@HanShotFirst Pros are a totally different situation. As was mentioned earlier, pros are not allowed to discriminate based on age. The OP is looking for a younger enthusiast.
@lonelytauros 😂
"@HanShotFirst Pros are a totally different situation. As was mentioned earlier, pros are not allowed to discriminate based on age. The OP is looking for a younger enthusiast."
I misunderstood, in that case I have the impression that 99% of cuddling enthusiasts are probably male or abandoned accounts so wouldn't feel discouraged about no one answering. A long long time it was different but now it's all business. Not sure if this is true, but been told my multiple women that they did actually start out as enthusiasts because they genuinely loved cuddling but once the site encouraged them to charge, they did and who wouldn't if you can? And also I'd imagine you would feel much more safe if the website kept track of you and that's 1,000% a good reason. I think the idea of a female cuddling enthusiast is mostly a myth so I wouldn't look into it or think it's about age.
I think there’s some relevance to what
@TheFunCartel says
What if it’s a creepy 18 year-old?
Generally the younger the person, the less experienced, the lower the emotional intelligence. I think a grown man putting themselves in an intimate situation with a potentially emotionally immature young female, is asking for trouble.
"Generally the younger the person, the less experienced, the lower the emotional intelligence. I think a grown man putting themselves in an intimate situation with a potentially emotionally immature young female, is asking for trouble."
That's happened to me multiple times, I just don't really screen people for that I guess just because I'm fine with it, if you're grown man cuddling with someone half your age it shouldn't be a surprise
I think the idea of a female cuddling enthusiast is mostly a myth so I wouldn't look into it or think it's about age.
I can speak from personal experience, it is not a myth. I have cuddled with 7 women enthusiasts. They are generally very selective and they want to get to know you fairly well as a person before a cuddle but they absolutely do exist.
I always wonder, why? Referring to the case of an “older” man wanting to cuddle a very young woman - often half his age. And vice versa because I get contacted a lot by men who are more than 4 decades younger. I genuinely want to know reasons if anyone wants to reveal them. Or maybe this isn’t the place to answer but I’m just leaving this here anyway 👿😇
The only time I’ve heard from cuddlers expressing older men being creepy and gross is when the much older cuddler says you remind me of my daughter or granddaughter. That makes the girl wanna call the cops on you to see if you’re an abuser. Also don’t say stupid things like that, or maybe you mean it in any case you’re definitely a creep
I think some people wouldn’t admit it but they’re coming to a Cuddle site hoping to fulfill a fantasy.
I’ll admit I have met one or two that resembled a person k knew in real life that I had a crush on. :-)
The world is full of younger females that want Daddy’s and father figures. Don’t get it twisted and make it out like it’s just old guys looking for younger girls.
I would assume based on what I've seen is that most women in my area are particularly younger than i am. There are plenty of reasons why that could be, but maybe the age of men feeling the need to seek cuddles happens at an older age, or the site didn't pop up until we were older. It also could mean that younger people just want to cuddle and some younger folks don't just want to cuddle. I don't mean young people on the site i mean in the world. When i was younger and don't think i had the time to be lonely or touch deprived, dance card stayed full so to speak. But because I've matured those opportunities to fulfill that need has dwindled so i find myself here. So i think the dynamic of older cuddling younger is just what it is. If a preference is listed i can respect it, but since i don't approach any women "hey let's get our cuddle on! In an intimate fashion with less clothes on" i don't think it's creepy at all. A hello followed by conversation can't be creepy, can it? And since it has to be agreed on consensually there isn't an issue. The conversation has to be agreed on or your talking to yourself until you get blocked......
A couple of thoughts.
I am absolutely a female enthusiast. I tried the pro route, but quite honestly, I didn’t like the setup. I like to be very selective about who I choose to cuddle with. I don’t like the idea of continuing to charge repeat cuddlers that I may consider to be friends. I have a very busy full time job, and cuddling is as enjoyable for me as it is my partners. I don’t feel right about profiting from something that helps both parties’ emotional health. That’s just me. There are pros here that have done a lot of work and gained certifications and this is thier job. For that, they should be compensated. That’s just not my situation.
Also, creepy comes in all ages, orientations and genders. It’s one of the reasons I take so long to talk with folks. Granted, there have been a couple that I met fairly quickly in person, but they were absolutely stellar and respectful in their communication, without the tiniest whiff of creep.
In sum, I’d say follow the forum rules, respect the information people provide and remember your home training and you should do just fine here. Good luck! 💜
@SweetlyBlissful sound advice. Lots to unpack there so I can improve on my communication. Thanks
Well everyone can see my published age but I am 30 in my mind. That is a considerable age gap yet people still cuddle me.
Motivations for the age gap will vary person by person. I just did a quick search of women cuddlers within 50 miles of Indianapolis who have been online in the past month. There were 11 who were between 20-30 years old and 12 who were between 30-40. However, there were only 3 who were between 50-60 years old.
