What makes you feel the most supported?

MeadowMackenzieMeadowMackenzie
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Hi cuddlers!
I'm curious to hear what makes you feel the most safe when you cuddle with someone?
What makes you feel the most supported?
Has there been something someone did that really left a positive impact on you?
Looking forward to seeing your responses

Comments

  • Notacat1Notacat1

    What makes me feel the most safe is the steps that the cuddler takes before the cuddle session happens, and if those steps feel natural and comfortable for me. For example, if I have a video call with another cuddler before I meet them, I feel like this can be a good way to measure how we vibe together before locking anything in. That doesn’t have to be the case for every cuddler but I think there are lots of ways to support/receive support when trying to set something up.

  • Will564Will564

    I’ve only ever cuddled with a pro, so this is coming from the angle of a client. I suppose it’s true for enthusiasts as well, but ai would never expect the other person to do anything I can’t do for them too.

    As a client, for me, because cuddling is pretty emotional, a lot of it is making feel emotionally comfortable. I think one thing is being a good listener, being very supportive, and being able to adapt to a client. To know how to ask questions about what they like and what they want out of the session. To know how to take the lead (like suggest certain positions or kinds of touch) while still also taking feedback about how to change as they go along. And along the same lines, just knowing how to take what the client says and know which kinds of positions and touch serve those needs.

    I also think tone of voice helps out lot. Having a soothing, relaxing, comforting tone of voice that shows support and safety.

  • [Deleted User]MarkusPhoenix (deleted user)

    I'm curious to hear what makes you feel the most safe when you cuddle with someone?

    I need to feel a connection first not romantic, but some sort of a I see you, I hear you and a lot of that comes from the profile of the person. As well as if you say it/type it stick to it. Meeting before any session outside of the said location is always a safe and best idea especially for those with severe anxiety like myself that have trauma histories and just need to make sure everything is as expected or what to be expected

    What makes you feel the most supported?

    Making it feel more like you are present over "it's a job to be paid". Cuddling should be safe and available for everyone. Yes, we need to make money to survive in this economy, but we also need to have a basic human community where we support each other in times of need.

    Has there been something someone did that really left a positive impact on you?

    _Outside of this site and a in person experience. I went to a Tantra class to gain more exposure on what is out in the world and the feeling of my partner/s looking into my eyes when we talked, being vulnerable (nothing of this has to do with cuddling just an example), and open about different views made a huge impact that I've never felt before. _

  • CuddleHugs01234CuddleHugs01234

    I get to know them on here first. That way it’s not a cold call cuddle.

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