@Mike403 Yes, likely a warning, or at minimum, there's a record that a picture had to be taken down, or a sexual reference removed. If it's minor, the mods ask them to do it...if it's major, the mods remove it immediately, themselves.
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As men we should remember that we’re still at the end of the day paying for affection from a woman. I agree with the others saying it shouldn’t matter because men should respect those boundaries anyways. And if it helps sell cuddles, cool
On a slightly unrelated note, I dont entirely agree with the rule that sex workers from other platforms should be banned on CC because that is sort of implying that because they’re sex workers they can’t also do platonic cuddling. You can be a sex worker and also hold platonic boundaries in other contexts, and if you’re a sex worker who wants to get out of it and into cuddling, wouldn’t allowing those people make it easier for them to transition to cuddling? People do have bills to pay and some people view working with bodies in general as their profession. Maybe the rule should be that they don’t mention in the ad that they also do sex work.
Does the fact that they do sex work mark them as dirty somehow? And why are we pretending that we’re better than people who pay for sex?
Don’t ban me, I’m literally asexual (shame I have to say that)
@4TheSnugs From what the site administrators have said, they support sex work, they simply cannot have it bleed into this site, due to legal ramifications.
@4TheSnugs the reason for that rule is that there is, unfortunately, a group of people outside the site who wish to undermine what we do, and/or 'prove' that CC is a cover for non-platonic services. It is therefore necessary not only to be platonic, but to appear totally platonic. Any possible ambiguity is twisted and misrepresented by those outside groups.
CC's management has explicitly described the site's overall view as "sex-positive" and there are some professional cuddlers who are former sex workers.
Isn’t this site based in the UK? Isn’t that culture supposed more uninhibited than the puritan American way of expressing their bodies? So this photo would get you a warning and removed?
@Midnight01 It wouldn't likely be removed, no. Here is what the site says regarding beach photos:
The mods make the call on each individual shot.
That one probably wouldn''t, no.
The kind of photo that would get you banned is something like more this. Very NSFW, obviously.
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@4TheSnugs
Nobody is getting banned for having a sexual desire as long as they dont bring it to this site.
@Midnight01 see now you are doing that thing where you take something that is kind of similar but not quite In order to try to make it represent the topic at hand, when in reality you know that is not an accurate representation of what the topic is simply for the sake of creating discourse.
Lol, “probably” wouldn’t? Good grief. I think the “community” will be just fine if everyone calmed down and didn’t report strangers photos to big brother.
@CuddleDuncan thank you for your comments. My pictures are just an honest ordinary example how I view myself. ☺️
What @pmvines said.
I used "probably" because I'm not a mod and therefore it's not up to me to make the actual decision.
The mods are not "big brother". They are us. Volunteers who are ordinary members, who give their time and energy and sanity to protect the community from those who would do us harm.
@CuddleDuncan 😂
Also, @Midnight01, you purposefully chose a very innocuous group photo of friends smiling on a beach. Believe me, that isn't the issue at hand. It's very easy to tell the difference between "we happened to be partially-clothed but this was a great memory", vs. "I took this as a thirst trap".
@Midnight01 - I only report photos if it looks like it belongs on a porn site.
@pmvines I could give a squat about creating discourse. I don’t post often, but as dude who pays for cuddles, it’s silly that pros reports profiles for photos that offends them, potentially limiting an already small pool of cuddlers, pro or enthusiast.
@SunsetSnuggles You said you report photos of men without their shirts without any context. Just because it’s in the rules, which is bananas.
@Midnight01 You're actually going back and forth with enthusiasts at the moment, not Pro's.
The pictures aren't offensive, just against the rules...seems your frustration at the site rules is being misdirected.
@Midnight01 posted: "You said you report photos of men without their shirts without any context. Just because it’s in the rules, which is bananas."
If I and others didn't, we'd be accused of being sexist, which already happened on page 1. 😆
We are upholding the platonic spirit of the site. If I disagreed with the rule, I wouldn't bother with it.
For me, the question is, why do you so desperately want to let provocative pictures through? Not a good look on this site, sir.
