@GreatHornedOwl people can also always unfollow the thread or scroll past if they are no longer interested in following the discussion. New people have chimed in, others have clarified. If the topic is dead for you, by all means move on as you suggested, but I at least am still finding value and relevancy in the discussion or else I would not still be responding.
@FunCartel considering none of us are employees, I don't believe context cues would lead to that interpretation, rather than the assumption of a typo/misspelling.
But boundaries in the work place absolutely are important, and becoming increasingly so, and you better bet HR get to hear about them all the time 😂
@WriterGF And it's an issue that should always be present in the minds of anyone using this site. If it's a topic that regularly repeats itself, why are we acting as if boundary violations aren't continuously occuring?
If you're going to drop a comment addressing what I said, then I want to hear your side, respectfully explained - whether it aligns with mine or not. Frankly, I'd rather create an environment where these discussions occur.
In not doing so, you create one where people are afraid of speaking up because others may feel they're "causing a fuss." And that is exactly what makes them easy targets to the disingenuous and predatory people that come here.
I will not accept that people should "expect" to be disrespected, devalued, harassed, guilt-tripped, or insulted simply because this is online and "these things happen." That kind of acceptance is a breeding ground for the bottom feeders that regularly get banned here.
@lonelytauros ....and that's how you smoke out the shady types🤷
considering none of us are employees
I am an employee of a company. So you are making an incorrect assumption.
But boundaries in the work place absolutely are important
But everyone has personal boundaries that aren’t necessarily subject to the purview of HR, such as someone lacking a clear sense of humor staying 50 feet away from me.
But seriously, this all very cut and dry.
Someone has a stated boundary, you think it’s ridiculous or you should be an exemption, you move on. Having to even explain why you are the exception to the rule is already proof that this is not a cuddle match made in Shangri-La, but does include comped seats on the steamer ship servicing the River Styx on a one-way ticket if you persist.
I really don’t see why someone would argue against someone’s boundaries whether they like the rules or not. Kind of like telling your cardiologist holding a scalpel and chest spreader “Don’t screw this up like you did with Mitchell that I no longer see in your waiting room” just as the anesthesiologist is placing the mask over your nose and mouth. There is no upside for anyone when you do that.
@FunCartel my apologies if my tongue-in-cheek came across as well via text as that tired toxic positivity cliché. Mea culpa 🙏
But agreed on that last bit re: it doesn't make sense why folks always pushback so hard rather than find someone who is more compatible with them, but then that ties into the rejection thread I'd hazard a guess. It's another skill we adults could often use a refresher course in.
The other part that keeps puzzling me is why pros are being expected to forget or relax their boundaries the moment they go into business mode. If anything, I'm more cautious about maintaining my boundaries in professional settings, especially with cuddling, else there's more risk of work-personal imbalance, inappropriate business relationships, modelling poor consent and boundary skills for vulnerable people, etc.