Getting a Response

DWill3957DWill3957
in General

I really was one day away from being a little down. I don’t know how many men or men that are Pro on here can relate, but what’s up with people viewing your profile and just never responding to your message? I’m almost afraid to post this here because the Mods seem to have it out for me but I remember before becoming a pro just about every pro female page I went on they would message and ask questions if I didn’t message first and I didn’t find it pressuring or anything but dare I do the same to a female and I’m the worse human ever! I really love this site because I have had some great experiences but I also dislike some parts of it. Just like how it’s hard for females to muster up the courage to reach out to someone it’s the same for me and we are all human and process rejection the same way. I’m not out here attacking people but bare in mind I know I put time and effort into messaging people and for them to view my profile and not even say ”not interested” I think it’s not right. This is supposed to be a site where we build each other up and look out for everyone’s feeling but I don’t think my feelings matter on this site based on how the Mods have treated me. Now today I messaged a female and she was so sweet and nice to get back to me and say she found someone else. She didn’t have to but she did and honestly it made a world of difference for me. I’m done ranting and I fully expect to get dragged in the comments or even get my page removed by the Mods for something I didn’t even do but what the hell!

Comments

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited February 2024

    You are a male pro and most people aren't looking to hire a male pro . Plus many people don't respond to messages in the first place and since you're a male pro to boot people may be less likely to engage with you due to wanting to avoid a potential sales pitch or just not being interested . Many reasons why people click on profiles . I just clicked on yours to see who was writing this thread . But it doesn't necessarily mean that I'm trying to start a one on one dialogue . Try to not take it personally .

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    Women not replying to messages from men is what happens nearly all of the time. In other words it is nothing to do with you. As for views ... Well I look at a lot of profiles and would consider messaging almost none of them because that is not the purpose of my visit.

    When I do message people I consider no reply to be the default, and a reply as a nice bonus.

    Have a look at the sticky topics at the top of the Professional Cuddling board, it will help.

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    You want a response? Send a message saying “speak to me and I will diffuse the bomb.” Either she will reply or the ATF will. But you will get the response you crave.

    Or you can do what men have done since the first caveman scribbled “Me want hug” on a cave wall—be patient and find ways to tweak your messages to improve your chances.

  • Katelyn_BKatelyn_B

    @DWill3957 Sorry to read you are having some issues with navigating talking to women on this site, and I wish you luck with your cuddling business as well as getting your emotional needs met.

    @BoomerSpooner The caveman "Me want hug" made me smile and reminded me of hand cave art that I first saw in National Geographic as a child, and then figured out how to do it and went around on our farm leaving my hand outlines all over various rocks and boulders and such.

  • TxTomTxTom

  • pty1999pty1999

    They don't want the female pros messaging people first. I don't see the harm in it though. I wouldn't let it get to you if they don't respond to your message. Just take it as it isn't a good match. Don't give people that much power over your emotions. We can't control what others do. We can only control how we react to it. I would try not to take it personal.

  • Katelyn_BKatelyn_B

    @TxTom Hahaha ... love it!

  • DWill3957DWill3957

    @KateBee and @pty1999 thank you so much for the messages and encouragement.

  • DWill3957DWill3957

    Just to clarify this happened as well before I went pro and I know for some of you based on your comments that won’t make a difference. Just giving context.

  • StayFitStayFit
    edited February 2024

    I clicked on your page by mistake and intended to click on the forum message.

    Don't let it get to you. I think a lot of people will get more people viewing then actually saying something.
    Just think of them filtering themselves to give you a better opportunity for people who match with you.
    I think it comes with territory of being online, then a lot of people may not be sociable, and just so many reasons that aren't you and more of the people who view you and their habits.

    Now, I'm only using my dating profiles as an example. My friends would say they weren't getting messages but ask me how I'm getting so many.
    Well...I did things that stood out, maybe took better photos, maybe changed the language in my profile, and certain things to in a since "sell yourself".

    Online, unlike in public, there's no personality to attract people so all they have to go off of is a picture and your text.
    So, you just basically have to make it good because there are hundreds if not thousands of others on here doing similar.
    But, under no circumstances get down just keep going until you build.

    It's like when a store opens, until they build good clientele they have to keep going. If they close they won't build clientele. Getting down never works, just push harder than before. If A isn't working try B and so on.

    It's the same for women on here. Some women just won't get the attention that others do. It could be something they are doing, type of photo, what she says in her profile, etc.

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