Anyone wanting to drive 300+ miles to meet you is probably following your posts on the forums
I wouldn’t assume that. I have known a few pros who have people that will drive hundreds of miles and/or pay to have them come to them hundreds of miles away and these pros never post in the forums. There are some very lonely people with gobs of money out there as well as the creepy ones with money. This guy may not even know about the forums—there are pros that don’t know about the forums. You bring the forums up and they ask what they are.
A good example is several pros in Phoenix and California are requested to go to Las Vegas all the time. I had one in Phoenix who was leaving the next day on an all expenses paid trip to Vegas to a guy she really didn’t know. We discussed it and she changed her mind. He was going to pay her 5 times her going hourly rate ($100 was her rate) to go there for 24 hours—BUT he was asking about outfit requests, did she have any open-minded friends, and what her relationship status was. I told her to ask in the pro forums if anyone was familiar with him and she did not have a clue about the forums.
The fact that they are willing to drive 300 miles to satisfy an age fetish is the real story here. I think @Auroradream needs to either decline or do some heavy duty vetting.
My general policy is if there are flags waving that would give me pause, I just don't book. I offered the individual a virtual session to see if we were a fit. Fairly certain nothing will come of it. I do hate to jump to conclusions about someone's intention because it's my sincere hope that someone can benefit from my cuddle energy. This guy says he hasn't cuddled for a long time...what if he gets rejected repeatedly because of the way he said that about older women but he's not a fetishist, just someone who finds people their own age unrelatable, or appreciates mature cuddle providers in a perfectly wholesome way.
@Auroradream good approach. Extra steps if there's flags, but not outright jumping to conclusions. Sound advice.