@Wanderlust74 - Men are naturally wired to want sex with anything that moves. What I don't understand is why they choose to come to a community that is centered around cuddling. There isn't a shortage of places for them to go.
@Mike403: Guess I know some men with unnatural wiring, then. Lucky us!
@DaringSprinter - Yep. Just like my cat think he's a dog and begs me to play fetch with him. There is that rare exception where something doesn't live up to the norm of the species.
I don’t believe I’m wired that way. Definitely not.
@Bashfulloner - If you're on the right site, you shouldn't be. A cuddling only community is a niche community while there isn't a shortage of sites for guys looking for sex.
I try to go out of my way to not put off a sexual vibe, but I feel like I'm always being judged. To be honest, it interferes a lot with my enjoyment of the cuddle session, since I feel like my partner thinks I'm a pervert lying in wait.
@laidbackron Welcome back. I look forward to commentary from the new softer you.
@Btown - lol. He's banned. He's had one too many timeouts for his forum behavior.
@zerocantaloupe I wholeheartedly agree with you. Either I feel I’m being judged for some completely made of thin air narrative or I feel like I’m being scammed by a romance scammer because of their conscious effort into their desired outcome. It feels like a word trap frankly.
My private thoughts should be my own, I’m that they are PRIVATE. And I shouldn’t be judged simply for existing. Judge people based on irl behaviors and actions, geez
There are a few pros who might just be interested in the money and are trying to get it over with. If I wanted to cuddle a dead fish, I'd go to the seafood section of the supermarket.
@zerocantaloupe said it best imo. I feel like i need to be extra cautious with how i speak to people so i don’t give off a uneasy feeling to any ladies, but i think it most often gets interpreted wrong. I’m only assuming but i get that feeling.
So i practice patience, i engage in the forums and try to build a report with new cuddles. What seems to happen is new enthusiasts get turned off to the site by overly attentive guys, again I’m assuming. I can’t help but get the feeling that the cuddlers in my area see me the same as the pushy guys.
I'm fascinated there exist men who get offended that other men don't have sexual urges as strong as they do, like they are compensating for the guilt of a lifetime of creeping on women in their heads.
@Mike403 - I am sorry you have had that type of experience. So far I have had very positive experiences with every pro and enthusiast I have shared time with.
@Mike403 because CC is easier or cheaper for them to navigate than the various sugar dating/escort sites (which many of our pros belong to) out there. Simple as that. Many of them have it down to a science and target girls who are in need of the $$$ and enjoy the lifestyle. There are many 50-60 yr old boomers with expendable income and trust me, they use it.
Just an FYI - the youngest boomers today are about 58 years old. The leading edge of Gen X were born in 1965 and would now be about 57.
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@Wanderlust74 exactly. People come here looking because there are rumors this is a place to go for it and there ARE pros (and a steady incoming flow of them) who DO offer those other services. I honestly don't blame the men at all. They're just going where they're told to go, in search for something that you can't legally openly look for, which shouldn't be illegal in the first place. I blame the government for having sex work illegal and the people who want it to stay that way. Legalizing it would make all of us safer. And this site also doesn't help in how loosely their guidelines are for keeping pros having a purely platonic tone and feel (and all the people fighting against the notion that such tone even exists in the first place). Even with the best tone, we would get some riffraff, but it affects the numbers and definitely decreases them (there are fewer here than other more sketchy sites, and we get more than Cuddlist, for example). Same as how I get virtually no sexual inquiries yet other pros get a ton, from the same source of people on CC. Men aren't idiots. They're not going to message someone with a purely platonic tone when there are other pros with a sexual tone. (Disclaimer: no matter your tone, you get a lot when new, but that's when the overall site tone and reputation comes more into play).
@ubergigglefritz - Some cops even go so far to go out of their way to set up sting operations looking for men who are seeking such services... as in they have nothing better to do. I'm all for busting child predators, but leave consenting adults be.
@Mike403 exactly. Victimless crimes.
@Mike403 I'm confused by your posts. Do you agree that people looking for SW should not be doing it on CC?
[ed: I was confused about mixed messages because "all men just want sex, and all women should know that" is a very common rationalization for consent violations, like it's some kind of excuse]
@cde123 - Yes. I'm not against SW, but this is the wrong place to look for it. I'm not sure what you're confused about.
I agree, should be legalized but as someone in the executive branch of LEO, it’s not always victimless. Perhaps on here, independent sites and so on, yes.
@Wanderlust74 - People also say that about porn, but there are porn stars who absolutely enjoy their work. If it's forced, then it's an entirely different can of worms.
@JohnR1972: Bugs me when people mix up the generations, too.
Silent Generation 1928–1945 (77–94)
Boomers 1946–1964 (58–76)
Gen X 1965–1980 (42–57)
Millennials 1981–1996 (26–41)
Gen Z 1997–2012 (10–25)
Gen Alpha 2013–present (0–9)
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@Wanderlust74 we're not talking about the times when there are victims. The fact that it's not always with a victim is what indicates that WHAT is the crime is immoral. Killing someone is never victimless, thus it's a crime. Playing with knives is usually victimless, so it's not (and shouldn't be) a crime, etc. When there's a victim, it is (and should be) a crime, when there's not, there isn't (shouldn't be). Sex work shouldn't be a crime. Forcing kids to have sex for money should be. Enslaving women should be. Etc. It's not the sex that's the crime, it's other things going on, that which creates a victim, and those are the things which should be a crime.
@DaringSprinter I hate those lists also though. Your home and family status will often shift the borders. Technically I'm a millennial according to your list, but I was the youngest of three girls. I was raised in a family of gen xers. In a list of typical characteristics, I relate 0% with millennials. We aren't only defined by the year we were born.
@ubergigglefritz - Right.. Guns aren't illegal even though some people use them to commit crimes.
I deleted my prior account and was off this site for a while because of a lack of boundaries from ladies that I cuddled with. Only recently came back as the I've been very stressed and lonely. But no luck finding new cuddlers yet. Not all men are bad, and not all women are innocent, when it comes to this lack of respect for boundaries
@ubergigglefritz: It's not my list, it's Wikipedia's. Anyhow, I always figured the generation lists were less about personality and more about age.
"A random person from this age range is more likely to (whatever) than a random person from a different age range" is an educated guess, not a command or a stricture or whatever. Ultimately all you can really say with authority is "Millennials are this old to this old."
So that's how I use the names—as indicators of approximate age.
Confuses and annoys me when people give the wrong names to the wrong ages.