This is my final word about this topic as there are obviously varying opinions and I do in reality very much feel like it is a form of body shaming to tell people that what they are wearing is wrong so long as within TOS and I also get extremely tired of men assuming that what a woman wears icorrelates at all with her willingness to have sex with them as well as with her eagerness to be treated like a blow up doll so I’ll just let this video speak for itself .
https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT8y3sTGx/
Apologies. Your bio reads like a pro. Anyone reporting then.
@Midnight01 No worries.
@Midnight01 awesome for you 👍 I can guarantee you that there is nobody who gives less a squat about what you say or what you think than I do really , I have no dog in the fight when it comes to your opinions . However you do know that the photo you posted isn’t the type of photo that is being discussed . You’re just being a little stirrer of pots. I stand with the women who are judged and treated like sex objects and finger wagged for how they dress and their bodies . You, however, are just trying to argue .
@pmvines OK sure bud. You just said your final word on the topic last post, but decided to respond to me. And I’m the one stirring the pot…. I agree with your stance of what constitutes as provactive and generally all you said dude. Don’t like the narking is all. It’s a small pool of cuddlers anyway. Woman reporting on what other woman wear than can affect on their earnings is pretty whack. I’m done in this topic.
@Midnight01 posted: "Woman reporting on what other woman wear than can affect on their earnings is pretty whack."
This is like saying the cop is at fault for pulling over a speeder. If people break the rules, the repercussions are on them.
And again, the pictures are simply removed, if inappropriate. The site wants to thrive...they don't ban people for no reason. They give people plenty of chances to abide by the very simple rules.
The lack of women on here is certainly not due to an overabundance being insta-banned for having boobs that happened to be in the frame. It goes far deeper than that.
@SunsetSnuggles 👍
Just my personal opinion: if a girl posts a photo of herself in a bikini at the beach, there's nothing wrong with that. However, if most of her photos are provocative, well, it's her profile and it's a free country, but there's likely to be push back from the moderators and the cuddle community, and for good reason. (And of course what's "provocative" is in the eye of the beholder, but still.)
Generally speaking, someone who posts a lot of revealing photos (either gender) is doing so because they're trying to get the opposite sex to notice them. The problem is that using sex appeal to stir up other people's interest on a non-sexual site violates the spirit of the site's intent. Guys aren't allowed to cuddle topless, so while they're allowed to post a photo in which they happen to be topless (e.g. a beach picture), it should be done sparingly. I think the same applies to girls. They aren't allowed to cuddle in a bikini, so bikini photos should be done sparingly. They don't have to wear a burqa (Muslim outfit that covers women from head to toe). But they should be fully clothed in most of their photos.
In my humble opinion, it comes down to intent. If a girl's intention is to post provocative photos to stir up business, that's a problem. Because she's deliberately showing off her body to gain customers based on sex appeal on a site where sexual activity is expressly forbidden. In other words, the TOS say not to seek sexual stimulation or gratification, a rule that goes both ways. As a guy, if I go into a cuddle seeking arousal, that's wrong. In the same manner, a girl posting photos with the intention of getting guys aroused is also wrong. Platonic means platonic for all genders.
I don't want my position misinterpreted, so let me be clear: a girl can wear (or not wear) anything she wants and a man never, ever has the right to put his hands on her without her consent or force his affections on her. Period. And I would never suggest that if a girl dresses a certain way that she's "asking for it" - that's a hateful thing for anyone to say to a girl. But we all know and understand that there are sex workers who use this site as a cover. We also know that there are unscrupulous men on adult sites who target our girls and try to pressure them into more than platonic cuddles. All I'm saying is that we should keep that in mind when we're deciding what photos to post.
@KingsportCuddle 💯👏🏻⭐️ Thank you for putting it so eloquently, sir. You are a rock star.
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Shirtless and underwear (regardless of gender) are against the rules and we are removing them all the time.
No mention of context. @Midnight01 photo contains shirtless people. It could be removed.
@cocoabomb It could be, but it very likely wouldn't be. @CharlieBear can give you the official word, if he cares to. All decisions such as that are at the mod's discretion.
@KingsportCuddle I don't know what we're gonna do with all your reasonable, sane, caring and articulate posts