Curvy?

Runner4Runner4
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I need some help from the community - whats “curvy”. People will list this as their body shape. Based on my expectations of the word, and pictures its not uncommon there is misalignment. So trying to figure out of “my expectations” are wrong or pictures are wrong maybe even out of date?

Looking to hear what girls think they are saying when they identify as curvy

Look to hear what guys expect.

Ideally, some women can post first. 🤗

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  • [Deleted User]YusukeU (deleted user)

    I will go first with the general responses you would get here.

    Why does body type matter for platonic cuddling this isn't a dating site.

    But my real answer to the question in any other setting there is no not reason. Yesterday I saw a profile that said overweight and she was not that by any stretch of the word in my opinion.

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    I’ve had some say that I should list myself as overweight but the majority I’ve fallen into conversation with on this topic have said that curvy is the best description for me: not overweight but thick in a lot of places. And I think it’s good to know the body type you’re cuddling because some may not want to cuddle someone that’s incredibly thin and some may not want to cuddle someone that’s larger. I don’t see anything wrong with specifying body types. I see it like what type of pillow you prefer snuggling into lol 😂

  • IneedahugortwoIneedahugortwo

    I wasn’t sure about this either, but when I wanted to list myself as overweight, I was told by several (6 different male friends) that my body type is considered curvy. Why? I really don’t know. Would also love to hear to hear people’s opinions on it.

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited October 2024

    I'm curvy in the stomach which curved outward into the shape of a kettlebell

  • Carrie_AnneCarrie_Anne

    I am not flat chested so I list as curvy.
    I also believe that it’s important to know body type for cuddling. I think facial attractiveness is less so.

  • [Deleted User]gem7 (deleted user)

    I don't pay any attention to body type. No problem with those who do but its not important to me.

  • BrianOceanBrianOcean

    @Sheena123
    ******"I’ve had some say that I should list myself as overweight"******

    What kind of a person would ever tell a woman that?

    What kind of a person would ever tell anyone that?

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    @BrianOcean a lot of people have no filter lol

  • CuddleDuncanCuddleDuncan Mod

    I puzzled over this very question a while ago. From my observations I would say that 'curvy' definitely means what it says: a woman correctly described as curvy definitely has a significant distinction between bust, waist and hips. This is most commonly associated with being technically overweight, but could be applied to healthy weight or genuinely overweight. In other words it really is more about shape than BMI.

    'Overweight' is mostly used, often by the person themselves, for people who are properly overweight, not just slightly.

    Body shape obviously does not matter for cuddling, but it's a thing a bit like age. Cuddling a 19 year old is not quite the same as cuddling somebody who is 69, and cuddling a stick insect is not quite the same as cuddling a space hopper. It's not that one or the other is better, they are just different. And yes I have cuddled with all four (from this site) and everything in between.

  • EztevezEztevez

    We have been socialized to believe that the word fat means something negative. Personally I don't mind calling myself fat, I own it. 'Curvy' just sounds more acceptable for everyone.

  • CuddlyKind7CuddlyKind7
    edited October 2024

    @Sheena123 you definitely thick. Anyone calling you overweight needs a slap. Overweight is obese.

    Said by a fellow twig lol

  • [Deleted User]jimmylee (deleted user)

    @Estevez That is great that you are secure enough in your own skin to call yourself fat, but from this guy's perspective (and based on your profile pics), you are the poster child for the use of the word "curvy."

  • Sheena123Sheena123

    @CuddlyKind7 lol 😂 thank you 🙏

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)


    This would be my ideal definition of curvy

  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon

    I've always wondered the difference too ... never was bold enough to ask though. I'm glad some was.

  • SunsetSnugglesSunsetSnuggles

    This thread may not end well, but hey...time will tell. ⏳️

    As has already been pointed out, no one is going to agree on someone else's body type, so labeling ourselves is fairly pointless.

    I imagine the Body Type option is only helpful when those who don't have a picture are approached by those who care about weight/shape.

    Anyone with a picture need not specify, because each viewer can decide for themselves.

    To me, the Curvy option would be a decidedly different shape than the Slim option. It's not about the weight, it's about the distribution. You might have a 6'2" girl who's slim and weighs the same as a 5' girl who's curvy.

    As for me, I have always listed myself as Overweight, because I was, and even after losing a significant amount of weight since my profile shot was taken, I still am.

    I also chose that option because Full-Figured would make me feel as if I was trying to put Overweight nicely, and Curvy sounds too sexy. These are simply my thoughts on using the words for myself; I don't mind anyone else using them. I just wouldn't want anyone feeling misled or having different expectations...that's why I have a body shot up, so people know what they're signing up for, from the start.

