I downloaded cuddle comfort cause of a plethora of reasons, I've been on it for a while before I was financially unstable but now I am here more cause I need some pretty pennies but Idk i've been through a lot of stupid things i dont wanna get into.
@cannyvalleygirl Is your poll targeted towards Pros only, or women only, or everyone?
I don't feel scared at all.
@cannyvalleygirl Your profile is paused so I cannot reach out to you directly. I understand being scared and yes I too have felt it. If/ when you return, please feel free to message me directly. I’d be happy to share some of what I can to help and be here for you. 😊
A lot of people have been through real trauma when it comes to relating to other people. And cuddling with strangers can be very scary for people who have been hurt.
I wish you all the best and I hope things get less scary for you. Feel free to reach out if you come back.
Yes I’ve been scared … you definitely have to follow your gut instincts. And you have to stand up for yourself a lot. I left one of my very first cuddles in bruises. The guy was huge and rough around the edges and I don’t think he meant to hurt me but he was really grabby and by that night I had big hand print grabby bruises all over my stomach and sides. I had expressed it was a lil rough but I was nervous and afraid cause he was really talk and a big guy and I was alone in a motel room with him and was definitely too scared to upset him. But I’ve been doing this for a while now and I know if this happened now I would have found my voice or got up and left.
Had to lecture another pro recently about not taking basic safety precautions especially when meeting someone for the first time. It's a risky business. Gotte vet them properly even if it means seeing less people.
I’ve never felt unsafe during a session. I’ve felt uncomfortable during the vetting process at times, but that is what it is for.
@sage91436 It has actually happened to me a few times that I have had bruises from cuddling. Most of the time I didn't feel it or notice till after even though they were pretty big/ significant..there are some pretty aggressive cuddlers out there. That being said,out of all the times this has happened I only felt as though one of them was aware of how rough he was being and took enjoyment from it. That was scary.
I believe the fear of the unknown, of who the potential cuddler may be, and what they may expect out of the cuddle (and more) is overwhelming. I'm rather tall and hefty woman, and have been in some scary moments before I became a Cuddler. My location is shared with a close friend when I go on a cuddle and I set a time that I should be checking back in with them. My bestie is quite a bit more fearful than I am for my own safety. I always laugh at her and tell her, what are they gonna do, pick me up!? I get the fear though. Not everyone is a friendly, but so many here are, or have been. Please heed others' advice here as I've found so much wisdom in maintaining safety as well as helping other cuddlers.
Maybe ask a pro near you if they want to meet up for a coffee and get some tips? I'm always on the other end but every time I wonder what it's like for a pro on their first day and admire the bravery. Just be picky .
I have anxiety about meeting even if I met someone before to cuddle. I'm never in a rush or desperately trying to force myself to cuddle with someone especially when the other party appears to want to rush into a cuddle or insist that I come to their house. I'm not a Pro. No one comes to my place. I'm good to cuddle in public spaces.
I came across her profile on August 12th, a day before she even posted this. After reading her profile, I could see she was going through a pretty tough time so I sent her 2 private messages to see if she wanted to chat about it.
I didn’t hear back from her which of course was fine but then I saw she posted this, then she jumped off the site immediately or at least paused it so I hope she’s ok…
I'll step out on a limb and say between the OP's profile picture and the verbiage "pretty pennies", this came across to me as a shot for sympathy money, much like the girls who post about losing their purse, getting locked out of their car, or losing their apartment.
I could be wrong; her profile isn't visible right now, and perhaps that would give a different perspective.
@sage91436 I cannot imagine being "cuddled" roughly enough to have bruises on my stomach and sides. That's definitely messed up. I've cuddled with big guys who held me and touched me as gently as if I were a baby chick. Size is no excuse for "accidental abuse". I'm so sorry you went through that.
@quietcuddlez 💯 about not rushing! Also love seeing another enthusiast who cuddles in public. 😊
@WestsideMarc Paused accounts are done by the mods, not the users; typically for Untagged Pro's.
