How do you want to be approached about cuddling?

BrotherB3arBrotherB3ar
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This question is directly strictly towards the women on this platform. I've messaged a few people in my area and I've cuddled with only one, who is amazing btw, the others that I have messaged...2 were banned bc they were CLEARLY fake and scammers.. one didn't want to cuddle because of the age gap which I was totally fine with, and the rest won't really messaged me back or have messaged me once and haven't messaged again despite them being online and active in ome discussion. So my question to the women..how would you like to be approached when it involves cuddling like would you like to have a conversation through messages first, talk about interests. I'm genuinely curious

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  • [Deleted User]FriendlyFemale (deleted user)

    If someone is a paying client, I feel it is my duty to adjust to them. They wanna talk first? We talk. They wanna book straight off the bat? We book right then and jump in with both feet at the appointment.

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    @BrotherB3ar Are you addressing pros or enthusiasts? Because there's likely a big difference.

  • avilalaavilala

    As an enthusiast I like to chat first, find something in common, and build some rapport and trust before jumping in.

    Most likely everyone will have different preferences with this.

  • CuddleHugs01234CuddleHugs01234

    I’ve been both, enthusiast then pro. I do it the same way. I talk beforehand on here and get to know them first. It helps to see what their intentions are, and I don’t want to cold cuddle, meaning without knowing them a bit first.

    I do know that most (not all) pros do NOT want to have a chat first. I’ve seen them post this info. So, you could always just ask first how they want to proceed. Sometimes their profile will state it clearly. Best practice is to read it thoroughly. Some say if they just get a hi, or hey, they won’t respond. Or they get aggravated if they have clearly stated it and you didn’t read it.

  • HaaaveyoumetsamHaaaveyoumetsam

    Well it helps if I can tell they’ve read my profile. Towards the end of it, I ask them to send me their favorite song if they’ve gotten that far into reading it and it warms my heart when receive those messages with their song choice.
    It automatically lets me know that they’re serious about getting to know me and they want to cuddle.
    I love a good introduction. And most of the time, I do enjoy having a decent conversation with them before booking.
    There are times where we just get right down to business and book, but the majority of the people I see try to get to know me first.

    The one thing I don’t like at all are messages such as
    “Hey u available?”
    “Heyy”
    “ availability?”
    Or just a booking proposal with absolutely nothing sent with it (introduction).

  • starrynitecudsstarrynitecuds

    @Haaaveyoumetsam that's a great idea (about the song.) I can tell when a local guy has read my profile because they have 1-2 line 5-star karmas from (unenthusiastic) pros, but don't message me because I'm "too aggressive." (I was told that by a random guy, who messaged me that one line and then blocked me. LOL)

  • [Deleted User]FriendlyFemale (deleted user)

    @starrynitecuds I'm probably biased because I am also female, and I do not find your profile aggressive. I think it's better to state & re-state the platonic thing rather than assuming everyone read the TOS.

    @Haaaveyoumetsam I like the song idea, too. I may have to borrow that (not exactly the song) but something personal or favorite they could share with me to break the ice.

  • starrynitecudsstarrynitecuds

    @FriendlyFemale It's ok if it's aggressive, it's a vetting step. Weeds out easier.

  • [Deleted User]Fematheist (deleted user)

    I wrote an oddly specific, direct, clear profile, hoping that potential Cuddlers would read it and consider what I'd written there BEFORE messaging. Mentioning something there would be nice.

    Because I know I'm not "for everyone," I have accepted the truth that NO ONE OWES ME ANYTHING... If a person writes, cool. If he then stops, FOR WHATEVER REASON, I quietly wish him well, and move on with my happy life!

    If, FOR WHATEVER REASON, >> I << decide that I don't wish to correspond with a person any longer, I let him know that I am closing out the correspondence, and I expect that he will ALSO go on, happily, with his life..

    Hahaha... This feels "ramble-y"!! lol

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    🚫❌✋🏻 Are you available today?
    Sent with no picture no information I mean how clueless can people be?

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)

    I always ask first “you up?” And then follow up with “cuddle now?”

  • KrissiAKrissiA

    Not a fan of last second arrangements myself, especially if it’s a booking proposal with no introduction at all from someone who joined the site 5 mins ago

  • [Deleted User]FriendlyFemale (deleted user)

    @lonelytauros 🤣

  • cudbud64cudbud64

    Don’t just message “hey” if their profile is filled out.

  • IronicMaidenIronicMaiden

    My most recent exchange:

    Him: Hiiiiii
    Me: Hello.
    Him: Hiii

    If you're message me (on any platform), I expect you to initiate some sort of conversation. It's what I do when I message someone else. Just saying "hi" doesn't even make me bother to read your profile.

