Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.
John F. Kennedy
@Morpheus And like I said, I don't take any issue with someone asking other cuddlers genuine questions as relates to their own safety, quality of experience, a cuddler's attitude/reliability etc etc
I was simply sharing my experience that every person who has sought additional information from any of my cuddlers has seemingly been seeking someone to push boundaries with, while my experience of pros sharing information has been that it relates to keeping themselves and other people safe. And although all of the assaults I've experienced (on CC and in life) have been committed by men, I never mentioned gender; I like people of all genders, I just don't like myself or anyone else being put in unsafe situations that could be prevented.
I'm also not criticising the mods who deal with these reports - they do a really tough job completely unpaid - again I'm merely sharing that unfortunately a lot of the more minor offences (asking inappropriate questions, attacking others in the forums) are easy to prove, while more serious offences are for the most part down to one person's word against another's.
If the site is not banning people after a report because its one person's word against another, that's very non-progressive.
In business terms, perhaps its also a barrier to the growth of the site. It appears to me that the site is more popular with men than with women, because its safer for men. When I've attended conscious events and this site has come up in conversation, women who were aware of the site said that it's a nice idea, but the site's not safe.
@pmvines Do you know the name of these sites and chat groups?
@Morpheus I wish you didn’t feel the need to continually defend all men - because I believe you don’t actually know all men.
I just feel like it’s hypocritical to make men out to be creepy if they ask another man about a pro yet pros are out there asking each other about clients and they aren’t labeled in a negative way. The negative blanket statements that are made about men on this site really need to stop. Good men shouldn’t have to suffer for crimes committed by bad men>
I just feel like it’s hypocritical to make men out to be creepy if they ask another man about a pro yet pros are out there asking each other about clients and they aren’t labeled in a negative way.
The negative blanket statements that are made about men on this site really need to stop. Good men shouldn’t have to suffer for crimes committed by bad men>
Just my interpretation what about what you’re saying above.
@pmvines
So you got some inappropriate messages about pro cuddlers, so now no one should ask anyone else about pro cuddlers? Or what point are you trying to make here?
@ATemporaryUser0 Yes, that has been my personal experience. No, people can ask whatever they like on here I have no ability nor desire to control that. What's your point, or are you just feeling argumentative?
I'm not comfortable with sharing any details beyond the karma I wrote.
@ATemporaryUser0 I just hope you will gain a better understanding and experience eventually from CC
I don’t cuddle and tell. I’ve been asked many times for recommendations by fellow cuddlers. I find this unsettling for many reasons. What happens in my cuddle sessions between me and the pro is our business and will stay that way. If I vibe with someone or we have a successful cuddle session, I will leave Karma. If for some reason, we don’t click, I prefer not to leave Karma vs leaving a bad one. Just my preference.
@huggaboo_baby.....Your assumption is just not true. I have formed great connections with several clients, where we message each other about new cuddlers we really liked, or asked about our experience with ones they have noticed we have written karma. Your assumption about "grown men don't like other grown men to message them" reeks of sexism, presumptuousness, and stereotyping. I have happily engaged the dozen or so "grown men" who have reached out to speak more candidly about the pro for whom I have written karma. Karma is often general, and many have specific questions. "Are her pictures accurate?" "Who do you like most?" are the most common questions I have received, as I have cuddled with so many in CA and NV, so I would tell them something the karma doesn't.....based upon what they are most interested in. Some pros are great with touch, but less so with conversation. Some like to lead, others are more comfortable following. I had one guy write saying that the pro I had recommended via karma seems to take a long time with follow up messaging......I told him I did as well, but she was well worth the wait.....so just be patient.
There are many reasons for men to message one another.....I have found that some virtual friendships have arisen, where we talk about our travels and restaurants we enjoy, all because we enjoyed cuddling with the same pros.
I hope this makes sense to you; I really didn't mean to be too contrary, I only wanted you to understand there are other perspectives.
I wanted to revisit the Pro Only Thread that, I believe, @Morpheus had mentioned. I know a Pro who shared screenshots of that thread with me when she vetted me as a possible cuddle partner. The comments posted for my real name were very negative and actually posted prior to my even creating a CC account. Therefore they were about another user with the same first name. I always give my real first name to others on CC when introducing myself and attempting to schedule. The fact that Pros could post with such ambiguity troubles me very much. But there was nothing I could do about it. Also, this was very recent so I have no reason to believe this thread is not still active and being used.