Hookup culture and cuddling don't mix

MelancholyMelancholy
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I discovered something interesting recently.
I thought maybe I can find someone to cuddle with on other sites like tinder or bumble.
What I found is this wonderful woman who likes to hookup but she hates to cuddle !
Isn't that defying conventional wisdom ?
I always thought it was the guy who doesn't like to cuddle afterwards.
She said it was due to some trauma and for her cuddling is actually more intimate than sex.
Anyways. Just thought that was interesting.
It makes me realize that sites like this are definitely rare and fill a special need that not everyone has.

Comments

  • KozyKimKozyKim

    Man if I was on a dating site it would be the opposite I would love to cuddle but don’t think of anything else. But man I’ve heard that scenario so many times. One of my friends said that he had what he thought was a girlfriend for about a month but she never wanted to go do anything she just wanted to have sex and as soon as he came in the door she was taking his clothes off he said he finally just broke up with her because he said he wanted a girlfriend and someone he could hold, and talk to. I think that’s why prostitutes refuse to kiss people. They say it’s too intimate.

  • TruePowerTruePower

    By the gods, Melancholy got deactivated
    And cuddling can definitely be more intimate given the participants.
    Hooking up is transactional selfishness. Take from each other, then walk away.
    Cuddling is a giving/sharing gesture that you plan to maintain with the same people/person in the future.

  • KozyKimKozyKim

    Oh my @TruePower well said!!

  • ReltvlyCanshesReltvlyCanshes

    I think if someone is seeking to hook up they wouldn’t be interested in cuddling, Man or woman. Unless they feel like they need to cuddle in order to score the nookie. They do it all for the nookie, the nookie..

  • pmvinespmvines

    Then there is door number 3, hooking up and also cuddling. Hookups often have no after cuddle etc cus there just isnt much of a connection apart from sexual attraction, and honestly sometimes it's not even much attraction involved let's be real. But that doesn't mean there also aren't those times where you meet someone you dont really know , you hook up, and both realize you really want more out of it than just sex . I even not too long ago found someome on here who I had dated a couple years back and now we meet up now and then to cuddle. We both at one time had strong sexual chemistry, but now its turned into a new cuddle relationship and that's pretty damn cool me thinks.

  • SideonSideon

    @Melancholy - you're going to compare CC with hookup sites? Really? And brag about your "conquest"? Final warning - keep your topics platonic. This isn't up for discussion.

    Sorry not sorry, but this thread is locked.

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