Cuddle_Lonely I don't think you'd come across as a creepy old man- for what it's worth, if I were closer I'd absolutely cuddle you- you seem genuine and sweet, and anyone that likes animals gets my vote (plus you have excellent taste in TV- Jokers is my go-to when I need a laugh!)

  • Cuddle_LonelyCuddle_Lonely

    @DeadGirlWalking that's super nice of you to say. Thank you. Yeah I love Impractical Jokers. Been watching it from the start. I've also been watching a lot of 8 out of 10 Cats on Brit Box lately. I figure if I can't cuddle I at least can laugh.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @caperunner I would be willing to bet it's because you're charging now. Enthusiasts get buried in messages. Pros are in competition with other pros in their area and have to face the hurdle of people being reluctant to pay for this. Your boundaries are completely reasonable.

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    @Cuddle_Lonely the 'creepy old man' fear - which I used to share - comes from a particular aspect of what you might loosely call the romantic sphere of life.

    In the cuddling world, approaching only women much younger than you is creepy behaviour. But approaching people of all ages, including those younger, is not. I approach people irrespective of age and I've had very happy and successful cuddle connections with people in their twenties. (I'm in my fifties.)

  • ShakeShake

    The decrease in demand makes sense for the reasons @Melancholy described. Hiring a pro isn't anyone's first choice if they can get cuddles for free, but it is way more convenient just to hire a pro. So I wouldn't be discouraged by it. If you look at my Karma, two are enthusiasts & the rest are pros. Without pro's, meeting one's basic touch needs would be near impossible. We need people like you.

    The nonplatonic questions however have never made sense, & will not in the history of anything ever make a lick of sense. We are on a site for cuddling & wholesome hugs for Christ's sake. Where does this boldness/audacity keep coming from??? Hope one day people get the picture. 🙃

  • CuddleWhoCuddleWho

    I just did a search in your area. There are 17 men within 50 miles of you who've visited the site within the last week. That's a lot better than 0, but it very well may not be enough to provide a steady stream of paying clients.

  • sweetsnuggiesweetsnuggie
    edited July 2022

    @Cuddle_Lonely I tried to send you a message, but it will now only allow people in your area because your receiving so many. I’m very happy for you and hope you enjoy the close touch…🥰

  • peacefulcuddlerpeacefulcuddler

    I think if cuddle pros were less expensive I'd message them, but I often see rates greater than 80 an hour. Just too much for me. Rather cuddle my pillow for free.

    I have met up with people to cuddle from here though, enthusiasts, and it was Greta. One was a former pro who worked at a cuddle studio, and she was great. Also said I was a really good cuddler. Which I may humbly agree with.

  • Minestrone101Minestrone101

    The pros I've met with have developed a list of regular cuddlers that they meet with. I hope you find that too!

    While there are cuddlers that won't pay, there are also many cuddlers that will. Gl!

  • sunnysideupsunnysideup

    If the are less requests after you put up platonic boundaries ok your profile, then good riddance to them! Less trash you have to deal with in person.

  • Cuddle_LonelyCuddle_Lonely

    @sweetsnuggie Strange. I'm not sure what the system considers "a lot" of messages, but I've received about 5 messages since I joined. Either way thank you for taking the time to reach out. I sadly still haven't found a cuddle partner yet but I'm still holding hope.

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