How do I get cuddlers to respond to my message??

[Deleted User]tracmac01 (deleted user)
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Hi everyone,

I have sent out messages to people asking if they are interested in cuddling and meeting up beforehand to make sure they are comfortable, but never get a response. Is there anything I can do to increase my response rate? If they met me, they would know I'm a nice and comforting person. Thanks!

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  • pmvinespmvines

    The problem is you are asking people to cuddle with you in your first message rather than trying to get to know the person a little first. Just because this is a cuddle site does not mean that women here will just jump at the chance of cuddling a stranger. You may want to consider hiring a paid cuddler if you are not able to find people on here who will cuddle with you .

  • quietman775quietman775

    What he said. ^^^ Other things that may help:
    1. Consider adding some personality to your profile by using an avatar instead of the default template for those with no pics. Like you, I choose not to go with a pic. But my chosen avatar fits my personality, and adds more interest than the "blank slate" shared by every other member with no pic.
    2. Start chatting with people even if they are too far away to cuddle with. Add some of these pen pals to your Friends list, which is currently empty. The fact that you joined the site in November but have no Friends and no Karma makes you a harder sell to the people you are messaging.
    3. Hire a pro or three just because it's quicker and easier than finding an enthusiast. If you get good karma reviews from the pros, the enthusiasts who view your profile will feel more at ease in talking to you.

    Finally, understand that you can do everything right, and it will still be a numbers game. Patience wins the day.

  • [Deleted User]MichaelFJudd (deleted user)
    edited March 2018

    A study showed that the bottom 80% of men are competing for the bottom 22% of women, and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men.

    So, you have to bring pretty much EVERYTHING to the table. I would suggest that you develop your profile a little bit more. Add more photos and show people that you're an interesting person. Maybe another paragraph about that you like to do?

  • [Deleted User]AnEngineer (deleted user)
    edited March 2018

    The problem is you are asking people to cuddle with you in your first message rather than trying to get to know the person a little first.

    @pmvines Oh man, thanks for bringing this up. I didn't realize until now, but this is exactly what l am was doing. I guess I was a bit over eager ?.

  • respectfulrespectful

    @AnEngineer That's how I started off too ... try:

    How to approach a woman as a potential cuddle buddy

  • [Deleted User]tracmac01 (deleted user)

    Thanks for the tips guys!

  • [Deleted User]AnEngineer (deleted user)

    @respectful Thanks for the share!

    @BlueIris Thanks for the post!

  • Supermatt13Supermatt13
    edited March 2018

    Just don't be a creep or send short messages. :D haha!

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  • Psychonaut83Psychonaut83

    Or, take the time to type more than "Just ask!" (incredibly lazy) in your description.

  • yan234m3yan234m3

    @MichaelFJudd The first part of your statement (80% of men competing for bottom 20% women) is an important side of the equation that is often missed in these discussions....

    My honest advice for this question is to get the best profile pictures you can.

    In my experience what you write in your profile or in your messages matters very little...pictures are worth more than any words...

    I disagree with taking time to get to know someone online... that should all happen in person where communication is much easier...The online world of meeting people across all dating sites is very fast paced.. If you don't make explicit with what you want in your first message, even if the person finds you interesting, you may still be ignored because someone else matched more immediately with the two parties mutual goals...

  • pmvinespmvines

    @yan234m3 yes but this isn't a dating site . I have found there is a willingness among a lot of the folks here , or at least those who recognize this isn't a date site, to look beyond just the looks of a person as in a platonic relationship looks are not the most important thing and don't matter to many . I know I'm not very good looking and I'm a bit older than some, but I have had pretty good success here . My only real handicap in fact is distance, as most of the people here I befriend aren't in my city or state

  • [Deleted User]MoonlightSonata (deleted user)

    Maybe it is in the approach. If you let people know your specific preferences when it comes to cuddling and also offer to chat with them for a while before meeting to cuddle, I think you might have some more luck. :)

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