When you were growing up…..

MorpheusMorpheus
edited June 2024 in General

Did your parents/elders curse in front of you?

I don’t remember my elders dropping F bombs but they definitely used words like dammit and shit. I never ever once used anything close to a curse word in front of my elders. To this day, I rarely curse in front of anyone.

Second question.

Did your parents/elders let you watch R rated movies?

I don’t remember my elders ever saying you can’t watch this or that. I don’t remember them ever saying close your eyes during nude scenes in movies.

Fast forward, me as a parent. As I said, I rarely curse so I rarely cursed/curse in front of my Daughter. As for movies, I would never turn on anything overly graphic or violent while my Daughter was watching but I also didn’t shelter her.

I’m just curious because my Wife and I had the exact same experience growing up. We are the same age and grew up in the same SouthEast Los Angeles neighborhood during the 70’s and 80’s.

My little Brother on the other hand who is a half Brother and grew up in Northern Louisiana, doesn’t curse in front of his kids and if you curse in front of them, he and his wife will ask you not to. They also don’t allow them to watch r rated movies.

What about all of you?

Comments

  • Katelyn_BKatelyn_B
    edited June 2024

    My parents did not allow me to watch R-rated movies as a child and they did not curse in front of me or at all as far as I could tell. Same with my grandparents.

    When my children were growing up, I did allow them to watch r-rated movies though I had to see them first and-or watch them with them. Also, I did not swear in front of my children and although my kids are adults now, I still don't, following my parent's example. Heck, I'm 60 and I still have never heard my mom swear ever.

    Oddly, when I was really active in indy pro wrestling the characters I played often were extremely vulgar in their speech, and I didn't share my work with my children. Fortunately, they didn't find wrestling cool because it was something their mom did for fun. 🙂

  • waynewvwaynewv

    My dad never did curse, maybe a dam thing or that once in a while, but my step mom would make any sailor leave the room, LOL
    I can't ever remember being told not to see any movies. I grew up during a lot of the beach movies with Annette Funicello and Frankie Avalon, OH, how I LOVED Annette, LOL
    Also a lot of motorcycle gang movies, I remember going to the movies that were R rated and was never turned away.

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    If my dad said Hells Bells we knew he was extremely angry. One time someone cut him off in traffic, he called them a bastard That was the extent of the bad words in my family

  • CuddleHugs01234CuddleHugs01234

    I don’t remember my parents cussing when I was a child (maybe one or two words here or there), and I don’t remember any movies that I was stopped from watching, but we had three tv channels. Movies and shows are much more progressive now than they were then. I do remember not liking scary movies so I removed those from my life later on. I feel like they did let me watch those, but I don’t like them.

    I don’t cuss and I don’t watch anything inappropriate for children with children. It needs to G or PG.

  • BrianOceanBrianOcean

    @ Morpheus-Great Post

    I grew up in Brooklyn in the 70's and 80's and there was a ton of cursing by Adults.

    My Mom would usually try to avoid F-Bombs but everything else was on the table.

    My uncles would frequently Drop F-Bombs in daily conversation and of course if they heard us say it we would get a smack for it.

    They were also extremely loose with R-Rated movies and graphic horror movies- Looking back it's really unbeleivable some of the things we watched as kids.

    I never let my kids watch R-Rated movies and they never were allowed to watch Graphic Horror movies.
    I just don't see the point of having that in their subconscious.

    I admittedly and sadly followed the same hypocritical style of my elders where I definitely curse too much and lecture my kids about using bad language.

    And I have remarkably answered with "Because I said so" many times when my kids ask why this or why that-

    That is one saying I despised as a kid-but once you raise your own kids- you genuinely appreciae your elders much, much, much more.

    Thanks for the opportunity to stroll down memory lane.

  • RunawaycuddlesRunawaycuddles

    My parents were extremely strict, like fanatically so, no swearing, including faux swearing like dang or shoot, or even pg13 movies for the most part.
    Each of my siblings responded a little different, my older brother seems to have followed my parents path, but as for the rest of us so far we all make it a point to be as foul mouthed and open minded as we want to be and treat language as a tool for communication, not a moral minefield to hell.
    Although we do joke that we have to swear now to make up for all that lost time 😂

  • jillyainjillyain

    My parents did not curse or drink - my moms parents did- curse and drink and smoke-
    My dads parents were non-drinkers

    My sisters and I got our mouths washed out with soap if we called each other stupid idiots
    Definitely no cursing -

    I felt like I was super bad when i listened to ‘the devil went down to Georgia’ and it said son of a bitch - 😆😂😱
    We grew up in the 70’s and 80’s as well,

    And no R rated movies

  • [Deleted User]WriterGF (deleted user)

    No and no.

  • HaaaveyoumetsamHaaaveyoumetsam

    I was raised by extremely young parents. There wasn’t a day where I didn’t hear bad words, it was extremely normal.

    As far as R Rated movies, that was what I grew up watching. They loved to show us kids the scariest movies to get us to be less afraid (did the exact opposite for me).

    We didn’t really get to be children, they weren’t a fan of anything childish. At most, I’d be able to watch cartoons with grandparents and other relatives. It wasn’t bad, but I do wish they would have been slightly more parental. 🤷🏽‍♀️

    Strangely enough, when my dad accepted Jesus into his life, he somehow forgot that’s how he raised us so even at my age of almost 30 it is hard to say stuff like “shit” or “damnit”.

  • Allen1974Allen1974

    I never heard either parent use profanity.
    My Dad did say that I was acting like a Jack Ass. Afterwards he went into a big explanation of how it was an animal and that the word was used in the Bible.
    We didn't own a television and weren't allowed to go to movies.
    No dancing. When we got older we always said you have to be carefully sex can lead to dancing.