    And if you ask "how much" I'll just tell you to read my profile, which has no prices because I'm not a pro.

    I did message someone whose profile included specific instructions on how to start the message. Which I was grateful for, because I'm not good at first messages. I've also requested last minute sessions when poor mental health meant that being with someone for a couple hours would be helpful, but only with people who I've cuddled with before.

  • KatotaKatota

    How do you want to be approached about cuddling?

    As an Enthusiast, I would like to be approached like a human being (who exists in reality, with a an actual life outside of Cuddle Comfort) versus being approached as a measly "cuddle dispenser" fresh off a "cuddle fantasy" assembly line.🙄

    Lol! I know that's asking for too much, right?
    😉🤭😄

    I should be grateful to receive such "wonderfully effort filled" icebreakers like:

    "Hey wanna cuddle?"

    "Cuddle me"

    "Hey how much do you charge?"

    "Can you cuddle today?"

    "You're beautiful, let's cuddle."

    Lol! Yet, I'm still not grateful for receiving them...🤷‍♀️😄

    It's my own fault...Clearly!😜

    my comment is very sarcastic by the way😁

  • AlexysDanyelleAlexysDanyelle

    The initial message doesn't matter to me (so far I haven't gotten any that I have refused to respond to, I don't recall anyway). What's more important to me is what happens once I respond. I am one who likes a reciprocal conversation, expressing interests, getting to know each other. Complete phrases are wonderful. Asking and answering questions, and you know, actually responding.

    And because people have lives, I don't expect immediate answers, but if the response is over a week later and then few and far between, I don't consider that person to be serious.

  • KatotaKatota

    @Unscented_Lemon What?!😄😁

    How dare you not wanna continue the "infamously casual conversation" of 'Hi and Hello' back and forth...Lol!😄
    Why you're just being "selfish" with the cuddles over there, I tell ya what.😄😉

    And if you ask "how much" I'll just tell you to read my profile, which has no prices because I'm not a pro.

    👍👍👍

    I get a lot of 'Cuddle Pro ASSumptions' like this in my inbox as well, but yet there's nobody (and I mean NOBODY 😏) willing to cuddle for FREE here on Cuddle Comfort, right?😄😜

    Yep still being sarcastic over here!😊👍

  • KatotaKatota

    I always ask first “you up?” And then follow up with “cuddle now?”

    😄😄😄

    @lonelytauros Oh!😄
    Keep on "approaching" like that, cuz approaches like that is how you get those good warm squishy cuddles.🫂

    Lol!😄

    You're doing good! 😄👍

  • [Deleted User]DulceLuna (deleted user)
    edited June 2024

    @BrotherB3ar A direct intro is good for me. Name, what they are interested in (date, time, location) and personal picture (if they don't have one in their profile) is very much appreciated. To me that immediately gives me the sense that they are willing to stablish a level of trust. It also helps tremendously when it's clear they have read my profile as well!

    Big No nos for me are the very short one word messages like "hey", "wyd", "sup" 😒 those intros immediately feel as the conversation is not going to go far.

    And one important thing that I just got from a conversation yesterday.... please, please never ever ask someone if they are "natural". 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ I can guarantee that's not going to inspire a cuddle session in the near future!

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)

  • pmvinespmvines

    I like to be approached with a slice of pizza in one hand and a fire extinguisher in the other

  • [Deleted User]FriendlyFemale (deleted user)

    @pmvines I got skewered chicken gizzards and a tambourine. Will that work?

  • pmvinespmvines

    @FriendlyFemale
    Hot sauce ?

  • IronicMaidenIronicMaiden

    @pmvines Hot sauce always seems tasty at first, but in the end it's just fire.

  • [Deleted User]FriendlyFemale (deleted user)

    Always. Doesn't Franks Red Hot go on everything? (except tambourines)

  • PixiePassionsPixiePassions
    edited June 2024

    I require clients to at least introduce themselves. Booking requests with no message first is an automatic decline. Ideally, they say hello, their name, and something about themselves or what they're looking to experience. 🙂 Even better when they send a pic right off the bat, which I'll eventually ask for anyway.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @Unscented_Lemon
    I don't know , something about fire farts just makes me wanna cuddle though

  • biancalovecraftbiancalovecraft

    I have a template on my profile for guidance 😆
    Not everybody is a great communicator

  • [Deleted User]DulceLuna (deleted user)

    @lonelytauros 😂😂👍🏼

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