I'm so drained emotionally, this has been a tough year, can I trust someone in here will just cuddle to sleep, I just need that.
Sorry to hear you're having a hard time. There have been some previous threads about precautions and vetting processes when finding a partner. I'll try to find some and post it later, but essentially this includes: talking on the phone or video, or meeting in public first, discussing expectations and boundaries, and seeing if the other person has previous karma or has friends on the site. Best of luck - as many women say, good cuddle buddies are hard to come by but are worth the trouble.
If haven't had good experience with enthusiasts... Try seeking out a well established pro while you're vetting others in the meantime. I experienced many good overnights from here. If money is an issue for a pro... Then just have to be patient and diligent with the vetting.
Good luck and hope you find what you need.
@EstherC for what it’s worth I’m available
There are tons of men on here that just want to cuddle, and can’t find a cuddle buddy. There are also, sadly, many men on here that are looking for something sexual even though it is against the rules. These people should be reported and banned.
Vetting the people you cuddle with is important. I know that @SunsetSnuggles and @Cuddle_RN have both found a way to vet that works for them. Maybe they could chime in.
Shame I’m not close to your area as I am also available. Best of luck.
I've been here for about 1.5 years. I've screened a lot of potential cuddlers - my inbox is 29 pages long. I've met 6 men that earned my trust to the point that I overnight cuddled with them, all enthusiasts. For various reasons, I still cuddle with only two of them. The others didn't do anything wrong, just life changes.
YOU MUST LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. I cannot emphasize this enough. This whole experience has convinced me that what we call "women's intuition" is actually a set of evolutionary adaptations that gave our ancestors an advantage in survival and reproductive success.
@sunnysideup is right (thanks 😊), I do have an extensive vetting process. If you search the forums for my username and read my thread about it and my profile, it's all there. Feel free to DM me with questions.
There WILL be men who give you 💩 about any screening process. Right now I can predict two of them who are going to join this thread lol. Waste no time with that nonsense, this is not a negotiation and those are not men who are safe. Simply ignore or block them. If you're anything like me, it's hard for you to stand up for yourself and you're "too nice". This is a good place to strengthen that backbone and learn to set boundaries.
I can say without hesitation that those 6 men are all really good men and meeting them has made my world a better place. I would do it all again in a heartbeat.
I'm starting to think women should just start cuddling women. If you are just looking for platonic cuddles, there's no reason it needs to be a male.
@HeatherAB Some people have done this, this has also been suggested for men too. That way, the touch drought for men can be relieved. But some people just prefer cuddling a certain gender for whatever reason. For example, I’m not comfortable cuddling men as it just seems too weird.
@EstherC Have you been able to find someone to cuddle?
@HeatherAB I have a guy friend whom I cuddle with. We have had a great time together and feel very safe with each other. So yeah, I can see why that makes sense. Also, @sunnysideup is right, a number of women have taken to cuddle other women. I guess it all depends on your comfort level and what you prefer. I prefer to cuddle with women myself. However, I am not bothered cuddling with the right guy either. Just as long as there is no sexual advances either way. Because I am truly just here for platonic experiences with other beautiful people!