I personally believe that anyone who suggests any non-platonic behavior(including kissing) in the forums should automatically have their accounts suspended until they send an appeal message and show that they read and now understand the rules.
Cleaning up their forum posts might not clean up their brain.
Some people just need to hear the truth every now and then. It can hurt but it helps in the long run.
@Rezz I don't know if you noticed, but my comment was cut off by moderation, so you didn't see the entire message. It's important to consider this before judging something.
@android3665 - Oh yes she did. We both read your comment before it was edited.
@stormydaycuddle I don't know if you noticed, but my comment was cut off by moderation, so you didn't see the entire message. It's important to consider this before judging something.
@android3665 it was cut off for good reason. I 100% judged the words. You’re breaking TOS. FYI I DID see the message. I reported it. And I wasn’t alone. Hugs!!
Anyway, if a mod took something down it was because you said something unacceptable. 🤢🤢🤢🤢
@rezz even quoted your original comment. So…there’s that.
@android3665 - This is a thread that was created by somebody who had her boundaries crossed. @Rezz and @stormydaycuddle simply expressed to keep your lips off of cuddlers you meet on here. You responding to it by telling them not to judge you is deeply concerning.
@android3665
I don't know if you noticed, but my comment was cut off by moderation, so you didn't see the entire message. It's important to consider this before judging something.
Don't insult my intelligence. Not only did I see the comment in its entirety, I screenshot it in the event you tried to dirty delete and I quoted you. 🙄
@android3665 These forums are frequented by both pros and enthusiasts, and the client service agreement states no kissing is allowed. I understand your comment could have been in reference to cuddling completely separate from any interaction you had with someone here, but just know if there is no elaboration made at the time you comment, it is going to be assumed that any activity you discuss here will be treated like you are cuddling with someone from the site.
Edit: Also, @Rezz is on top of quoting people that make comments that are sure to be reported and her quote of your unedited comment is there in her reply to you (untouched by me), so it should be pretty clear she and those that flagged your comment read it before I took action.
@Roxanne72 No, you are not the only one. Cuddling is truly a healing/calming experience. I am not a pro cuddler and I am still seeking a local enthusiest to be a cuddling friend. I've come to realize that cuddling with someone with good energy can cause feelings to develop and women tend to want a deeper relationship, when I do not. So, in those cases, I like to find an attentive professional.
What surprises me the most is how worked up you get over such trivial matters. The purpose of a forum is usually to have discussions, nothing more. It seems like the conversation is expected to go in only one direction, but then what's the point of discussing, explain to me. Review the rules, and that should be the end of it.
Whether people respect the rules or not is another matter altogether, it's completely different.
The purpose of a forum is precisely to have discussions. If it's meant to be one-sided, then it should be closed. You should look at the rules and that's it.
Moreover, you're mixing things that are completely different. I'm discussing a topic, I didn't say I was breaking the rules.
Many people have a bit of a dictator in them and tend to judge easily but Let's not exaggerate, we're just having a discussion.
In addition, the cuddler community is supposed to be more open than usual, but some of you are doing worse than people we encounter on the street in terms of open-mindedness and freedom of expression.
@Rezz There was no risk of me deleting it as I stand by what I say, that's the principle of the forum. We can determine what actions to take since there are rules, but we shouldn't be dictated on what to say.
Some of you have such a toxic mentality
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Just chill a bit and be like everyone else, a bit balanced, meaning capable of having a conversation without going overboard, and being able to distinguish between discussing a topic and actually doing it. These are two different things.
It's crazy to have to remind this, but it's not obvious for everyone.
@android3665 - The forums have rules too. Keep your posts platonic.
But it is one-sided, @android3665 . Pros set the boundaries, not you. It’s that simple.
@android3665 - You also hijacked a thread about somebody having their boundaries crossed with boundary crossing topics instead of creating your own thread. That is disrespectful to the original poster.
@android3665 - There are many boundary pushers on here who actually try to take advantage of people they meet in person so any non-platonic discussions understandably raises a lot of red flags. You can't go through airport security and talk about building a bomb.
@android3665 I am going to remove admissions to non-platonic activity here. This is not up for debate. Please re-read the client service agreement.
https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/terms/client-service-agreement
(Session Rules) “3. No touching in areas covered by undergarments is permitted. If this occurs, the Cuddler has the right to end the session immediately. No kissing is allowed.”
Continuing to argue this and going after those that call you out on it is going to result in a timeout, or worse if it’s discovered you are engaging in non-platonic activity.