The majority of pros I have cuddled have been in their mid 30s. The majority of enthusiasts I have cuddled (including my regular cuddling / cycling partner) have been 50+
I think if you are respectful and just treat people nicely and within the scope of what this site is about then an age gap shouldn't be a big issue for most people. At least it hasn't been for me so far.
That said, I personally don't contact people who list an age range and gender preference that doesn't include me, but if they reach out to me, I will happily talk to them if they seem nice or I have something to say.
I have preferences too, but to prefer something shouldn't necessarily mean closing off possibilities outside of what one prefers. You never know. You might meet someone great if you let go of your preferences and preconceptions and get to know someone as an individual. 🙂
As a pro, we don't have the age range question. I cuddle anyone regardless of age, gender, race, nationality, orientation, etc. Most of my cuddles have been those older than me. 🤷♀️🫂
68 here. The women I have cuddled with are in their 20's or 30's, and 40's. The majority are in their 20s' The age gap is rarely discussed. It's who you are as a person with respect.
You may also be finding it challenging because some women do not want to cuddle with a married man.
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@WriterGF Especially, if the missus isn't aware of said spouse joining CC in the first place.☺️
It's only weird if you make it weird.
@HanShotFirst Very true! 😁👍
As a 50 something I can attest to the concept of feeling much younger at heart and in my mind, versus the age of my body. With cuddling it's all platonic and therapeutic, so age doesn't come into play IMHO.
I'm 51 years old, and 50's isn't old, for the record! I was recently approached for a cuddle session by a 38 year old. I don't consider that an age gap situation. BUT on their profile it says this: I’m also interested in cuddling with much older women too regardless of size or looks What should one do in that case? Additionally they want to travel 300+ miles to meet me.
@Auroradream Your call on that one but he sure sounds like he has an age fetish. You should probably think long and hard before accepting a booking with him.
@Auroradream someone willing to travel that far has a fetish. And I agree, you're not old.
@Auroradream Anyone wanting to drive 300+ miles to meet you is probably following your posts on the forums so I would proceed under the assumption he is reading whatever plays out on this thread.
50s is not old unless you're trying to find a job. Then you're Methuselah's older brother.
@WriterGF been there and it ain't fun.
@mpanada Welcome to the site! 😊 Thank you for the thread and mindfulness of how you are approaching this platonic cuddling thing.....
There have been a plethora of threads re this specific scenario of age gap. Although I don't know that I've read much about older women asking the question about cuddling younger men..... Hmmmmmmm I'm sure someone will help me remember the math on that.
@mpanada You are 50. Your preferred age range is 25-66
One thing to notice is that you have a 25 year age gap on the younger side re the women you would like to cuddle, but only a 16 year gap on the older side. I only say this to point out that you yourself have a bit of an issue cuddling with someone who is much older. Just something to be in inquiry about and maybe figure out the reasons why.
There have been a lot of great comments about being kind.... respectful.... thoughtful.... noticing their preferences etc. but OP said
I am definitely one who reads absolutely everything in a profile. It just happened that I looked at a bunch of profiles that did not have any preferred age present.
If there isn't a preferred age then of course you get to ask respectful questions about that. Something was mentioned about someone much younger than themeselves might have a much lower "emotional intellingence" or "life experience" and that struck me a little bit. I have been trying to formulate a response around that for a little bit.
No matter the gender, if someone is THAT much younger, what exactly is driving the cuddler to connect with them? I only ask this, because there are currently, and have been, some extremely harmful instances of people trying to GROOM those who are younger because of this lack of life experience or lack of emotional intelligence.
I take age very seriously when I'm looking at cuddling with anyone. I've cuddled with much younger and much older, but I wouldn't be able to align with saying "AGE DOESN'T MATTER." Unless someone has been very careful to check their inner intentions and integrity around the WHY, I think it might be best practice to start closer to your age until you work through some of those experiences and get yourself aquainted with the notion of platonic cuddling before you step into a new, multi layered, experience that could be problematic for everyone involved. Some have said their love of the snuggle is because
I feel at ease and that I can just sort of switch off or let my mind wander.
It would be a challenging thing if those who have an idea about how much they DON'T want to think during a snuggle, haven't addressed their inner intentions to begin with.
Re pro cuddlers and age
I'm 52. Most everyone I've cuddled with has been around half my age, just for the fact that most pro cuddlers are that age If you’re seeing pros, they are required to see clients of all ages. might be an age fetish at play
Just a gentle reminder. Pros don't have to cuddle ANY ONE EVER either... not just enthusiasts.
creepy comes in all ages, orientations and genders.
Its true that there shouldn't be discrimination, but as much emphasis that has been woven throughout this thread on this topic with all sorts of newbies asking.... it seems like a good thing to bring attention to.
Happy Monday all.... So grateful to be a part of this community.