@PixiePassions
...sometimes I feel guilt or Imposter Syndrome because I make good money doing something as (usually) pleasant as cuddling... As a pro cuddler, I do love what I do...
I wish we could dispense with the Imposter Syndrome. I believe it to be a member of the family of grievance politics, and a drain on society. Making good money (ie, success) is by far the result of making smart decisions, discipline, and hard work, not luck or an unfair advantage.
The world would be a much better, richer, and happier place if everyone could earn a living doing what they love to do. Don't feel guilt for this at all, @PixiePassions I hope you feel proud for finding something you love to do. I can tell you, I'm not doing what I love currently, but I hope to one day. I'm envious of you.
@Solae made a great point I forgot about as well - the client calls the shots in a lot of ways (within boundaries of course). Since I offer multiple services, I let the client choose what they want and when. They get choice of cuddle positions and my full attention at all times (except if I have to quickly check in with my next client, or my babysitter.)
@TxTom - Thank you, darling. 🥺💕🥰 That is a beautiful way to look at it, and definitely helps. My ex husband tells me every day how proud he is of me for what I've accomplished with starting my own business and helping repair our finances. His support and your kind words help me fight the guilt feels.
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I cuddle both pros and enthusiasts. Me cuddling a pro is entirely my choice and I appreciate the transactional nature of it. Fortunately I have not encountered anyone trying to scam me. Cuddling enthusiasts is different in my opinion and definitely opens me up to being taken advantage of more. I feel like with pros, I get more out of it than they do, and they are compensated for that. With enthusiasts, it may be both getting the same out of it, but perhaps more likely one side may be giving much more than they are getting. I hope not though. I have been in that situation and it hurts (and I place that fault on myself).
@Mihir This is simple. Call a therapist or psychologist or 5 and ask if they will cuddle with you in a bed. Most, if not all, will decline for professional reasons. Call your state medical board to find out what professional license or certification is required for cuddling. There is none. Other cuddle sites offer their own certifications. For a price. Research them. They’re not recognized by any state. Some are reviewed as MLMs and scams. Educate yourself before critiquing. Adjust your expectations. You may be happier.
@CharlieBear Your experience is exactly like mine on that. Most of the enthusiasts have been top notch but there were a couple—none I exchanged karma with for good reason—that were quite frankly, unstable and scary.
@BoomerSpooner 🥺 I’m sorry you had to deal with that. It really can be a tough situation to handle.
@PixiePassions Don't feel like an impostor. Feel like a rockstar! When I first started, it was to fulfill a touch need bc I had to abstain from chiropractic work and massage work for a year to qualify for an insurance benefit. So it was a service that was much appreciated. also, I didn't grow up with a lot of touch so it helped me to be comfortable giving and receiving touch - this helped way beyond the session(s).
@cocoabomb posted: "Call a therapist or psychologist or 5 and ask if they will cuddle with you in a bed."
This totes made me snicker. True 'nuff!
~ Sunset Snuggles
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@cocoabomb Soo true. I've brought this up candidly before with clients myself...LMFAO.