9-11 Cuddles

WhiteWaterGuideWhiteWaterGuide
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I know this post is late. I want to know if anyone else looks to hug someone on or near 9-11. I would expect only people involved in it, would be affected by that date. I was a firefighter and called to go there after the tragedy.

This year on 9-11 I drove down the main road on a military base and they always line the road with flags. I was there to work. It brought me to tears, which I hid before my crew could see. It felt weird to be working that day. I can’t thank the base enough for their remembrance.

Part of me wonders how others feel. Part of me feels disrespectful to work though that day.

I also never have time to look on this site for someone to hug, but I find myself looking and never connecting with anyone, this time of year.

If you can relate, please share your experience. If you have idea how to help us working and in denial people what to do, please share. Much respect and love for everyone that is here.

Comments

  • TxTomTxTom

    Remembering the victims of that tragic day is what's important. You shouldn't feel like you're disrespecting their memory by working on that day.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @WhiteWaterGuide
    I'm so sorry for what you went through, and still go through. Big, warm hugs going out to you.

    Thank you for sharing your experience and feelings, here. I wish more people would exude that kind of courage.

    I wish I was coming from a place fit to give you practical advice, but I'm not, so I will simply offer my compassion, and encourage you or anyone who has experienced trauma and grief like this, to give counseling a shot. 🫂

    There are some posts on this topic, if you're interested:

    https://www.cuddlecomfort.com/forum/discussion/21135/in-memoriam

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🫂 Enthusiast 🌄 Travel Junkie 📸 Shutter Bug

  • WhiteWaterGuideWhiteWaterGuide

    TxTom, thank you Sir for your input. I did not think of it like that. You are correct.

  • WhiteWaterGuideWhiteWaterGuide

    SunsetSnuggles, and all who choose to way in on this. I am not on any social media. I might be responding incorrectly to everyone’s comments on this app.

    Sunset…, thank you for your hugs. I’m not sure my sharing deserves a designation of courage. I felt ashamed when they sent me back to fight wild fires, when others stayed to help. I asked to stay, but I got sent away. We had to follow orders.

    Anyone allowed to stay and are still alive, thank you for your service. I only got a moment to recover the brave’s remnants. You and the lost will never be forgotten with me. Every year my heart gets almost too heavy, but never heavy enough to carry another.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    @WhiteWaterGuide
    For what it's worth, the mountains near me in Wyoming have been burning for nearly a month now, and I am deeply grateful for firemen like you who have come here from other states to protect the national forests, the beautiful wildlife, the outlying structures, ranches, homes, livestock, pets, and of course people, in the area.

    And it is courageous to share vulnerable feelings, especially in this culture of toxic masculinity where emotions are so often shoved down and shamed. I appreciate your genuine and open post.

    As for replies, you're doing great! If you just type the @ symbol, and then immediately begin typing the username you're responding to, you can select it from a dropdown menu that will appear, and then they will get a notification that you have replied to them. 😊

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🫂 Enthusiast 🌄 Travel Junkie 📸 Shutter Bug

  • WhiteWaterGuideWhiteWaterGuide

    @SunsetSnuggles you can teach an old dog new tricks. I will never tell anyone how long it took me.

    Thank for your appreciation. At my age I get to tell others what to do, to stop the fire. This is after many years of being the most fit, and breaking my body to a point that was too far.

    I believe you are referring to the mental game that is still way overlooked. We all act tough, kinda have too. Our morbid sense of comedy, lets us survive the night. The months and years after should get a different approach.

    Hopefully more Heroes see they need professional help, or find someone to hug and hold.

  • TxTomTxTom

    "Every adversity, every failure, every heartbreak, carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit."
    ~ Napoleon Hill

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