@Unscented_Lemon this isn't about @TxTom , this is entirely about you. This is obsessive behavior and concerning. Please stop hounding me because you don't like my final answer.
On the other end of the spectrum though, what’s with pros who block you if you look at their profile but don’t book them?
@starrynitecuds It was a genuine question. I like clarity, and the question you answered was not what I was trying to ask, so I clarified it. I'm sorry if you don't like that I've had experiences with him that you apparently have not.
@Morpheus They're metaphorically shooting themselves in the foot. I've been trying to find some odd, twisted way to make sense of it but I can't find one.
So what they reached out to say hi and hoping you may be interested. A shy person might like this? Much aso about nothing
@Specialist_Log
Pros are professional by definition but in practice many are far from that, in many ways. not a complaint, just an observation. There are some advantages to the interactions feel more casual and less professional. not always a bad thing, I guess. for many it's just a gig and they don't run it like the average entrepreneur out there would run a small business.
@Morpheus maybe they've heard the person is a timewaster? (Ala @TxTom brilliant chatting idea.) Maybe they don't know they can keep a note on a profile? ( @SunsetSnuggles taught me.) Maybe the blocked person doesn't fit their criteria, but keeps ending up in their search?
@starrynitecuds On this we certainly agree to agree!
@Unscented_Lemon , I don't see myself as superior to @starrynitecuds . That's why we can agree to disagree. There you go. Take it or leave it, I don't care.
@TxTom You really think that's what this is about? Why am I not surprised that you try to reduce it to this.
But I do agree that you are definitely not superior.
@starrynitecuds
maybe they've heard the person is a timewaster
I never message pros unless I’m ready to book a session so I’m definitely not a time waster.
@Morpheus Insecurity or bitterness most likely
@Morpheus I was speaking about the "collective you," not "individual you" in regards to time wasters.
I feel that (individual) you probably don't meet their qualifications, like age and marital status, if they're blocking you before even speaking with you.
Sometimes in these forums it’s best not to engage with some in here. They could be unwell, or purposefully looking for an argument and it just causes a lot of wasted typing. No ones mind is going to be changed
These conversations are hilarious. 😂
And btw, you can’t see whether someone is a pro or not on the home page. It’s just a thumbnail of their name, photo, and location. Only when you click on them does it show any pro status.
As a pro, if I reach out, my intent is to gain friends, not to solicit.
@Specialist_Log nope 👎🏼 @Morpheus thank you! ☺️👌🏼 @Andrew_1 nope 🤣👎🏼
A Pro ends up blocking a person because:
a). They keep visiting our profile many, many times without engaging... Nothing wrong with that, but it does get a little annoying after the twentieth time 🤦🏻♀️
b). They engage in conversation to "get to know you better" but then refuse to share a picture (when there's none in their profile) or continuously ask for more pictures when there's plenty provided already 🙄
c). They keep asking for availability over and over but then never follow up on confirming a session 😒
d). Unfortunately, you said something in your profile (but most likely in the forums section, where most of our true colors show!) that really rubbed them the wrong way. 😕
@SeekerinVA Are you talking about the row of pictures on the top of the home page? Because mine all have the "P" label on them.
I have been contacted several times by pros and ask about it. The pros are not allowed to reach out unless I go in and look at their page. This is first contact.
@WriterGF top, middle, and bottom.
Maybe it has to do with filters?
@DulceLuna I was speaking specifically to the situation of a single visit without booking and the pro blocks. All your mentioned reasons make sense to me, as it's not worth engaging someone who is just wasting your time.
I’m a pro and I’ve reached out to regulars to do a session with them for free but that’s only because I need to recharge myself as well. I wish guys wouldn’t feel like we’re out to get them, at least I’m not. I just want a hug from time to time
@DulceLuna #3! Definitely- although unless they were inappropriate I don’t block I just put notes in case they message at a later date and I delete.
And I don’t delete if they only requested availability one time, but if they have done it multiple times.
Also to those here who try to get ‘free virtual cuddles’ that doesn’t work if the Pro doesn’t mind chatting 😅
I don’t. If someone sends me a nice message of any sort., I am happy to respond in kind
This cuddling site for me, is iso beneficial - and I have met some amazing cuddlers and I’m thrilled to be making extra income,
But I’ve also had conversations with people I know I will most likely never meet - because I like to get to know people- just because.
I don’t get a lot of messages on here, but many that I do are from pros whose profiles I didn’t view, nor did I message them. Often they’re from a state or two away. Sure, I am willing to travel, but it boggles the mind when pros send unsolicited messages to people who live so far away. I get that it’s a business, but…
Jeez. For the record I never meant to bother anyone or solicit. I come in peace, not sales. 🤗 After reading these comments I'll be sure to wait till someone contacts me. 🫡
@Cuddlesofcuddle you can message me anytime
I try to be careful about messaging people as a professional. Just like @Cuddlesofcuddle, I too "come in peace, not sales," lol. I'm certainly not interested in being a pest. 🪲🐞🪰
@DulceLuna you are easily bothered
@Andrew_1 You're the one starting a thread dedicated to complaining about getting a message but @DulceLuna is the one who is easily bothered ?
I'd think a message in your profile would work or should mostly do the trick (which I can see you have now but don't know if you had it before).
Sometimes pros reach out to give a 'hello' or 'wave' (in few more words than that) so a checkbox wouldn't know to not block those unless you mean to block any and all pros messaging first.
My message inflow from them is far and few between and they've all been respectful in comms so i haven't had this issue. Having no picture probably doesn't make my profile the most welcoming either for wanting to reach out to.
I do not have a problem with pros messaging me. Why would it be an issue? The closest thing to advertising I ever received is “if you are in my area and need a cuddle you are welcome to contact me”. And I have in some instances.