  • starrynitecudsstarrynitecuds

    Did your parents/elders curse in front of you?

    Yes.

    Did your parents/elders let you watch R rated movies?

    Yes. Charles Bronson and Clint Eastwood movies, Halloween, Friday the 13th, The Exorcist, Carrie, I saw those films and many others when I was in the single digits.

  • KatotaKatota
    edited June 2024

    Did your parents/elders curse in front
    of you?

    Lol! Yep! All the time! 😆

    As her daughter, Mama had a PhD in Profanity throughout my entire childhood. Other elderly relatives (which are solely on my mother's side) no profanity recollection from them at all.😁

    Did your parents/elders let you watch R rated movies?

    At home with Mama, yep definitely. She refused to explain any "inappropriate scenes" that appeared on the TV to me especially "love/sex scenes". Lol!😁 If I ever asked,

    "Mama what are they doing?"

    Mama response was ALWAYS along the lines of: "Shut up with the questions or go outside and play, Katota!"

    Lol. I just stopped asking whenever those kind of scenes appeared, wasn't worth the hassle.😆

    With other elderly relatives, never was allowed to watch R-rated movies at their house. However (due to Mama not being able to afford cable off and on) one relative did record a lot of R-rated movies for me as a kid. All I had to do was provide the VHS tape and he generously would record it for me. 😁
    He passed away a few years after I graduated high school, I greatly appreciate all those HBO and Cinemax movie recordings he did for me throughout the years.😁👍

    May he keep on resting in peace.😇

  • TenderEmbracesTenderEmbraces

    Raised by a single mom. She didn't swear regularly.
    Occasionally she would go out and have drinks I remember her personality changed a bit I don't recall cursing, she may have but she would fuss a bit I was the middle child, I made a note of her behavior so before she went out with Claudia that was one of her girlfriends that last night I said to my mother" when you come back I don't want to hear all of that fussing because everytime you and Claudia go out you come back disturbing the house".(Not said verbatim but you get the gist of it)/ Well my mom returned home that night without incident sweet as cream😊.

    I received quite an education from R rated movies.
    Let's say I was raised at the drive-in. My mom would take my younger sister and I to the drive in all of the time. I stayed awake the whole double feature while my younger sister (we were 14 months and 23 days apart) fell asleep shortly after the first movie began

  • DarkSecretsDarkSecrets

    My parents were pretty lenient with movies but would always skip the naughty scenes or cover my eyes. Rarely swore but would drop the f bomb now and again. Shit was a common word.

    I have kids. Forget r rated movies. They rarely watch any tv. Maybe a couple hours a week. As for swearing then no. Not intentionally. But they may have overheard on occasion. Never directly in front of them.

  • MorpheusMorpheus

    This post made me realize that my parents cursed yet I don’t yet my daughter curses lmao

  • KatotaKatota

    My mother is hilarious at "not remembering" ALL of her profanity moments. Lol!😁 It's like the older she gets the MORE AMNESIA-Y she gets, ya know?😜
    As a mother, myself yes I have use profanity out of frustration, out of anger, out of stress/worry, out of accidents, from banging my pinky toe against something or just for the sheer f🤬k of it sometimes in front of my son...Sometimes not. Sometimes I apologize for using it in front of him and sometimes I don't. 😄

    My son has actually told me on more then 5 occasions (that I can remember Lol), he's a champ when it comes to voicing his opinions about my profane speech from time to time.😄

    "Mom, stop cussing. Don't use bad words!"

    My response, "You're right Son, I really should stop. But hang in there with Mama, cuz one day I'll be as OLD AS GRANNY with my own case of sudden 'profanity amnesia-y'."😄

    As far watching R-rated movies, my son wasn't interested in watching them for a long time. Especially horror movies, once he reached a certain age like 12 then started sneaking my movies to watch. He avoided most of my horror movie collection except for certain ones, like Christine and Carrie.
    He seems to enjoy those 2 the best!😊

  • Erin_Elle_Erin_Elle_

    My mom’s favorite curse word is still to this day “holy mackerel.”

  • cuddlefaerycuddlefaery
    edited June 2024

    My dad is a truck driver with a mouth to suit 🤣 While my mom rarely cussed, her siblings sure did/do. One of her brothers was king of inserting f-bombs in between every syllable of words in a sentence lol. Both of them were raised pretty conservatively and rebelled against that when they raised my sisters and I, so we were allowed "age appropriate" colorful language as we grew up. I actually probably cuss the least out of my whole extended family at this point - I get teased for my "jeeze louises", "darn", "shoot", and other anachronisms. I do use the NorCal "hella" of course 😅 (edit to add: one of my sisters loved to antagonize my dad by cussing him out, getting her mouth washed out with soap, then immediately doing it again. We're talking from like age 5. She's always enjoyed pushing people's buttons 🤷🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️)

    For R rated movies, mostly only after we turned 13 if we were with them or they'd pre-approved, or after we turned 16/17. We weren't crazy sheltered, but our town is fairly sheltered and very academic-centered, so we just didn't have that much time to spend growing up "too fast".

  • TheFunCartelTheFunCartel

    I grew up on military bases and half that time was war time. The Federal Government issues every soldier a lifetime supply of F-bombs and other creative taboo language. I heard it everywhere on base and all my friends were exercising their right to free speech via expletives by the first grade.

    With that being said, my mom, a devout Southern Baptist, drew the line at cussing in the house but at the same time making us read the dictionary which only encouraged me to find loopholes such as bitch which is a female dog and bastard being a fatherless son. Confronting her with these loopholes invoked a harsh introduction to the concept of intent.

  • TheNewNovelistTheNewNovelist

    Cursing arose when I did something dangerous or even potentially deadly. Sure got my attention.

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