I often feel fear somatically, even if I'm not thinking about anything. Sometimes I'm able to still feel peace, even while the fear is burning. And that's a big step for me. I may not be able to get myself to feeling peaceful, but I can usually feel peaceful about not feeling peaceful.
It works with things like sadness and heartbreak too.
I know it sounds weird, but it works for me. Sometimes the only thing I can accept is that I can't accept something. And when I'm able to do that, there is some measure of peace in me. And I can build upon, or settle in to, that.
I just want someone here to know that being vicious, attacking others with words for no other reason than to pump themselves up can cause a lot of pain. I have learning differences in that anything disruptive to me visually completely sidelines my brain. I can only learn visually. That’s why I’m an artist and not successful in another field as most of you are here. Nothing I hear sticks. I can’t remember anything unless I see it. So yes I feel a disruption in thinking when there are written errors. And shame on me but I’m admitting it. I’m also at a point where I can’t earn a living so you all should be grateful for your youth. Don’t waste it being cruel. I only want peace in my life. Many people here have commented about not feeling safe on a cuddle site. Some have such low self esteem that they go to a lot of trouble to hurt others in order to feel better about themselves. Yes, you know who I’m talking about. It’s really sad. I apologize if I’ve ever harmed anyone here with words but if anything, I just want people to realize that they have power over their own behavior. And also to set a good example, but we’re not ever able to control others. Hateful attacks only are a bad reflection on the attacker. Let’s try to keep them from bringing us down. I know that the ones who lash out the hardest are probably the ones hurting the most. Again, read , write, compose in whatever manner is comfortable to you. You may be understood or not.
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I have learning differences in that anything disruptive to me visually completely sidelines my brain. I can only learn visually.
I have a minor in Instructional Design (it comes in very handy in my consulting work as there is often a thin, blurry line between consulting and teaching).
I am one of the approximately 30% of American adults who are classified as “auditory learners” as I process and retain information best from hearing it. That tends to make me sensitive to noise when I learning. About 65% of American adults are classified as visual learners meaning they process and retain information best from what they take in from reading. The remaining 5% are classified as Kinesthetic learners who learn best by “doing” rather than reading or listening.
Everyone learns through a blend of all 3 methods, it is just a matter of which method is dominant for any given person. What you described about getting distracted by non-conformance to long established standards of written communication is relatively common among people who are strong visual learners (as opposed to other people that are more of a blend of learning styles).
What you said about visual distractions in written communication is really no different in kind than someone who has a bad reaction to certain smells that don’t bother most people. Nobody (especially on CC) would tell someone who has an adverse reaction to a certain perfume or cologne to “just get over it” or that they were being “too sensitive” or “too demanding.”
You do not need to apologize for anything. There was no malice or bad intent in your post saying you found something distracting, you were simply sharing your perspective. People who attack you over that are the ones who should be apologizing.
Being left alone by other people. The "get off my lawn" kind of being left alone.
@JohnR1972 Thanks for that explanation and a good analogy. I also have synesthesia which definitely helps my visual learning and memory. I’ve always been envious of auditory learners!