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It seems to me there have been a few posts this week by people who haven't even perused the site and making general statements that aren't true. Words like "download the site" either tell me they don't know how this works ( possible) or they just making sh(t up. Saying they "applied" and was not approved ( from another thread)..... come on _____ bots! Read a little bait to be more convincing
I am new to this and still not comfortable yet being a guest or host , only public. Question for the ladies: do you ask to see a driver's license before letting a male cuddler in your home or going into his home? I can't imagine cuddling someone in my home and I have no idea what his real name is.
I'm scared to meet people here because all I get is messages like this. Wish I could afford meeting respected pros.
Do not post information about other members in the public forum. If there is an issue, please use the report feature. [JoyfulHeart]
@trixster That's embarrassing. On behalf of all much older dudes, my apologies that some in our ranks don't have the morals to not be gross.
Run. “Sexy” = non-platonic obviously? Why else describe yourself that way? After a few messages with some revealing answers to careful questions, especially if you’re really new to this, meet publicly first. Use intuition.
@g_w_t_w
“Sexy” = non-platonic obviously? Why else describe yourself that way?
Considering that he is a gentle dad, I wouldn't be worried 😅😅
And wow 28 unread in the inbox. I haven't had that many since my days as a pro.
If I were female that would creep me out. Actually, I am creeped out anyway.
That is literally the Yahoo adult chat rooms from 20+ years ago
Don’t be scared. Cuddling someone is a best feeling you ever get. It’s just love, affection and warmth. You get positive energy and vibes circulate in your body. I am sure female cuddlers and Pro here will surely guide you much better than I ever could.
I understand you want to earn some money but scared of cuddling with strangers. Try first cuddling with people who are not looking for Pros so you have friendly cuddle instead of give & take kind of one.
I will suggest you to take baby steps. Cuddle with people who have Karmas and are experienced. Read profiles. Avoid blank profile or those without photo. Meet first in public and then only if you get positive vibe from person than only go with cuddle.
I know it will be difficult to get some quick money this way but at least you will build your confidence and feel safe.
The name “trixster” can be interpreted in different ways..and not all of them are good. That could be an indication why you are getting messages like that. I stopped being a guest due to weird vibes. I only host now. I have cameras throughout my home, my bff in another state also gets my security camera notifications when someone triggers my sensors. Luckily for me, the USMC taught me a thing or two and I am a pretty skilled marksman! So if someone decides to get weird, at least I’m in my own surroundings and I feel more confident that I have a chance to get weirder with them. ❤️ Stay safe and keep ur head on a swivel
@Skittlebaggz that's such a great idea with the cameras! Good for you for taking care of yourself. That's awesome.
@trixter I think it is extremely uncalled for to post a members private message to you with their user name. A mature way to handle that would be to either decline or accept-depending on whether the request appealed to you or not. While the cuddle police may find that post to be offensive- it should NEVER be considered as dangerous or unsafe.
An Adult- messaged another Adult and requested to cuddle with them. An Adult has the free will to accept or decline- The story for ADULTS should end there rather than creating false narratives of safety issues.
While I personally would not send a message with that tone -It is really concering that some would want to vilify a person and deem him "Unsafe" or indicate he should be feared or avoided.
All members should obviously follow what ever safety protocols they find comforting and work for them.
Projecting fear and danger on others is a whole other scenario and can be harmful to everyone.
My understanding is you cannot post PMs from another member on to a forum.
Don't be scared. If I get onto your bed and cuddle you just cuddle me back and don't be asking how I got into your house.
So if someone decides to get weird, at least I’m in my own surroundings and I feel more confident that I have a chance to get weirder with them.
😁😁😁😁
@Skittlebaggz That's how I SEE hosting at my own house versus being a guest at other's houses. Excellent point!👌😁
I can definitely GET WEIRDER then the typical weirdo! Hugs, Anyone? 🤗
Just cuddle with friendly nerds