Are Male Pro Cudders Successful?

Dreamy_SweetieDreamy_Sweetie
in Pro Cuddling

Hello!
I have a couple of male friends who are interested in being pro cuddlers, but there don’t seem to be many males doing this. It makes me think that they aren’t nearly as successful as female ones.
Do males have much success on here?
Thank you!
~Sweetie

Comments

  • pmvinespmvines

    The consensus is that non males on here become very inundated with men messaging them to cuddle so I would think there is not as much demand as it is much easier for a woman to find a cuddler than for a man. Supply and demand. However I would say that if they are open to cuddling men, there is more likely a market than cuddling women only.

  • [Deleted User]grumpcat (deleted user)
    edited June 2018

    @pmvines I dont think thats entirely correct. I would honestly pay for male cuddling if they could get the karma/feedback that showed they are non threatening / wouldn't push for more etc. The niche for male pros IMO is a 'safe' male cuddler who concentrates on the other persons needs.

    It would take a lot more to convince me that it was safe and that they understood what it means to concentrate only on the other person though.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @grumpcat I am glad to hear that you would be open to that. But that is unfortunately the minority for most male cuddlers. At least from what I hear, as I don't actually know any or speak to them however I know they exist on here. Perhaps one will see this thread and comment...

    Re having the karma and being able to be trusted and safe and stay focused on you as the client, the same could be said for non paid cuddlers too as I know there are many (myself being one) who have good karma from varying sources and provide great experiences for the other person. However I can see how with the instances of boundary pushing and lack of respect given at times, a paid cuddler might be more of a safe bet. Particularly if you are uncertain of how comfortable you are with it.

  • [Deleted User]grumpcat (deleted user)

    @pmvines

    While its true that it could be the same with a non pro male cuddler, I think the comfort from knowing that due to the financial arrangement I will get what im looking for and dont need to worry about if things will suddenly change up.

    But I think thats an argument for pro vs standard cuddler overall.

  • pmvinespmvines

    @grumpcat True, different strokes I suppose. So long as you are happy with the situation is all that is important !

  • [Deleted User]lilredmage (deleted user)

    The fact that you don't see any male professionals on these forums or on this site for that matter should answer your question. :) But hey, have them give it try! I would be really interested to hear what their experiences are.

  • RobVRobV

    I would love to give it a shot being a male pro. The idea of being empathic enough to do this 20-30 hours a week is really appealing, even though I like my day job. I think it might be emotionally wearing to give of yourself day in and day out to make it work financially.

  • pmvinespmvines
    edited June 2018

    I know there are some paid cuddlers on here who are males, however as often as I hear men on here say how hard it is to find someone to cuddle with them for free, I cant imagine the level of difficulty with finding someone to pay them for it.

  • RCasey690RCasey690

    Honestly I think the only way a male would be successful in something like this would be if he was open to cuddling other men. The same with being a sex worker.

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    Well considering if you're a pro, you are not allowed to discriminate, including by gender, if you are a male who wants to be a pro, you absolutely need to be ok cuddling other men.

  • respectfulrespectful

    @ubergigglefritz But it's still the pro's choice who they want to cuddle; there are male pros here who only cuddle women (23 of them in these stats).

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    So we're allowed to discriminate? I thought one of the qualifications for being a pro is that you are not allowed to discriminate who to cuddle with? I would think the only reasons allowed for not cuddling someone would be a safety related concern.

  • [Deleted User]chococuddles (deleted user)

    You are correct @ubergigglefritz.

    Besides age, race, height and looks, the only other reason a pro would choose not to cuddle with someone is due to safety-related concerns.

    You're one of the good ones, ubergiggs.

  • respectfulrespectful
    edited June 2018

    @ubergigglefritz Not meaning discrimination, just preference. As the become a pro page says:

    "Our members directly approach you through our website and it's your choice who you accept with no pressure from us."

    I would take the "no discrimination" clause as meaning a general attitude, not that pros don't have a choice who to cuddle.

    I think it wouldn't be right for male pros to be obligated to cuddle men if they didn't want to; it's their decision.

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    Disagree, but I guess that's just liberty in action, and as a Libertarian, I have to allow it, in hopes that the market will speak their own preference to eliminate those who discriminate :-/ I 100% disagree with that notion personally. I think if you are not comfortable cuddling anyone who is respectful, then you should not be a pro, as for me, that is part of being a "professional". Can you be a doctor, but have a "preference" for not treating people of a certain religion? Or be a psychologist who will only treat women? Or be a masseuse who only takes clients under a certain weight?

  • mellowmellow

    All that sounds very nice and according to the rules, etc, etc but in reality there are a lot of pros that if they don’t discriminate then they are VERY discriminating as to whom they see and whom they do not.
    I speak from personal experience and also the numerous threads where members of the site contact pros and they don’t get a response. I’m sure is not because they’re so busy they can’t respond but more likely the people contacting them are outside of their preference for cuddle clients based on age, race, etc
    Just because a few people adhere to the rules doesn’t mean everybody does and last but not least the amount of people that actually read and participate in the forums is a tiny fraction of the amount of actual members of the site.
    Let’s also not forget the unspoken rule that if you don’t get a response from a member pro or not pro just move on. So they can be as discriminating as they want and as long as they don’t respond with a reason that might warrant a report they’re in the clear.
    All that I’ve said also applies to males so they can also be discriminating as long as they don’t respond because the same considerations afforded to female pros should be given to male pros.

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    I know people do discriminate. I just don't think they should, if they are a pro. If you are not a pro, you can discriminate all you want. Anyway, I wish I could cuddle all the people on here who can't find a pro who will respond. Nearly all of the ones complaining of this issue seem perfectly fine to me for cuddles O:-)

  • cuddlesfordays1cuddlesfordays1
    edited June 2018

    I messaged all the male pros within 100 miles from me because I had a male friend that was considering becoming a pro and they responded with a resounding no. Plus they have to pay a monthly membership.

  • quietman775quietman775

    @cuddlesfordays1 You raise a good point. The different pricing models for male and female pros would itself seem to be a kind of gender-based discrimination. Female pros share revenue with the site, while males pay a flat fee. That means an inactive female pro pays nothing to be inactive while a male pro pays each month even if he never gets a client. @ubergigglefritz if I were a pro, maybe that's how I'd handle the required nondiscrimination by gender: female clients could pay me $60 per hour, and I'd charge males $350/hr. ;-) [Edit: Relax, just kidding: I know no women are going to pay me $60/hour...]

  • [Deleted User]grumpcat (deleted user)

    Wait, how does this site get away with that, thats a lawsuit waiting to happen, its clearly sex discrimination?

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    I wish I could pay a monthly fee instead of the 15%. Definitely encourages marketing elsewhere instead of being motivated to build this site more O:-) It's Mark's decision. I just think there are more effects of that decision beyond financial gain per pro per session. I think a combination of the two would be able to accommodate a wider variety of pros. Good for those starting out, but then once a pro builds up enough, they're not being pushed elsewhere... :-/ But that's another topic...

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    @quietman775 I didn't even think about that, but yeah, how do you charge differently depending on your gender? Is there another example of that somewhere else?

  • ubergigglefritzubergigglefritz

    *I mean in reference to the site fees, not your exaggerated example as a male pro

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