    @Runner4 posted: "Based on my expectations of the word, and pictures its not uncommon there is misalignment."

    This will always be the case, since as mentioned above, no one will ever agree on someone's body type.

    To use an extreme example, a girl with anorexia might weigh 80 pounds and still believe she is overweight.

    But overall, humanity is never going to see these words the same way, as people have very subjective views, varying levels of body acceptance, different cultural norms, attraction to different sizes and shapes, and different reactions to these descriptors.

    ~ Sunset Snuggles

    🫂 Enthusiast 🌄 Travel Junkie 📸 Shutter Bug

  • Katelyn_BKatelyn_B
    edited October 2024

    This brings up something I chuckled over when I first joined and it asked me for "body type." I'm obese (barely) as the medical community defines it, but also for a 60 year old woman probably extremely athletic. I figured that the system was asking for visuals and in particular referencing the male gaze. I say this because my body type has never come up for the women I've cuddled with in life, just men; not criticizing just stating how I see it.

    So, being extremely comfortable in my body, I put "overweight" and didn't worry about it. :)

  • JoyfulHeartJoyfulHeart

    The medical community labels me as being too short for my weight, but my feet reach the whole way to the ground, and that's good enough for me.

  • GuyverGordonGuyverGordon

    @JoyfulHeart Same here

  • ReltvlyCanshesReltvlyCanshes
    edited October 2024

    I'd never describe someone to their face unless asked and even then I'd long pause. The terms used thick, curvy, overweight, skin not and thin are all relative. Each person sees themselves a way and it's heavily influenced by others, i believe. I used to think of myself as chuff, ( a little but chubby a little bit buff) I've lost a good amount of weight but I'm not skinny. I'd be pushing it if i wore a large shirt but I'm not sure an XL is my size either. I feel like a little dude now not sure I'm comfortable with it.

    Woman's weight and size is very deceiving to me, I'd never know the weight and based on the clothes i don't think i could really see them the same from day to day.

    I think the ratio from measurement is how you get to curvy. I've seen a lot of women I'd think were small be very curvy, again based on bust to waist to hips.

    Thickness is a whole different thing. Thighs and bust are the determining factor for me. I'd also offer overweight is basically the amount of size in the mid section.

    I said all that to say, you all look great. I think a slim woman can be just as enjoyable as a thicker woman, different but a good experience. Speaking platonically and respectfully, of course.

  • kleenkleen

    I think the wording can definitely be defined differently to each person, that’s why I think it’s important to show a full body pics on your profile as well as close ups. I think I meet the definition of curvy, but definitely understand if others see me differently 🤷🏼‍♀️!

  • achetocuddleachetocuddle

    I am old-school and old so I associate curvy with being very filled-out in a good way. I believe curvy may be used now, at least IRL, as a polite way to say overweight sometimes. I've definitely seen some people describe themselves as curvy when I would not. I think some intentionally misrepresent themselves and some people really feel they are the "definition" of curvy. Humans as a group can be very subjective (too subjective sometimes) when describing their insides or outsides.

    And I've seen some very overweight people who still had their curves thanks to good genes or something. Lucky them :)

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)

    @kleen you get my vote for curvy

  • SoosonSooson

    @lonelytauros i think it's a Little red riding hood/Santa combo

  • [Deleted User]jimmylee (deleted user)

    @kleen Curvy? Nailed it!

  • [Deleted User]jimmylee (deleted user)

    It's interesting that this topic has come up today. I saw a new profile today (I don't recall if it was a pro or an enthusiast) who had pictures as part of her profile. Personally, I would have said she was curvy as most of us have defined it here on this thread, though others might have said "overweight" (she isn't). That said, she had her Body Type listed as "Fit." More power to you.

  • CentralFLCuddleCentralFLCuddle

    To me, curvy equals voluptuous. Basically, an hourglass figure. Thick would be a pear shape. Both of those would apply to women in my mind. And overweight could be men or women who are “larger” (to be read as “fat”). I’ve called myself overweight/fat before, but anyone I tell that to says that I’m more curvy than overweight/fat (and these are folks who give honest opinions, so weren’t trying to spare my feelings).

  • SoosonSooson

    Do you guys think Sister Skinny is curvy?

  • [Deleted User]MaverickLegend (deleted user)

    @Sooson she looks delicious! Haha jk lol 😂

  • kleenkleen

    😂 thanks y’all- yes it was a Mrs. Claus outfit for school 🤶🏼

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