Am I wrong?

[Deleted User]Greybeard (deleted user)
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I’m kind of new here. Should I expect that most men either don’t read profiles, or don’t pay much attention? I’m pretty clear that I am not looking to rush into anything, not looking for sex, etc. About half of the men who have contacted me sent a cell number in their first mail. I blocked them. Another large portion are outside my stated age range. I ignore them. I’ve only had one appropriate response, and he was a little far away.

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  • JasonCuddlesJasonCuddles

    Seems to be a guy thing TBH. Unfortunate but true.

  • AshleyCuddlesAshleyCuddles

    There wasn't a stated age range that I could see not sure if that helps or not. You could be clearer on your profile that you want to get to know people before exchanging numbers

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Greybeard You are actually the opposite of many of the guys on here so its refreshing to here you state you don't wish to rush into anything and want to get to know the person, and have clear physical boundaries. After hearing so many of the women talk about how so many of the men on here want to just jump into things without saying hello first I am sure they will share my sentiment.

  • CuddleBug1995CuddleBug1995

    I have stated clearly on my profile that I'm only comfortable cuddling with women, at the moment, as I know it will stay platonic. I've still received quite a few messages from men, who then get pushy or annoyed if I point out what my profile says. Some even say they've read it, so I'm like "you missed an important part". It's a bit creepy, but it shows you those who aren't actually interested in you specifically.

  • UKGuyUKGuy

    @Cuddlebug1995 - I don't follow your logic in saying you cuddle with women "since you know it will stay platonic". Have you seen the percentage of women cuddlers on this site who are bisexual?

  • LisaMeeceLisaMeece

    I think there's a clear answer to your original question of "Am I Wrong?", @Greybeard - you're not wrong. You are finding out that many people are really bad at respecting stated boundaries, though, and that they might get snippy when that's pointed out to them. That can get super-frustrating...but I like to think of it as doing a little bit of good in the world every time I hold to a boundary, because I'm creating one more example of how a person can hold to a boundary they've set (i.e., blocking or ignoring people who try and violate your stated boundaries.)

    Keep up the good work, and good luck finding what you're looking for.

  • [Deleted User]MoonlightSonata (deleted user)

    I also wondered about the cell phone thing. If someone asks you to text them right away (get you off the site to chat in other words) is this a red flag? I'm new here so I am not familiar with whether or not this is something you should be suspicious of.

  • BlueIrisBlueIris Mod
    edited April 2018

    @MoonlightSonata - Typically, yes. I'll pm you.

  • [Deleted User]MoonlightSonata (deleted user)

    @BlueIris Thank you so much for the feedback/ advice. I will be sure to look out for that. Actually I had a situation recently where someone asked to text. So I did, not really knowing what was going on. So now I know to look out for that. Thank you so much again for filling me in on this. It is very much appreciated.

  • amsmithamsmith

    I don’t think it shows on profiles what the age range is for people. I know I set one, but it doesn’t show up on the profile, I think that is for when you search for cuddle buddies in your area.

  • [Deleted User]lilredmage (deleted user)

    @amhunt It shows. I just viewed your profile and it is listed under the "Preferred Age" category.

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