I've recently had a client that had booked a 3 hr session with me and cancelled night before, because what seemed as a valid reason due to their work. They rebooked earlier this week on Monday and 2 days before they asked me if I offered topless cuddling and sent me YouTube link to video of cuddling topless experiment. They offered to pay more per hourly rate and have mentioned their previous cuddler they been cuddling for over a year had offered this but she is now not available in this province any longer. I can see from their karma they only have 1 karma from pro cuddler and she has 24 karma's and makes me think the reasons she has this many 5 stars karma is because she is offering extras. I'm always upfront before confirming a booking I only do platonic cuddling but this was such a waste of my time for them to book with me 2 times and it never ended up happening because they had other motives that cross the line of platonic cuddling. Even though I told them before i confirmed booking I only do platonic cuddling and they had agreed. I really wish these "Pro" cuddlers that are offering extras would not do so on this site.
I honestly don't know why any thread that is debating/pushing/negotiating/discussing avoiding the VERY clear Terms of Service stays up.
There is nothing new here, and nothing to be gained.
Unless, of course, this is simply a troll trap... Which I am sort of in favor of, but should have some sort of racy photographs for maximum efficiency.
@CharlesInWI it started as a woman voicing her concerns and a ton of people being supportive and discussing and ended with a TOS breaker saying how they do the same thing that the woman and everyone else here is rallying against.
Seems I've missed a lot the past several days....
What's funny to me, as a relationship anarchist who practices ethical non-monogamy and polyamory for my personal relationships, I'm quite comfortable with a wibbly wobbly vagueness between platonic and non-platonic situations and relationships because eff mono-cishet-normative expectations 🤣
But the cool thing about humans? We can code switch between contexts. What's appropriate in one context may not be in another, and that is perfectly understandable and ok. Sure, it can make navigating social norms harder for us neurodivergent folks, but it just means communication and respecting boundaries is that much more important. Where as wibbly wobbly is cool in my personal relationships, in cuddling (especially with professional cuddling) relationships, more strictly drawn lines is generally the more ethical and safer way to go.
It always cracks me up when newbies or lurkers come in here thinking they're so rebellious by championing breaking TOS, and all I can think to myself is "(head shake) oh no, sweet honey child, no, this isn't how you go about it..." 🤣🤣🤣
Oh, sweet child of mine Wibbly wobbly has been added to my vocabulary!
Wow 😳 Well what a thread, I’ve just read 📖
@Roxanne72 It is with great misfortune that I’ve to say you are most definitely not the only one who’s experienced the unsafe/uncomfortable encounter(s) of non-platonic intentions from clients. They often have many excuses but always NO right ☝🏾 to do the inappropriate things they do. Always block and report violators and remember no session is worth your safety , piece of mind or boundaries being violated.
I am very sorry for your bad experience and what you had to go through with client(s) that have not respected your boundaries and put you in a position that did not respect or follow the rules and guidelines of C.C. and the cuddle community here.
~ Happy & Safe Cuddling Everyone ~
This take will probably get me some flak but I say it in order to try to teach females on here to take care of their own safety., Part of the problem is a lot of girls on here charging $200+ with sexy photos and makes you suspect they are selling more than just cuddles. In fact I know in some cases they are, so that is already in the heads of some guys. Cuddling is a physical and intimate thing and the line between this and that is thin. I personally have never crossed the line or tried anything or wanted to (unless it was without a doubt mutual) but I do see how maybe some guys get the wrong impression. A lot has to do with how you present yourself. It is a business transaction and you should think of it like that, I know it might be hard to think of it that way, I've had cuddlers for were very professional and even had a little talk beforehand, and then some are just bubbly and friendly and ready to get straight to cuddling. It is great to be bubbly and super friendly, I love that, but I think females on this site should realize for their own safety that some guys will take that as an invitation to test the boundaries. It might not feel natural, but I respect and appreciate the girls I've met that acted with more of a degree of professionalism and gave a little talk. You have to set the expectations.
Reported and reviewed. Leaving intact but please just report profiles that appear to be scams or non-platonic if you have reason to believe so. Pros have access to a forum where they can support one another and I can tell you that clients lecturing them is not going to have the effect you are hoping for, especially for the pros that read these forums. [Charlie_Bear]
@Deltron2000 or men could just stop being creeps. Talk to your fellow men about that, and then the women wouldn't have to be so worried about safety.