I had someone fall asleep while we were cuddling not long ago. I was big spoon at the time. I didn't mind and took it as a sign of trust. I synchronized my breathing to theirs and enjoyed the sensation of holding another person in that twenty minutes of amazing trust.
Also, their little snores were adorable. I felt like a big sister. 🥰
"I’ve cuddled my share of pros and enthusiasts. I’d say the best cuddles are not adversely affected by short hops across the border into dreamland. In fact, the cuddlers who nodded off in my presence remained attuned to me and the dreamy, co-regulatory dialog that was taking place."
@MonkeyNeedsAHug That was such a beautiful description!
@1_teddybear posted: "One thing that might help deal with this issue is having the right kind of cuddle music playing. If it is too mellow, it can loll you to sleep"
Oh yes, this is why I blast Swedish death metal throughout the entirety of all my cuddles. ⚔️ Without fail, I begin the playlist with "The Hour of Torment". 🥰
~ Sunset Snuggles
🦄 Enthusiast 🏞 Travel Fiend 🐘 Animal Lover
@SweetCuddler33 no, that one fell asleep in my car and did not fart.
I see women farding all the time in their cars.
@Morpheus the thread is no longer active .. it was the thread about everyone’s thoughts on cuddlers who drink/smoke during the session.. you said a cuddler drank too many shots with you and she fell asleep in your bed .. your story went on to say that you drove her home in the end 😃 so nice of you 🤗 I don’t drink or smoke .. I don’t fall asleep with cuddlers..not a good idea.. Luckily, all of the cuddlers that fell asleep in your home/car woke up to a good person and not some creepy piglet 🐷 taking advantage of them in any way.. 🤦♀️
Oh girl, this have happened with me many times, however my slight snores wake me up and I'm all like " oh my god, I'm so sorry! Was I snoring?!" Lol! They're usually pretty cool and find it to be a compliment:) However I do warn my client I may fall asleep, if I'm feeling sleepy already from lack of sleep, but I'll do my best not to. They're always so sweet and understanding.
I try to do gentle strokes on their arms and or back( depending on the cuddle position), and have conversation here and there to keep myself awake if it is a late night cuddle sesh. Oh and I wouldn't recommend cuddling after the gym. You'll knock out super hard😅.
@Cuddlesofcuddle lol! Not the farting it up! I'd die instantly if I did that with a cuddler. 😩😅😬
I had the one pro fall asleep for hours, one pro fall asleep mommy car and 3 other pros fall asleep during the session. One insisted she was never asleep but trust me, she was asleep. I’ve seen many many pros so 5 falling asleep is a fairly small percentage.
When my cuddler falls asleep I feel a massive burst of pride and accomplishment haha When I fall asleep, I feel weird and embarrassed. Almost never happens.
@Morpheus Is there any reason you might have a nitrous oxide leak at your place?
Can't be mad at Chuck Norris, b/c he doesn't sleep, he just waits.
Thanks for the advice everyone!!!! It was well received ☺️
I feel like OP can just cuddle during the time that doesn’t conflict with her sleep schedule…
Glad to help.
If you are sleepy sleep. If you are hungry eat. If you are a talker talk. To each their own when cuddling.
As an enthusiast, falling asleep by either person isn't usually a" problem," as it's not transactional. We enthusiasts also tend to have extensively more communication and vetting before moving forward with a cuddle. The comfort level is much higher.
As a pro, you sleeping on the job wouldn't just be very unprofessional, but also wreckless and dangerous. You should be well-rested and attentive to your client, but also very alert and aware. Whether or not the client falls asleep, is on them. (But it could be dangerous for them, too.)
@starrynitecuds 💯
@TxTom - It is extremely dangerous for anyone to be farding while driving. It is probably illegal in most states.
I tend to fall asleep at a session sometimes! Lol it's hard not to! 😅
It’s so tempting to get so cozy and fall asleep but I usually try not to! I really want the sessions to be all about the other cuddler and so I do a lot of gentle stroking and back massage or head massage which definitely helps stay awake 💆
On the one hand, many clients book sessions with pros not only to be nurtured, but to give the nurturing as well. They may not have an outlet for giving of affection and comfort and so being able to lull you to sleep would be a good thing.
Yes, safety would be a concern, but I highly doubt most women here fall asleep with men they feel unsafe/do not trust, or if they do doze off it's usually very light as the nervous system is still on alert.
There is a pretty decent demand for overnight cuddles. While what that entails varies from pro to pro, it's often dinner & cuddles, bedtime cuddles, designated number hours of sleep (either together or separate), then breakfast/morning cuddles. These sorts of packages are usually heavily discounted to account for breaks, time spent apart/sleeping, etc. And usually the (genuine) clients booking them are seeking companionship and extended time cuddling that they would not otherwise be able to schedule.
Sometimes the client explicitly wants the experience of cuddling someone while sleeping - which, by the way, isn't just a romantic activity, think siblings sharing a bed, parents and children, friends sleeping over, etc. But usually overnight cuddles are vetted more strongly than others - usually repeat established clients that a pro trusts.
Folks are forgetting that when you pay a pro, you are compensating them for their time, skill, and energy - not the cuddles themselves. If you're wanting a specific amount of cuddle time, make sure you communicate that to the pro so they can accommodate your needs while meeting their own.
I had a client get super mad I took two <5 minute bathroom & water breaks during a 4 hour session - he'd expected that he'd get 4 hours of non-stop cuddling for his money and was already mad that we spent the first 10 mins talking about consent & boundaries and settling in (even though I explicitly had told him that was the plan during our consult). Apparently when a pro is booked we are no longer supposed to be human with perfectly human bodily functions.🙄🙄 He asked for a refund for half an hour at the end of the session, but since his payment technically has not yet cleared I instead offered him a half hour credit on his next session.🤷🏻♀️ He actually took me up on it and it went far better lol
I absolutely love when someone I am cuddling with falls asleep during as session, some of the time I’ll even join them in a little cuddle snooze 💤 to keep them company if it seems fitting to do so at the time or just caressing them as they remain asleep holding onto me 🤗 😴 (of course this is depending on the person and if we established our comfort on the topic in advance) !!!
~ Happy Sleep & Cuddling Everyone 🤗 ~
@huggaboo_baby LOL You're adorable!! I have multiple cuddle buddies I've stayed the night with under the pre agreed upon possibility one or both of us are gonna fall asleep. People should consider it a compliment, honestly.
If I anticipate feeling too tired to stay awake during a session, I'll likely cancel beforehand. This has happened once or twice, and I've found it important to inform my client. We've then postponed the session, and the client was genuinely appreciative of the clear communication.
Canceling well in advance is a whole different discussion! But indeed, it's only fair to mention that cancellations should be made with reasonable notice.
Awe! So many sweet cuddle stories....and a few that raised more questions than answers 🤔
As a pro, I'm absolutely fine with cuddle clients dozing off! I'll hold them and try to sync up breathing rhythm to make it as comfy and soothing as possible 🤗 And I definitely take it as a compliment that they are feeling so safe and comfy with me in that space!
I think I've dozed twice.....once on an overnight (so duh) and once when I was apparently doing too well of a job syncing up breathing with a cuddle partner who had already dozed 😂 But that's probably only because I have ADHD and it takes a bit for my brain to chill enough to sleep 😜 Even though my body is completely calm, relaxed and peaceful 😌
Happy cuddles everyone! 😎✌️☺️💯
@TeaCuddle Love your communication with your clients!
It kappens to meall the time ND NEVER BOYTHERS ME,
If it’s a non pro I don’t mind it one bit, however if it’s a pro it upsets me. Just saying.