Hypothetically, if you somehow had the option to choose between XX or XY (before your own birth). Would you still choose to be male?
This topic is likely to go off the rails within the first dozen or so posts so I thought I would comment while it is still open.
I was raised in a traditional family in the 1970s and grew up on a small family farm in Northern Indiana. We had one horse and several cows, all of which my dad named after chain fast food restaurant sandwiches such as Big Mac, Whopper, and Big Scott.
My dad always worked at least two jobs at a time to support our family. As I was growing up he worked a union factory job and ran his own excavating business (in addition to managing the family farm).
I grew up working on the farm then working for the excavating business. I was a literal “ditch digger” which Merriam-Webster defines as “one employed at menial and usually hard physical labor”. This was a derogatory term back in the 1970s and 80s but that experience instilled a strong work ethic and respect for blue-collar workers in me that persists to this day.
The bottom line is I grew up with traditional masculine roles of being a provider and protector. I value and respect that role and if I were given a “do over” with the opportunity to choose XX or XY at birth, I would not change a thing.
I love me and I'm a man . Wouldn't change a thing. We are what we know and this is all I know .
I’m a man and I would stay a man
I don't care either way, it doesn't change anything I do.
XY/male
I would like to live in a good condition with opportunities to pursue my dreams. Male or female or any gender doesn't bother me.
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Absolutely. Helluva lot easier than being a woman.
I'm happy being who and what I am. While I've read many cool stories involving a second chance at life as the other sex ("-All You Zombies-" or "I Will Fear no Evil"), and it gives interesting food for thought, I suspect that I'd have alot of trouble adapting to such a change.
Nearest analogy that I can think of is that I'm right-handed, and if I suddenly became a southpaw, I'd have to relearn how to do a whole lot of things.
@SonoraSam How so?
Hard to say. I take a lot of pride, for lack of a better word, in being a man. Maybe just in myself. But, that doesn't mean I think it's better 🤔 I can't think of a reason/advantage besides strength. No monthly bleeding is pretty sick. But, at the risk of sounding like 'that guy', I think there's a lot of advantages to being a girl. It's healthy to not wish for a different life, but yeah. I think most guys would agree here. I'd pick male I guess, but wouldnt recommend it lol
I'm a man, please with myself. Before being a man and if i looked at who was most important, most valuable, most depended on and most needed from what I've seen an experienced id choose female. From all the selfish reasons id choose a male. But since im a man and can be all the things required im cool with who i am.
@BashfulLoner which selfish reasons?
When i think of makes i tend to think of lions, the "king" of the jungle who eats sleeps and fornicates and only defends to protect his claim to sleep, eat and fornicate...the selfish reasons. The productive part of the life belongs to the female. From a macro sense their only good for one thing.
Hypothetically, I’d choose random and see what happens. Might be interesting to live life as a female version of myself, maybe I’d make better choices, maybe worse but who knows lol
@BashfulLoner Well, I have to say women def have more purpose in society than for reproduction alone. 86% of nurses in the US are women and 74% of all teachers in the US are women. Besides reproduction, women usually do much of the raring and raising of children as well. Without women, much of the population would be uneducated savages imo.
@Minestrone101 i think you misinterpreted my entire statement, when i say productive i did not mention reproductive. Even though that is the most productive. And when i said only good for one thing i was speaking of males. Remember my statement eat, sleep and fornicate? That's the male role in the lion ecosystem. So while we agree I'm not sure how it was missed. But basically i said what you said.
@SonoraSam You got that right. I wish I had been born a man.
Well, this post is aimed at men, but I answered anyway. It’s really not my question to answer. Sorry about that..
I would not want to be a man. Too much negativity towards them lately, the whole bunch of of them are blamed for what a small percentage of bad ones do. Plus, there’s one constant distraction they seem to have - don’t know how they get anything done.
@g_w_t_w
Plus, there’s one constant distraction they seem to have - don’t know how they get anything done.
That gave me a laugh! I don't know how we get anything done either.
FWB on the side will help dudes focus on keeping their platonic cuddles platonic.
There are parts of me that think maybe being a female would have some advantages, however I'd be way too scared of being pregnant, monthly cramps, or the pain of giving birth. My pain tolerance isn't that high. 😅 Plus, I'd be way too lazy to try to regularly apply makeup, trying to look feminine, or do any of the upkeep. Hats off to women who have to go through all the things they do. However yes I am not a fan of being blamed for what a small percentage do as @g_w_t_w put it. Luckily I haven't had to personally deal with that, but it's something I'm aware of and try to avoid. I do wonder what it would be like to be a woman and having the option to easily find a cuddle enthusiast, but then again I wouldn't want to have to be worried about my safety more than I already sometimes am. So there's good and bad on both sides, but ultimately me being lazy and not wanting a lot of pain makes me glad to be a man.
@CSnMUS87 So funny, honest and sensible. And I agree!
There has nevah-evah been a time in my life that I have regretted being a man. Of course, in my teens and perhaps a bit later I tried too hard to be a MAN. However, those were learning steps in the path of life. I have liked, lusted, and loved various women over the decades however I have not ever seriously wanted to be a female (except at Halloween parties where women CAN be anything / anyone they desire for one night and get away with it ).
I very much wish I'd been born a girl. So many things would have been better. Being shy and withdrawn is creepy in a guy but cute in a girl. I would have had people reaching out to me. I could have worn whatever I liked. Stuff like that. And then there's all the things I'd have learned along the way. I don't know how to do makeup. I didn't know how to take care of my hair until I started transitioning. Sure, it's comes with icky things like periods, but it would be completely worth it, for these and other reasons.
@Unscented_Lemon I get what you mean But being shy, withdrawn and awkward as a teenage girl is not good it’s very sad and depressing and will make someone hate high school. It’s bad for anyone in that situation, boy or girl. Girls can be the meanest, most hateful in high school - the little mind games the drama It’s so much worse
@g_w_t_w No worries, I already hated high school.
I hesitated to say anything, but I was shy growing up and didn't have people reaching out to me. My experience was people/guys would reach out if you were pretty and shy. But that was just my little area in the world. But thankfully was not bullied.
Everyone has different experiences, I find it really interesting to read these and get a different perspective. In my high school it was very snobby very wealthy very advantaged kids They had a lot of confidence For those who were shy, even if they also had those same advantages, the shy personality ones were typically ignored. No one reached out. My high school is very competitive. If you weren’t outgoing and proactive, you got left behind
Whatever your skin , it fits best when you're comfortable in it
Whenever I choose to listen to talk radio I almost universally choose to listen to hosts/speakers/ guests whose views are diametrically opposed to my own so I can at least listen to their reasoning.
This thread in its own way also allows me to have a peek at the men in here that have had to face life in a totally different path than my own. From junior high thru undergrad I was one of the popular dudes: Athletic, surfer, wealthy parents IQ above my belt size, witty and blah blah. Life and women came easy (no pun)and back then I did not even think about those that found things difficult.
Just reading some of the other men’s trying times has resulted in me mentally going back in time and asking “what I’f that was me? How different would I be today.
All I can say is sorry to those that were bullied either mentally or physically.