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Hmm, I don’t think someone’s appearance should really be a factor when cuddling. I mean I get it, but at the same time, it’s platonic cuddling and having someone comment on their appearance could be devastating to that person. I also don’t think assigning a monetary value to someone based on their appearance is something we should be doing. I think their prices should reflect their level of skill when cuddling, not based on their attractiveness. Having up-to-date pictures is nice, especially since we want to make sure the person we are meeting is who they say they are, and using old pictures to get clients isn’t really a great practice for pros to be doing. But when it comes to platonic cuddling, telling someone you were disappointed because of how they look just seems cruel. I’m sorry to disagree with you here.
@Charlie_Bear got it just right. All I have to add is that anybody who is that concerned about a cuddle partner's looks, would probably be better off on a dating site, where those kind of things actually seem to matter.
Wow. The OP is not even pretending looks don't matter just to be polite. I plan to update my pics at least yearly cause I don't want anyone to be surprised or disappointed. I sure don't want to meet anyone that is gonna let me know they are disappointed. There is nothing wrong with wanting what you want here, as long as it's platonic, but this thread topic is tacky, to say the least.
I don't think you will find many people to cuddle with. I wonder if your cuddle buddy was disappointed, unpleasantly surprised, etc. by your behavior and convo.
Oh yay, another person who sees women as bags of flesh to be rated upon by their looks and weight . I bet they come running from the hills for you there, dont they ? Pick me pick me !!
Not gonna even bother addressing the content of this post because just wow 🙄
@Charlie_Bear you are 1000000% correct. This dudes antics are disgusting, all around. This is a professional and platonic cuddle site not a dating service..not a mail order service. You want petite? Get on Tinder..go get an escort....the way someone looks has absolutely NO bearing on their ability to cuddle someone. @johnlee81 you dont have a pic on your profile 🤔 interesting. I wonder how many pros show up to you and kick themselves for not charging you triple because of how you look. Btw, the pros on here make more than good $$...you can save your measly $120 and take yourself out to dinner, by yourself because I cant imagine too many people wanting to hang out with you. @achetocuddle tacky tacky tacky indeed.
@johnlee81 Congratulations, this has to be the most vile post I've read during my time here.
Would it be fair to ask the mods to ban members who are publicly degrading members of the site based on their appearance?
Ass.
I expected a dirty delete so I took a screenshot before he deleted his post if any females want to know who to avoid , should he decide to return.
@Rezz i second that! 👋👋
Yea, this is a huge eye roll… I understand wanting a certain body type in terms of “squishy ness”, like, I love a bit more meat on my cuddler but I would never degrade someone or body shame them if they didn’t look exactly how I want them.
And I don’t know what it is but when men say they want a young, fresh, petite woman, it weirds me out. Like, I feel like they want to add “virginal and inexperienced” to the list. Am I alone in this?
Anywho, nothing wrong with having a preference in body type, but the way the OP went about it is degrading, insulting and disgusting.
@bleukris86 oh thank you. I wanted to offer my genuine opinion for anyone else that reads my comment, but yeah I am very surprised (I suppose..) that this was asked. If someone has had a rough year and they are afraid to update their pictures as a result, I’d wanna cuddle them even more and hope that I can help them not feel so insecure. If someone told me they were disappointed in my looks when meeting up, I really don’t know if I could mentally handle that. It’s heartbreaking to hear a pro on here had to go through that 😣
@Sheena123 i def think the exact same thing when I hear that. It’s very, very off-putting.
@Charlie_Bear im with you all the way. Unfortunately you may just be an anomaly in your thinking. I've had a few cuddlers tell me that they "chose me" based off of being attracted to my pics...just missing the entire premise. You should absolutely never be made to feel like your looks are a burden to someone. Ever. So disappointing. @Sheena123 spot on. Cringe.
@Rezz OMG, you are hilarious and correct. @Sheena123 You are not alone in that.
Blow-up dolls don't gain weight or age, at least not in a "disappointing" way like female humans. And they don't mind if you are a cad.
@bleukris86 oh yeah, I think commenting on someone’s appearance, positively or negatively, is an absolute no-no. This is not a dating site, and I think compliments would be very creepy to the other person since we are not meeting to hook up.
@Rezz As much as I hate the idea, I have to defend the jerk a tiny bit. Since he didn't publicly degrade any specific member by name, There probably not grounds for banning him. That being said, he night just as well leave and go find a dating site. He clearly doesn't belong here.
I try to keep an up to date photo on my profile to avoid being in that pros situation. that being said to say someone who has been cuddling for years should charge less based on her looks is ridiculous! I personally charge more than I did when I started because I have more experience, and have taken trainings to improve my skill set. The thought that looks should equate more pay is so so so wrong! I know plenty of people have booked me based off my looks because they have told me so, I don’t mind it but I would probably have asked you to leave had i been that pro. I am not young and petite, but I am somebodies cup of tea. I would imagine this post is going to negatively effect who will be willing to book with you moving forward.
He deactivated. Good luck on your dating apps @johnlee81
Yes, should have pictures that are realistic to how you currently look. And No, you shouldn’t ever, ever complain to someone on how they look. Geez man. That is such a non-classy thing to do in virtually every situation: cuddling, dating anything. Sometimes you just gotta move on. How do you think that person feels?
Oh the discussion didn't go the way he wanted. He deactivated. Do us all a combined favor and just delete yourself. You're commentary on women's bodies is not wanted here.
OP has deleted the post. A very good idea.
@Rezz thank you for how direct you were in your disgust with the post. I struggle to express it myself but it really had to be said.
And now all our comments drift in space, untethered to any contextual meaning. Deep stuff.
I believe the OP thought he asked a good and viable question, that's what makes it even worse. As if he were wronged or cheated. Pitiful!
Maybe we all got trolled
@dave31415 I had been wondering the same thing. Sometimes I don't mind troll posts cause it does give me additional opportunities to get to know the forum posters better. And the human mind fascinates me in all its forms. Lol.
I bet that guy likes Huey Lewis and the News.
Well, 💩. I just got to lunch and managed to miss the original post. I'm glad OP got straightened out though. From the comments, it seems he was likely just a troll and/or someone who doesn't seem to respect women. SMH.
The OP mentioned, among other things, that maybe women should charge according to how attractive they are! He did not say who should decide the amount/kind of attractiveness. What a penis.
@achetocuddle I think you called it right.
@achetocuddle 🤣
@Green_Eyes I may get a warning for this? Mods delete if needed.