I think the key to platonic cuddling is to think of the person as a friend. I have a regular cuddle partner that I met at a cuddle party, and I never feel uncomfortable with him. Neither one of us are attracted to each other sexually or romantically. I prefer it this way, because it makes it more cozy of a cuddle than wondering what that person is thinking are they going to be gyrating, breathing heavy, massaging me and thinking weird things. I don’t like the sensual cuddle I’m not here too be some Guys fantasy because he doesn’t have a girlfriend at the moment. I want to cuddle, cuddly people by nature, or that need cuddling more for trauma, or anxiety or stress.
I recently found out that a lot of people who have impure, non platonic intentions will specifically negotiate their karma reviews and sometimes have the client list their OWN REVIEW ABOUT THEMSELF, as they tend to mutually benefit.
Another mentioned remaining platonic but cuddling completely nude and honestly, I couldn’t for the very life of me understand WHY a pro cuddled would ever do that?
@Roxanne72 @stormydaycuddle I can understand you. What's tricky is the thin line between platonic and non-platonic. For instance, I respect boundaries, but cuddling for hours creates a physical intimacy. I don’t desire sex, but [removed].
So, I think it varies from person to person; as long as there's nothing sexual, I don't see much of a problem. It's just simple affection.
Reported and reviewed. Combined tags and removed duplicate comment. Kissing of any kind is considered non-platonic as far as the rules of the site are concerned. Modified comment. Know that booking through this site and engaging in that behavior will result in the removal of your account. [Charlie_Bear]
The difference between platonic and non platonic is a "thin line" in the same way the Grand Canyon is a crack in the ground.
I think a vague line is more accurate a description because of what people are and arent comfortable with. To me one of the most satisfyingly close positions is lotus but to others that might be outside their comfort zone. I love to massage and caress, not noemally kisses but all of those could be considered as sexual advances or actions with alterior motives. I consider being sensual as indulging in the sense of touch but dont link it with sex. But I am mature enough that i can think with my brain and I strickly adhere to whatever boundaries are established beforehand. That is the most important thing is to discover what is ok beforehand and to respect those boundaries.
@android3665 - You agreed to the rules when you signed up. One of the rules clearly states "no kissing". It's not up for discussion whether or not you believe it's appropriate. Kissing may not feel sexual to you, but it touches a thin line that separates platonic and non-platonic and they already have a hard enough time getting people to understand the platonic nature of this website so these rules has to apply to everyone.
A nudist can't come on here and argue that cuddling without clothes on is platonic.
My policy and the sites too is keep your freaking lips off your cuddler. 🤢🤢🤢🤢
There are reasons and even asking a pro to let you do that is crossing a hard line.
“What if she agrees?”
If she’s a pro you’re paying her $$$ and if she’s shy or a people pleaser you’re taking advantage. Two power imbalances!! This is why we have RULES!!!
Enthusiasts: still violates TOS
Some of these comments are gross and disturbing and EXACTLY why this post on predatory behavior was written.
This is in support of a woman who was violated. NOT a place for you to share how you’d do the same. Take your boundary pushing somewhere else. The word sensual while you think it’s okay because it’s not sex…. Blah… blah… blah… we’ve heard it before. At the least it’s uncomfortable and at worst it’s a vile interpretation and YES boundary pushing!!!
Seriously guys!!! You’re going to come into a post where a woman was clearly hurt and explain how you’re pushers too? 🤢🤢🤢🤢
Gross. Absolutely disgusting behavior.
@stormydaycuddle - It's good that they wave their red flags in the forum. It lets you know who to avoid.
It's also funny when somebody states that they respect boundaries then explains how they will violate them.
@android3665
For instance, I respect boundaries, but cuddling for hours creates a physical intimacy. I don’t desire sex, but just kissing the forehead, hands, and arms can be pleasant without being sexual.
I respect boundaries BUT
I respect people's feelings but I won't hesitate to jack their jaw if they put their nasty mouth on me. That includes my hand , forehead, arms etc.
@Rezz his name is @android3665 I just want him to get credit. And the other one is barely within forum range but I think we can agree that's puke worthy too.
..... Wow. Just...wow
@Rezz - Yeah you might want to change that tag. You may have called out an innocent person.
Sorry, @AndroidShell .
Correct make sure any nasty remarks or physically violent threats are at least targeted at the correct individual.
I feel I shouldn't have to say this but... Before you do ANYTHING think to yourself "would I want someone trying this on my spouse, daughter, sister, female loved one?"
In complete fairness he deserved the nasty remark. I don't see it as a threat more like... I will defend myself if you sexually assault me.
@Mike403 Thank you, I didn't have my glasses on 🤣
@jplemmon if the mistagged person wandered into the discussion I'm pretty certain he could put 2+2 together to equate an honest mistake / typo.
@Jova114 sadly that might not be as effective as you think. There are some people that would still say yes to all of that. They view women as tools of pleasure and not as individuals with their own minds so they have no empathy whatsoever. Our society has become increasingly amoral, and its scary because I dont know how we are supposed to fix it when the majority outvotes the minority and can turns common sense upside down.
Violent posts under the right circumstances from people like @Rezz doesn't bother me at all. Other guys who happen to be lurking here will read it and hopefully one day it will get engraved into their skull that certain things such as kissing is unacceptable behavior and people will have the right to defend themselves.
@Gronuth Unfortunately you are right. Abusers always have a "reason" for their action and mindset. It's disgusting. I know I'm no angel but I strive on being a gentleman.
Thanos was right.
@mike403 Yep Non lethal forms of self defense are within the rules. @Rezz don't do it too hard...haven't actually seen red in this way in quite some time.
@Mike403 you have genuinely become [some nice, friendly, reassuring words] Congrats.
Not reported, but no need for that. [Charlie_Bear]
@jplemmon its called tag teaming predators and if you'd have been at the weekly strategy meeting you'd know that. Next Monday... your turn to bring drinks.
I woke up needing to use the restroom and made the mistake of checking the site. I was greeted with a wall of flags to sort through (not just this post). I’d like to catch a few more zzz’s if at all possible.
@jplemmon I'm sorry I'm not following. Why is he the biggest ass kisser?
@Jova114 - Oh he's just the neighborhood troll. Don't mind him.
@Mike403 ah got ya. Just looking for attention.
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@stormydaycuddle I mean it wouldn't be a TRUE internet forum without a troll.